Cancelling wedding

Am so sorry hun.God have a plan for you and Precious baby stay strong

Hugs and love from all of us. Agree with PPs re cancellations and getting the attorney for support for you and your baby bean. You got this hun! This too shall pass and all that You're stronger than you think and we're here for you too. Hugs and love, hugs and love.

As bad as this is, remember the little one inside you. I'm so very sorry you have to go through this. Rely on family and close friends to pull you through this and help out with contacting venue/vendors. Try to minimize your stress level for the sake of the baby.

Junk punch him! HARD!!! Okay.... did you laugh? I hope so. I'm sorry. I hope you're getting your support for you and your soon-to-be-baby. Take care.

OP: I wasn't planning a wedding but my ex and I were together for two years. When I found out I was pregnant he was happy at first. But by the time I was 10 weeks he decided he didn't want to be a dad. It was so hard. But honestly now 6 years later I have a wonderful son & I know that experience made me stronger. Looking back he did me a favor because now I met my fiancé who loves my son as his own and who I don't have to question loves me. There will be rough days ahead and it won't be easy but it'll be so worth it when you have that baby in your arms! I'm so sorry

OP, I'm among those without any advice to offer but I'm sending you electronic hugs! I am beyond sorry to you :'( please stay strong!

So sorry to hear this. Consult a good lawyer to figure out the future for you and your baby. All you can do is ask the vendors what to do. And the guest...they don't need to know all your business so just tell them something came up. In the meantime grab some ice cream and a good movie. It will get easier...not today not tomorrow maybe not for a while but you will get through it. Have yall thought a out going to talk to someone that could give yall some advice on where to go from here

OOps. Just saw OP's update.

This is horrible. I can't imagine what you are going through right now. I hope everything works out for you and you find someone who deserves you and your child. Until then, just know you are better off without someone toxic like that in your life.

Prayers for you and baby! Take comfort in your friends and family. It is better to do this now than later, either way hard!

Good thoughts, prayers, and hugs to you! Stay strong! You will figure this out and be fine.

I'm so sorry. I wish I could say something to make you feel better!

I'm so sorry, sweetie. Please be sure to take care of yourself and the baby during this stressful time. And I agree... try to get the help of your mother or maybe moh for the cancellation of the venue etc. best wishes xoxoxoox

You are so strong and your baby will be so loved and look up to you one day for making this very brave decision to put you two first in the midst of heartache. Best wishes.

ETA double post

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I second what other posters have said for the next steps to take

eta saw your update and I am glad that you are on good terms but I think you still need to look out for yourself since things can change quickly. I think it is a wonderful idea to change the venue from a wedding to a baby shower. I also like the suggestions to see if the photographer is willing to still photograph the shower and maybe add a maternity or newborn shoot since it will be less hours.

I'm really sorry that you have to go through this however, I live and stand by the motto "everything happens for a reason." I can't understand your hurt but if one good thing comes out of this relationship, it's your child. How exciting! I wish you all the best. You will get through this

Like everyone else, I feel concern for you and what you're going through. You sound very committed to your pregnancy, so take very good care of yourself, and use your support system. People aren't just being kind when they ask you what they can do -- they really want to help you.

Secondly, if there are calls that need to be made, he should be taking on some of that burden. If there are vendors who insist on being paid, half (if not more) of that money should come from him. While I know you're still very emotional, know that what you do and say now, in the early days, will matter later. Have him give you commitments, in writing, about his obligations to your combined creditors, your landlord/lender, any co-pays related to your prenatal care, and how he intends to contribute to the financial wellness of his child (find out, in your state, what the mandated percentage of his income goes to child support -- and make sure he honors that. "I'll help out", isn't good enough).

I disagree with the poster who suggested counseling with the idea that this may be a case of needing to rekindle the romance. IMO, that is very naive approach to this type of situation. Why would anyone feel the need to forgive someone (let alone rekindle the romance) who has probably been considering this separation for a while, didn't tell you, and still conceived a child with you seven weeks ago? His behavior is offensive -- too offensive. On the other hand, counseling for yourself may be a great idea. Give it some time, and if you need a place to clear your head, then see a therapist.

My best wishes are yours. Please keep us updated on how you're doing. We're only a click away.

I honestly think that he's going through some sort of a mid life crisis before he hit 25, if that makes sense. He went from being perfectly fine Friday night and Saturday morning to half way through Saturday saying he was thinking a lot and didn't want to put me down and he feels like he was ruining my life. Also that he feels like he's not the person he should be. It was all extremely random. I didn't even know how to react. Then last night he agreed to calling off the wedding and taking a break to figure things out then this morning he said he doesn't love me like he used to.

It's like he's being extremely bipolar. He has really bad what we call tension headaches. I say what we call because doctors don't do anything for headaches half the time. They're so bad he can't function and it's the only time I've ever seen him cry. He said they're getting worse so I'm thinking he has a lot of stress on himself.

Either way, we are going to try and end our relationship on a good note so we can co-parent in a friendly manner. Of course I know things will change once the baby is born but I would rather at least be a little positive about things working out for the better. We're supposed to sit down tomorrow and figure out money and bills so hopefully that goes good.

Also, I already have an amazon baby registry because I'm a freak and love baby stuff. Of course, it's nothing gender specific but I add stuff to it when I find something I like. It's strange but it makes me happy. I'm going to the doctor again tomorrow for an ultrasound and I'm super excited although the baby is the size of a blueberry right now.

After going through a pretty bad breakup myself, I know you can be blindsided initially, but even if he was fine this past weekend, this is probably been brewing in his mind for a while. I'm so sorry. This is tough. Time will help. I was raised by a single mother and I promise you it can be done. I love my mother more than anything and we have an incredibly strong bond from all the years of being a family of two.

Sending prayers and positive vibes your way. Just to repeat other PPs and say, contact an attorney and ask your friends or family to make calls on your behalf. You could also do an email. I'm so sorry this happened to you, but there is something and someone better in your future!