Bridezilla/Groomzilla/Momzilla/Godzilla

I think the issue is brides-to-be do want things specifically done, which is our prerogative. The closer it comes to the wedding day & things aren't done, you're going to get more demanding. I think it should be that way cuz if you don't certain things aren't going to be done. Although family is well meaning, they need to realize its Your day & your vision. You could always see if the cake topper can be used for something else, like a decoration at the cake table or gift table. Fortunately no one has tried to give us something odd to use for the wedding.

I think it's easy to have a target painted on our backs as brides... its so easy to find little things to point to and say Ah-Hah you crazy bridezilla woman...

I think you just got to shake it off, people are looking for reasons to assume you're being a crazy bride and I advice you just dont let it get to you. It's like when a pregnant woman is tired and everyone is telling her it's the pregnancy wearing her out... like no sometimes people are tired

Your wedding isn't making you crazy... or at least you post doesn't make you look crazy but people will try to make you think that you are because you are a bride, it's stupid but hey so if life, sometimes you just got to roll ith the punhces

I kicked a bridesmaid out of the wedding because she was starting drama. Her and one of the Groomsmen where dating and then they went through a nasty break-up. I sat them both down and asked them to be civil at the very least for the wedding because they are both my friends and I didn't want to have to choose sides. A few days later she started telling me about this 25 year old guy (shes 15) that she wanted to bring as her plus one to the wedding. I told her I wanted to meet him first and get to know him before she just brought this random guy to my wedding. A week or so later she let it slip that he was over at her house doing meth with her mother and about how he had just gotten out of prison so of course I was like Uh no he can not come. Then she comes over one weekend and the groomsman happens to come over later and they both promised to be civil. She starts an argument at 2 am while FH and I are trying to sleep so I basically told her that she couldn't come over for awhile CONT

I've been called worse!

Because obviously the wound was too fresh and she could be civil but at that point she was still in the wedding, until I found out she was dating the 25 year old recently released from prison meth head. I tried talking to her about it but she insisted that they are in love (after a week of dating) and he had quit for her (which was a lie) I told her that I did not agree with her dating him and that he was not welcome at our home or the wedding. So she said that she can't be friends with anyone who wants to stand in the way of her love. And that is why I am a "Bridezilla"

I had met with our baker and told her that I wanted to use this second cake topper for a groom's cake. When I called FMIL to ask the specifics of the topper - size, weight, etc. as the topper is at the Great Aunt's house in SD. She told us that we weren't allowed to use it as a cake topper anymore... Um, okay. We've decided to use it as decoration at the reception - if we're even allowed to have it anymore ;o)

FMIL is always the first to tell me not to let anyone push me around, it's my wedding and I should do what I want. Then turns around to tell me that she arranged to have a random hairdresser come to the venue and do my hair, we're going to have jello salad at the reception, etc. I'm trying to compromise - the random hairdresser can do the BM's hair (if she is going to pay for it or if the girls want to have their hair done) and I'll use my own hairdresser as originally planned. I don't know how to compromise on jello salad - I hate jello lol

Oh man, this might make me sound really superficial, but I have had a recurring nightmare since I was a teenager. It's the day of prom, and I forget to go to my hair appointment to get my hair done, and then I am stuck with a mess. Now, it's morphed into my wedding day, and I am wearing my dress with my hair straight and straggly, and there is no time to get it done before the wedding starts. YOU ARE NOT A BRIDEZILLA if you want to use your own hairdresser. I feel like that's entirely, completely acceptable! Your FMIL could get her hair done by the hairdresser she hired; no need to put you through that!

I don't think any of your examples sound bridezilla-ish. Just keep your head up, and do what you want while doing your best to avoid hurt feelings. Maybe you could use the other cake topper at the rehearsal dinner? (Not sure if people do that, but hey! whatevs

The jello salad seems like an easier way to appease I mean, you don't have to eat it, right? Good Luck!

I haven't had so much trouble, because my MOH is kinda like my Gunny (my FH and my brother are BOTH old Marines, so it fits, teehee!)

The only issues I have had were the following, and have smoothed over, so far:

1) my mother thought that my SIL should be my MOH. I LOVE my SIL dearly, but there are several reasons I chose my "Gunny" to be MOH. I explained them to Momma, and she accepted it.

2) I don't have a set color scheme... it's vintage spring colors. Not bright pastels, muted tones. All three girls are different races, so they are all picking their own dress in my color pallette so they all feel comfortable and look good. My SIL thinks they should all at least wear the same color. I stood my ground, and she accepted it.

3) this one still makes me laugh. My future MIL insisted we should only have 1 person each in our WP. Why, I don't know. But, we'd already picked our people, and it will stay that way (sort of, we've had hiccups). 3 each, a flower girl...

