Cancelling wedding

I wish I could like Alyssachu's post a million times.

Alyssachu, you are absolutely right. OP, you are entitled to feel whatever way you feel about this entire situation. I think that counseling would be great for you. Not couples. There are so many emotions that you must be having and taking the time to talk to someone about all of them may help a lot.

If my statement came off in a way that minimized your emotions or distress regarding the pregnancy, I really do apologize. I am sending my support.

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I agree with many others - go to counseling as soon as you can. It's going to help you work through your emotions, validate how you are feeling, and help build you back up. This is the crappiest part - I promise, things are going to come together however they are supposed to and you will feel better.

I'm so sorry ..

Sending you positive thoughts. Focus on your pregnancy and being healthy for your child. Giving you a virtual hug to stay strong. Lean on your family and friends as you will need them now more than ever.

I am so incredibly sorry this has happened. That is a devastating thing to go through, and you deserve better than that. You have a lot of options moving forward, and only you will know which ones are right for you. I wish you nothing but the best moving forward. It will not be easy, but you can get through it. Lean on your friends and family. They will want to help you, and you should accept their help.

Oh Sweetie,

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I second that he is a BIG ASSHOLE, but ultimately you will be glad he did it now rather than later.

Please take care of yourself, no matter what you decide regarding the pregnancy. If you cannot get your deposits back, I second using the venue and catering deposits you have put down and having a HELL of a baby shower, if you decide to go that route.

Just take one day at a time, and know that this is all on him. He is not ready to be a husband or father, and not someone you ultimately would have been able to rely on, and you will be better off in the end, even thought it DOES NOT feel that way now. Let yourself cry, then pick yourself up, and enjoy your new life you will make wonderful DESPITE him.

Hugs sent to you.

I'm so sorry for you. It's better this happened now. I wish you all the best.

We are here for you and I am so sorry this happened. I know it's a whirlwind of emotion right now, but you are better off without him. Saved years of heartache. I am so so sorry. And yes, no matter what you choose with the baby and your situation it will be what's best for you. You are strong and so brave

I am so so sorry you are going through this right now. Sending you hugs. I don't think I have any advice that hasn't already been given. I know it is going to be hard, and stressful, but try not to stress too much for the sake of your little one. Talk to your support network, it helps. If you really need to vent we are here.

I am so sorry. Everything will be ok. I know right now its hard to see that but things will all work out.

So so sorry 2 b reading this.. I say friends can help you cope .. Take some that money that you'll be saving & go on a lil vacay to get your thoughts together

I have no advice to give, but I'm SO SO SO sorry. I wish I could give you the biggest hug right now!

I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't even begin to imagine how you may feel but the most important thing right now is to take care of yourself and your baby. It obviously doesn't feel like it right now, but eventually you'll see this as a blessing in disguise. What a completely shitty thing to do 5 months before your wedding and while you're carrying his child. If he can walk away from you now, he's not the one. Prayers up.

I am so sorry to hear that , but honestly it's better now then later . Have courage hun , I can't imagine what you're going through.

So sorry this is happening to you. Prayers and positive thoughts for you!

I am so so sorry this has happened! I have no advice, but I'll keep you in my thoughts!

Oh gosh, my heart breaks for you! Sending positive thoughts your way. Just breathe, and one thing at a time

I am truly sorry you are going through this. Please know God has a plan for you and your angel growing inside of you. Deep breathes. Sending you hugs and many prayers. Call the vendors and explain the situation and I pray they will work with you and help you out with the baby coming.

Thank you everyone. I'm at work so this is a late response. As of right now, me and him are still on good terms but we are still staying together until we figure out the moving situation. I'm probably going to stay with my mom and dad for a while to get back comfortable with my separated finances. We have no intentions of aborting the baby because we are still going to love our baby like no other. I gave him the option not to be around but he denied it. I'm going to talk to my venue about moving the wedding to be the baby shower location. But my photographer and DJ I have to pay the whole balance still so I'm going to have to figure that out.