Cancelling wedding

OP I am so sorry. PP has given great advice on where to start. I am sending positive vibes and virtual hugs all the way to you!

Oh boy, I'm so very sorry this is happening. I would start making calls and try to get at least some of your deposits back. Maybe you can have a close friend/family member help you make the calls. Take this a blessing, better to be happen now than down the road after marriage. Try to keep your head up and this to shall pass.

So sorry to here this OP. I recommend leaning on your support system and having them help with the cancellations. I hate to be "that guy" but it is better to have happened now than after you were married and have it be 1000 times more complicated for you. Focus on yourself and your little peanut. Sending hugs and good vibes your way

My heart breaks for you. You deserve much better then that. Hugs to you!

Oh no. I'm very, very sorry to hear this. You are a beautiful person who deserves happiness, and you will find it.

Sending hugs! I'm so sorry this happened to you. Is your family able to help you during such a difficult time?

Wishing for the best for you!

I'm so sorry!

I'm so sorry! Please don't go through this alone. Any family and friends that can help, let them in. What an asshole move on his part. You must be feeling every emotion right now. Anger, disappointment, embarrassment, sadness. As bad as it hurts this happened BEFORE the wedding which is a silver lining in itself. Take care of yourself and baby!

I know it sucks right now but one positive thing is you found this out BEFORE you tied the knot!!

I am so so sorry. Do you think this is something counseling could help with?? Maybe you guys just need to rekindle the romance. If not then it's going to take time. Just know that you deserve to be loved the way you give love. If he can't give that to you then you're better off without him.

I am so sorry you are going through this. But, as hard as it is to realize now, it'll be a blessing down the road that he showed his true self now rather than putting you through this years from now. You ABSOLUTELY deserve better than this guy!

Saying a prayer for you and your little blessing!

I hope you have a good support system to help you get through this. All of the ladies have given great advice. I'm so sorry your having to go through this.

Well, this sucks. I'm sorry but it's an immature person who thinks 'love' is an end destination that stays concrete once you reach it. Two people don't love each other in exactly the same way, year after year. There is a foundational love that drives you to each other, no matter what else is going on. Geez, there is a reading from Corelli's Mandolin I used just yesterday...

“Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.” ~Louis de Bernieres”

Take care of yourself. UO; this may or may not include becoming a single mother.

If counseling is a possibility, do it. For now, enlist help in making calls and canceling vendors so that's off your head.

And big hugs.

@Erin Wood no amount of counseling would make me okay with continuing in a relationship with someone who thought it was okay to leave me pregnant and with a wedding in 5 months

Technically... its not too late to terminate the pregnancy too. If he's cancelling the wedding now, who knows what he could be like in the future which could really make parenting difficult. Either way, you'll be glad that he made this decision now rather than waiting any longer. But if you decide to keep the baby, I hope he kept all the nerdy toys and stuff you were talking about earlier.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope you are able to get some support from family and friends.

Honey I'm so sorry! Do you have any close friends or relatives. That's really unbearable to deal with alone while you're pregnant. However, I do agree with above to get an attorney because I don't want them bailing on you when the baby gets here.

I am so sorry. Sending lots of hugs and good thoughts your way!

@ELK- You're right. He sounds like a real jerk. I am a person who can forgive anything and believe people can change though. Maybe he's just having a freakout? I don't know.

I am so sorry. Sending you hugs and prayers.