Can you say money grab?!

That's not right. If it's dinner time, they should really serve a real meal.

Wow. Is your mother going? I sure hope not. Hopefully karma comes back to get them.

400 people? yikes. there's a case where they should have cut the guest list 75% and served real food....

Bad. bad. Don't go.

That is just horrible. I so would not go that is just plain 'ol greedy

WOW..

NOT COOL

Granted I don't know the couple that's pulling this off but there are days that I wish we'd tone down our over the top dinner menu and so that I could invite more of our friends. Our crowd would be very happy w/ an open bar, hors dvour all night and a kickin' DJ.

I guess the older I get the more I look at the meaning of the celebration and try very hard not to get stuck on the "etiquette" anymore. Give me a Cap n Coke, some good music, wonderful friends and a thank you card and I'm as happy as a clam.

She is going, it's her boyfriend's sister. I've seen pictures of the lodge they are having it at and I seriously doubt 400 are going to fit in it comfortably...I told my mom that based on what I have read on my wedding forum, everything is wrong about it lol. They called it a "light lunch" at 6pm..Hmm.

Marie- I am pretty sure IF they have a bar, it will be a cash one..

I wonder how many people end up going? We were really cautious with all of our variable expenses because our guest list was in the 180 range and now its looking like it will fall closer to the 100 person range. Maybe once they have a ton of cancellations they will improve their food options =).

She should go and put monopoly money with a congrats card.

That is horrible.

Mrs S- that is a great idea! She would never do that because she is that overly nice person but I got a good laugh out of it lol

Lol I know a girl that is not even doing dinner, she is having her wedding at 7 at night, quick speeches, and a midnight lunch. But she is inviting our whole freakin town! I personally think its barbarick to ask guests who have travelled long distances to go eat somewhere else before the wedding lol cause we don't want to feed you!

@Marie I feel very similar to you. Although, I wouldn't contribute my feelings to age or experience.

Our initial guest list was just over 400. With most of the RSVPs in, it looks like there will be somewhere in the neighborhood of 350 in attendance.

I realize that's a huge number, and some people may think that there's no way we have 400 friends. That's the truth. We have 400 friends and family that either my parents, his parents, or we have deemed worthy of an invitation.

We are serving a full meal. However, if costs needed to be cut in order to invite more people to join in our celebration I can understand how one might scale back their dinner plans.

To me, it's about the celebration. The more people I can invite to join in our happy day, the more fun we'll have! IMO

As for the OP, I agree. This seems a bit $ grabby, but only because they specifically ASKED for money. Not because of the food they decided to serve.

She should and give them a few cash for life lotto tickets. hehe

Well on the bright side at least people wont be expecting real food, I suggest that she goes with $100 like every other wedding then doesn't close the envelope. If drinks arn't covered take that out of the gifting money. Once she's had the amount of drinks she would like close what ever is left of the $100 in with the card

I think its rude to ask for money but at the same time me an my fh already live together and dont need anything. im not asking for money or anything for that matter. we are only inviting close friends and family and they know that. so if they want to give cash they can but i would never ask for it. thats rude!!!!!! an i think sandwiches are cute if its around lunch time not at 6......

Are they actually asking for money, or do they have a registry set up somewhere asking for donations towards a honeymoon or house or something? Just wondering.

Jennifer- Straight out asking for money. They are an older couple so I understand not needing house related items and such because they are established but from what I've learnt on here, asking for money is a big no no!

Honestly? People should be going to celebrate the couples union...not to be fed. It frustrates me to no end that I have to sacrifice MY day financially to feed people...when I could just have a nice cake reception instead and have what I've dreamed of since I was a little girl. >.< Sorry for the mini rant lol My FH and I got into it on this subject, his argument is "no one will come if we dont have food..." mine is "then they aren't worth inviting." Blah.