BYOB Reception

And that is very poor hosting.

OP you're so contradictory....first it's not about sobriety it's about the money- then money's not an issue it's about sobriety. I've read all your comments and it's all back and forth. You need to sit down with your FH and your FMIL and talk it out. I'm still with those that say to include alcohol. Despite your sobriety. You've already said you're fine with people drinking at your wedding so stop being cheap and buy a few bottles of wine and a keg and call it a day.

WHERE IS THE CLASS???? Why are so many brides ok with treating their guests like crap?!

"Im not an alcoholic sorry. Grow up a lil."

So, not only are we implicating those in favor of good hosting as being alcoholics, but we're also implicating that all it takes to cure alcoholism is to "grow up"?

Wow. Just wow.

Congrats on the sobriety!!!

About the BYOB, i think is not the proper way to host. But you also don't need to have 1bottle wine/person. Just have some beer and wine, and some non-alcoholic drink. I don't think you need to break the bank for alcohol purchases...good luck on whatever you decide.

BYOB is never a good idea.

Your sobriety provides a perfectly legitimate reason to have a dry wedding and I'm sure your loved ones would understand. Your MIL should just deal. Sorry.

Someone said that you should provide alcohol just as a vegetarian should provide a meat option. But in my opinion, it's ridiculous to compare the two.

The OP is long gone and she already dropped the BYOB idea. This thread is from a week ago. Sara the newbie apparently felt the need to resurrect it with horrid advice. Sigh.

@Sarah W-having alcohol for only the BP is even ruder than not having any. OP, do not have people BYOB, save the money to appropriately host.

I'd rather get a few bottles and run out than have byob.

I don't see the problem with BYOB. I would think your family and guests would understand. You will never please everyone at your wedding. Some people won't like and some people will. If you're not going to drink it I don't see why you have to supply it.

Honestly, your recovery is more important than people being able to drink at an event for 5 hours. If you and your SO do not feel comfortable with the idea of alcohol than I wouldn't have it. Your guest would understand.

If you do feel comfortable with it than purchase beer and wine and if it's in a back yard and your guest want liquor, they can bring their own.

Don't do it at least serve beer and wine!! I'm going to wedding this Saturday when i got RSVP it said there will be no alcohol BYOB what makes me lil upset is i checked out her online registry and the

gifts they are asking for are very high in price starting at 150.00 crazy,but it's dry wedding!

Having a brother who is an addict I understand this concern. This is your wedding. Do what you feel right about. I am sure that your guests who know your story will understand and have no problem with. I would rather byob then to be cut from a guest list. It is about celebrating with the people you care about most. Do what is right for you. It is your day!

You have about 52 weeks. What about buying a bottle or 2 and a case of beer every paycheck?

Why do you need to have beer and wine at a wedding? Fuck the rules its your wedding so do what you want. Who is to say what is right and wrong. We are all adults.

Jesus Christ. I've been to a dry wedding before and it even didn't have dancing, yet I still enjoyed it because I was there for the people I cared about and celebrating them in the way that made them most comfortable because let's face it, it's their damn day. It was actually a very beautiful, yet simple, wedding. I do agree that in most cases you should have alcohol choices and great music, however, there are exceptions to most rules. Given your sobriety I would COMPLETELY understand a dry wedding. I wouldn't even question it or sneak out to have a drink in my car or talk nasty about it to my friends. I would respect your decision. As a guest, I am there to support you and your partner and celebrate your commitment to each other. I am not coming to have you cater to my every need. If people don't like it then they don't have to come.

I have been to a wedding that was BYOB and I nor anyone that I spoke to was offended. Sometimes you can't afford to provide alcohol to everyone and most reasonable people would understand that. I have been to dry weddings too and I would much rather bring my own.

I am amazed by how judgmental people are about your situation. At the end of the day, it's your wedding. Why does getting married have to be about EVERYONE ELSE? My fiance and I are having a small wedding reception on our families ranch. We are providing 2 kegs (we drink very minimally) and have informed our guests of limited alcohol but encouraged them to bring their favorite beverage. There's no wrong or right answer. If people are going to be offended that you aren't breaking your budget to provide them with unlimited alcohol than maybe they aren't worth being on your guest list. Don't let other's make you feel bad about your decisions, those who love and respect you will enjoy their time spent at your wedding no matter what you provide. ENJOY YOUR DAY!!!!!!

It is possible to express advice and opinion without being mean. Also, it's your wedding and only you know your guests- but I love the soda idea good luck!

View Quoted Comment This is YOUR wedding. It should reflect your feelings and wishes. I am shocked at the rude, selfish, and ignorant comments people have left in reply to your post.
You responded with complete grace and validity of your concerns. Congratulations on your sobriety and wedding celebration. Best wishes!