Changing Bridesmaids

Be careful. What you're suggesting to do might alter friendship forever.

Don't terminate them. Ask if they are still available to be BM. Leave it up to them to step down. If you do ask the other girls, be prepared for them to say no. I had a friend ask me in a similar situation and I declined.

As others have mentioned, demoting a BM is more often than not a friendship-ending move. I also want to add, just so it's clear, that the only expectation of your bridal party is to get the dress and show up wearing it. Anything else is nice, but not required. Try to remember why you chose them to begin with and focus on that.

This is why you wait until about 8-10 months before the wedding to choose your bridal party.

I wouldn't ask them to just come as guests. You're risking ruining a friendship. I personally would just deal with it. What really do you need them to do? They can't come to your bachelorette party? Oh well, their loss. As long as they show up on your wedding day and stand beside you, that is their only job.

I do understand not wanting people that are that close with you in your wedding photos forever, but that's why you wait to pick.

You should not ever "change bridesmaids." If there are other girls that you want to ask to be in your wedding, then ask them. Your sides don't have to be even with your FH. But you should never replace a bridesmaid. Demoting a bridesmaid is a friendship ending move and then replacing her is just rude to both friends. It sucks that your friends aren't talking to you, but them may be upset about something, feel like you are asking too much of them, feel like you care more about your wedding then your friendships, or just be busy. I would just ask them if they are still available to be a bridesmaid. That way, it still sounds like you want them in it, but you are giving them an out if they want it.

I'm sorry that is happening to you

It would be rude and hurtful to ever take back an invitation to be in the wedding party. I know it's hard but focus on the good things that are happening and don't let their lack of communication rain on your parade.

Nope, you made your choice and you need to stick with it. If they don't show up, you have uneven sides. You don't ask replacements. That is rude. I'm sorry about your friends losing touch but friendships do change, inevitably. Good luck with your planning!

Everyone else kind of covered it, but I feel like it's worth mentioning that I was a BM in a wedding a couple years back and I was only asked to be in her BP (wasn't even a guest before) because she "fired" another BM. at the time I was just excited to be involved, but looking back on it I feel like I was a B-listed friend, and that's really shitty.

Choose wisely, OP

Wow, I thought I was the only one that was having an issue in this area.

So I created a group message through FB messenger because I figured it would be easier to get ahold of everyone and to share pictures of my ideas. Started off great, but now a few of the girls have been MIA. They read the messages but never respond. I have been asking them about hair and make up for 3 weeks now. I have a total of 6 girls and only two of them have made a deposit, the others continue to ignore me. Including the MOH. She has been the one to complain the most about the cost of things. 😣😢

I dont know what to do. I am not having the best experience here. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.