Can I get married a week before my cousin?

I agree with the girls here , having the wedding a week before your cousins' is in bad taste and too much for your family in one month. And please don't have a potluck wedding. Just don't , its not nice to ask your guests to bring something for your wedding , plus health codes ...you don't want to go there. Choose a cheaper menu option like BBQ?? Or a daytime brunch , but please don't choose potluck.

Yeahhh I'm more concerned about the potluck thing than I ever would be about the weddings so close together.

Getting married a week before your cousin, when she had reserved and made known her date a year in advance = extremely obnoxious

Having a potluck wedding = rude and potentially dangerous

You can't chalk this up to different cultures. Having your friends and family work and finance your wedding is horrendous. You decided to get married and you decided to have a celebration with guests, ergo, you pay for it (unless someone graciously offers to help).

Potlucks...

I would be very angry if my cousin did that and as far as the potluck goes... if you cant afford to have a wedding... dont have one! Go to the courthouse and get married and maybe in 10 years you can renew your vows and have a celebration then when you can afford it...

I think you're stepping on her toes at the very least you should do it a week after her wedding

Damn this is still going? And you're still going to have a potlock? Why? If it's due to cost then cut the guest list. Don't make them work.

@Gmomma "Whoa, the swearing started, peace out!"

LMAO I can't

Do Gmomma stand for grandmom(no shade if it don't)? Its just my kids call my mom Gmom

I'm glad you are being the bigger person and changing your date. I personally wouldn't care but your cousin do so cool points for caring about her feelings. If you even see this since you may have already left the building.

I think even though a couple doesn't need a full month to celebrate the wedding, doing it so close could look like stealing thunder. It's like when guys propose to their gf at a wedding. Thinking like Hangover movie, I'd be pissed if someone did that at mine.

I think it is rude for you to have your wedding a week before, hard in your family. Have it in Octiber. Same colors, same produce! She saved the date a year ago! Play nice

Edited to say, I am glad you decided against it!

Dude, your cousin is petty if she wants the WHOLE MONTH to herself. Are you kidding me? You get ONE DAY, girlfriend. I have cousins who are siblings and they're getting married exactly a week apart and no one has batted an eye. The fact that this is even an issue is ridiculous.

That being said, if it's going to cause a lot of drama I'd say skip it and pick a different date. Family first, right?

Also, I've only ever been to one wedding that wasn't a potluck and I work for a wedding planner. We're doing a potluck and providing the main dish and then just asking that everyone bring a side. I had no idea there was even a debate about this.

@Caitie you work for a wedding planner and you only been to potluck weddings????? That's interesting lol

I personal never heard of a potluck wedding until WW. But I believe people should have the wedding they want so no judgment here. I would't gasp and clutch my pearls if I was invited to one. I'll make my famous pot roast and mac & cheese and carry my ass on to the wedding and enjoy myself.

@Julia I think it's just pretty standard culture around here. My friends are all very young and poor and religious- they get married in the church (or in the temple if they're LDS) and then have potluck receptions in the church building. We're not following that exact formula since our wedding will be outdoors, but it's just kind of what people do around here. It's a very "country" area with lots of cowboy weddings and farm weddings, so a more casual reception is just the norm. I don't even know of anyone who has had a black tie wedding.

If I was your cousin and I had my date booked way before yours was, I would consider it a little rude.

@Kristine she change her mind and is know having her wedding next year. She is no longer responding to post because someone cursed at her. I'm guessing about the potluck. I'm not really sure.

@Caitie Someone else created a thread about the LDS church and something called an open reception. Are you doing something similar to that?

@Julia Yes and no. In LDS weddings the only people who can go into the temple to watch the ceremony are members of the LDS church of a certain age in proper standing with the Mormon church. Clearly, many of the people an LDS couple wants to invite will not fit these requirements. Because of this many LDS couples do a separate reception, usually in their church building although some couples will rent a venue, and typically on a different day than the wedding itself. It is this celebration that all the guests are invited to and food, dancing, etc. occurs. I've been to a LOT of LDS open receptions and every single one of them has been a potluck. It's just the culture; everyone helps everyone with everything all the time. The couple usually does not even have the cake catered; a family member will usually volunteer to make it for them. My FMIL made over 800 cupcakes for my FBIL's open reception last January.

We are not LDS, so everyone is invited to the ceremony and reception, which will all be at one location on one day. Because all of FI's side of the family is LDS and was volunteering to bring dishes, we just opted to make the thing a full-blown potluck. It's saving us a lot of money and stress and no one has batted an eyelash because potluck receptions are so common around here. Even my Christian friends (we're Baptist) usually just get married at our church and then have a potluck reception at our youth building across the street. Only downside to doing that is, being Baptist, you can't have dancing at the reception. That's why FI and I opted to pay for a venue. It's outside in a garden so basically the whole wedding will feel like a big family picnic.