(con't) and a ring bearer. She also said that we should have my FH's nieces that I've never met and he barely knows as MY flower girls... I'd already asked my dear friends iif their little girl, Jennie, could be my FG and they accepted. I refused to get on the phone to talk to FMIL because 1) I was infuriated (and I'm half Irish, 1/4 Am Indian) and 2) I was busy. After that, I was pretty certain she'd hate me, but we spoke on Thanksgiving, and she never brought it up.

As for the cake topper, maybe you could find a way to work them both in? Use the one that looks better with the cake on the cake, and have the other maybe as decoration with the guest book or something?

Yeah I've noticed that too - I had it in the beginning more when we had knocked everything out over a year ahead of wedding. When people found out we had already booked the venue, officiant, photographer, etc. before the 1 year mark, a lot of people were like, "Oh wow - sounds like you're gonna be a bridezilla!" I thought, "WTF? Are you kidding me? Why because I frickin' plan ahead and don't like coasting on good luck to throw a party?"

Jocelyn, I had not even read the reception idea when I posted earlier, haha! Great minds, and all... Honestly, I'm picky about my hair and makeup, yet, somehow low maintenence (does that even make sense??) so I'm doing my own. I know how I like it and how it should look. If anyone insists on me using their "stylist", I'll kindly let them know that I'm doing my own, and if they argue, I'll stand my ground like I have done in the past.

My wedding is going to be kind of different... I don't feel appropriate wearing a white dress, so I'm not. I'm making moccasins to wear instead of shelling out $200 for the boots I wanted. My bridesmaids will coordinate, but not match, and I'm making most of my decorations/favors.

The owner of the ranch where we're getting married even asked if I might be doing some target shooting at his gun range before the ceremony. I said "Maybe! In honor of Daddy!" since that's how he and my Daddy knew one another, and Daddy can't be there.

Ya you're no bridezilla oi! You use your own hair dresser, you should work with someone who knows your style, has worked with you're hair and done a trial run with. Ya I wouldnt be happy about the cake topper, it's too bad you don't know what this ornament looks like. I would be pretty upset about something like that, it's a lovely gesture but I totally see where you're coming from.

Well, so far, FH seems to be a bit of a Groomzilla since he's 3 excluded 3 from our Wedding Party thus far, a brides maid & 2 considerations for Best Man. The brides maid

(FSIL) & her husband (guilty by association & 1st consideration for FH BM) was excused due to a disagreement FH had w/her (FSIL) & FH 2nd cosideration for Best Man who was (thought to have been) FH good friend questioned why didn't he choose someone else so he too was excused. Needless to say we're back to square one. So, now I'm down to 2 BM one of which I may dismiss due to our date change & wedding plan revisions. We are really paring down our guest list too as we try to tighten our purse strings due to budget whoa's. All that was said to say "you are not alone" in dealing with unecessary drama! I hope it all works out for the best for all of us

I've been to and hosted a lot of weddings. I hardly think a dispute over the cake topper qualifies you for the Bridezilla Chronicles. Maybe you should get a little animated, and show them exactly what a mad bride really looks like?

I am down to the wire too! just this past weekend i was called a bridezilla by my family members because i had a melt down.

You're allowed to have a melt down! You're a month and two days away!! When we go get our marriage license, I will probably faint!!!

Here is the way i see it... everyone else got their day and they hated those who made theirs difficult and they need to respect you.... I have been married and divorced and while I was planning my wedding I had my sisters as BM... ya they were total witches I got everything dumped on me including buying the dresses... no one helped me... they showed up taking credit for being maids... they were acting like it was their day making me serve them... ill never put up with that I could have saved so much money... I think some women make it difficult because they get jealous because its not them getting married... I had no trouble with my friends already married because they understood the pressure but as far as the cake topper... they should have asked you... women just want to be involved with exciting things and some dont like to see others have the glory... Im not trying to be insulting to anyone but this was my experience and how it made me feel.... thats why this time.... Im the star

When i say i had to do everything i mean decorations, invitations, programs, favors and i went to all my appointments alone... my mom even stood me up on my appointment to find a dress... i will never go through that again... I kept rearranging my appointments to please them... dude my parents didnt even get me a wedding gift.. neither did my sisters... so ya... never again and this time ill have no problem being a zilla lol

@Jocelyn, you don't sounds bridezilla-ish to me! The suggestions that others had regarding the cake topper and jello sound reasonable to me.

I can very well relate with you on this and I completely understand how you feel. We brides would really want everything to be perfect for our wedding. We want to control everything so all things will fall into its place. On the other hand, we also have to consider that there will always be other people involved in the planning which is you and your fiance's family. On their end, they are suggesting things that they think can help you achieve your perfect day. If you don't want their suggestions you can politely say that you already found the perfect cake topper but you appreciate what they have given. Try to make them feel valued by accepting some of their suggestion and honoring their opinions. Always remember that a wedding will just be a day in you and your husband's life. You don't want to ruin your family ties forever because of a single day or a single misunderstanding. -dainty