"Capture the bride"

I've never heard of this before - can you give more details?

Do the guests pay to dance with you?

Yes, the honeymoon dance they pay the MOH or the best man and then they get to dance with you. And when they capture the bride the guests pay a "ransom" to get you back. We had planned on going to the bar down town having a beer and coming back.

Wow...

I don't think this is a good idea.

Apparently its really popular in Romania to have the bride stolen.

Welcome Shawandra! I've never heard of this either!

Maybe it is just our town... The few weddings I went to that's what they did when they captured the bride and did the dance. I just cant decide if its too much, I think I need to stick with one. I'm good with simple things and both of these take forever to do..

I'm confused... would they be paying twice? Once to dance with you, and then again to have you "returned"?

I've never heard of this. It sounds a bit excessive.

A few of my German friends have done this. Unless it's common among your circle you'll have some confused guests.

Yes it is a cultural thing (I don't remember which one tho.lol)

If it's something your family usually does at weddings, go for it. If none of your guests have seen it done before, they might think it's a little strange.

GERMAN! lol (Thanks Carrie!)

That's what I was asking, is if it was too much. I don't like this to be confusing but so many people have given me there input I cant decide which one to do. But ya that is the point of it I guess. I've never been married before so I really didn't know much about these except what I saw with friends weddings. Technically they wouldn't pay twice because they would steal me in the middle of dancing. But it sounds more and more like a headache everytime I think about it! I just need to pick one!

This sounds like the Dollar Dance?

As in, instead of them "kidnapping" or "capturing" you, during the reception, your guest will pay your MOH or BM to dance with you?

Yes! Sometimes it is called the dollar dance!

I would just do one or the other. The day goes SO fast, there were some people that I never even spoke to, so was wishing I had more time. You might not like leaving in the middle of the party because you would be missing part of it. I would say to do the dollar dance only, if you need a fundraiser.

WHEW OK! HAHAH! The kidnapping and ransom part kinda sounded scary! I've seen it done. My fiance's twin did it in theirs. I'm not against it, but I personally won't pay. Lots of family members did though. Since it was my first time seeing it, I thought it was a little strange, but I've seen stranger customs at other weddings.

Yeah, so your wedding is not a capture the flag game. Unless it's a cultural thing & family is pressuring you into doing it, I wouldnt. Just sounds silly for a wedding.

Haha out the window! I guess I should have clarified that to begin with huh! Thank you Courtney! I mean we don't really need the fundraiser, but a lot of people have been asking which one were going to do or are we doing both or what ever so then I really had to think about it.... my only thing with that is I don't want to dance with everyone really haha! Maybe ill limit it to like 2 songs....

It's just something that a lot of people around here do. It may sound stupid but a lot of people enjoy it

In upstate PA, my Polish sis-in-law's family did a dollar dance. Then the men gathered in a circle around the bride. My brother had to break through the circle to "rescue" her. But the men did not take her from the reception hall and there was no ransom.