Can't please everyone...UGH!

I agree with May 27th, 2017.

You both need some serious time together and for him to readjust and for you to feel out the relationship as a couple. You're diving in head first in the wrong way.

Agreeing with everyone, esp. JennB. It seems like you've already made up your mind, but what 's the harm in waiting? Or, maybe you can get the license on May 27th and have the ceremony later (I believe, depending on the state, you have 60 days). That will at least give him time to adjust.

I also can't imagine my mom and sister not being there. I actually insisted we find a date to accommodate FH's brother who is going to school out of state. Family should be there, especially if they are as close as you say you are with your mom and sister. To me, that is not even a question. Lots of people pick weekdays because of budgets, but that doesn't seem to be your concern. You will be thinking about your wedding for years to come - do you want to remember it without your family?

If you lived together before without being married then why can't you do the same now? Or find a place for him to live and get adjusted to life before starting a new one?

Your life, your business.

It doesn't matter whether she understands or not. It's the day you've chosen and the ball is no in their court. They can be on time, show up late, or not come at all. All up to them.

I wouldn'twant my wedding day to be about anything except our love. If FH was ever in prison, I would want the day he gets out to be about celebrating his release and just spending time with him after so long. I think the ladies posting here have great advice/things for you to think about. Ultimately it is up to you, but don't feel like you have to do everything in one day. I fear you won't get to fully enjoy his release or your wedding if both are the same day.

How are you getting him from prison if you don't drive? How will you get FROM prison to the court house for the license? County offices usually close at 4 or 5. Do you live so close to the prison that you can get from there to the office and home in time for a wedding?

Go back to lurking? You do not want to do that! The best support group you could hope for is right here with these ladies. they do not know you and they care. You would be foolish to give that up! Just saying....

OP - please answer the PPs questions. We are truly concerned with the timeline and overall logistics (of the planning process and the day of the wedding). Also I'm concerned that Friday will be an early day for the courts and they will close early since it's right before the holidays. Have you looked into this yet?

I also have to state that timing is different for everyone. My parents only knew each other for 4 months before they got married. (They were both previously married and met each other after they were divorced). They are still happily married (it's been about 28.5 years). Then there is FH and me -- we will be together for 11 years when we get married (but we have known each other for 12 by then). Again, timing is different for different people.

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Everyone's given you great advice. It's not about his past. It's about living in lala land where time moves slow and things work out perfectly. There are a million things that could go wrong in this scenario and adding the stress of getting married on the same day just makes it worse.

If your mom & sister are VIPs and you want them there, change the date. If you don't care if they're there or not, then who cares? But you can't have both.

I would change the date and focus on reintroducing your fiance back into society. Have some romantic alone time and worry about getting married later. What's the rush?

You say he's been in prison for 19 or the 23 months you've been together, which means you haven't really had time to know each other and establish routines and such. I just don't see the harm in waiting and getting to know each other outside of the steel bars. Wedding days are stressful, busy, & crazy enough under the best of circumstances. It must be sensory overload to have to go through all that after spending two years in prison. You're gonna do what you're gonna do, and I wish you well. But, it really seems you are rushing into this.

I think all of these girls here have given valid advice and help. There are a lot of logistical things that I don't think you have thought out completely.

My best friend made a few bad decisions in his younger years and was on probation. He made one bad decision while on probation and ended up serving a total of 19 months on a 21 month sentence. The last 2 months of his sentence, the date changed 5 times. We did not know the actual date and time until literally 1 week from his release. Then, he was schedule to be released first at 8 am so we were sitting in the parking lot at 6:30(we live over 5 hours from where he was incarcerated). They didn't release him until 10 am, luckily, I made sure the whole day was clear so we could do whatever he wanted.

You have to understand there are a lot of things that have to be accomplished especially within the first 48 hours of a felon being released. I'm not positive but I know that in the State of Florida, I had to take my best friend to register as a felon and get a new ID issued. Depending on if he will be on parole, he will have to meet with his parole officer too.

Also, just like @Stephanie said, how are you going to pick him up from prison if you don't drive?

OP, please respond to us, we are just here trying to support you and provide solid advice.