Bridesmaidzilla 😂

View Quoted Comment It’s really not that hard. At the end of the day our weddings are just parties and if you were to go with an alternative dress or style you’re still going to have an amazing wedding. Who cares?

Girls with big boobs are girls who are heavier are not going to feel comfortable in a strapless dress. They can make someone feel extremely self-conscious and unattractive.

View Quoted Comment I’m a bigger girl with 36DDD boobs, I feel like the second dress which is the one the two that don’t like the strapless dress do like is more revealing as far as boobs. I did buy the second dress so it can be tried on and see how that one is liked.

View Quoted Comment I like the second one better, and you want your bridesmaids to be comfortable,

I think it’s normal for you to want them to wear the same dress, but you should take some of their opinions into account because they are wearing the dress. I HATE strapless dresses because they’ve never looked right on me. Some of your bridesmaids may feel the same way, so having them wear strapless may make them uncomfortable for the whole night. I would find a dress you love that does have straps to make everyone happy!

I don’t think it’s fair to put your bridesmaids in styles they aren’t comfortable with.

One of mine hates cap sleeves, another hates spaghetti straps, the third hates sleeveless. I will accommodate all of them getting dresses that make them happy! I for sure wouldn’t want to wear a style I hated. I think it’s rude to ask them to do that.

View Quoted Comment Yes it’s your wedding, but i have always found dictating what someone else wears (even a bridesmaid...) to be a bit excessive. Certain people are not comfortable in certain styles and I don’t think that makes them a “bridesmaidzilla” and I don’t really think they need to justify why they don’t feel comfortable in a certain style. I’m not sure why it matters so much what other people are wearing... if you care about your bridesmaids as friends, wouldn’t you want them to wear what they feel comfortable in? They’re not photo props, they’re your friends

View Quoted Comment Yeah it’s a snug fit but I feel like at least for me it was fitted around the bum more than anything else and was plenty stretchy and didn’t cling to any “lumps” so it was comfortable to wear all night. Anyway, I totally get that you would prefer a certain look. Strapless can be tough though, so just make sure that if you go that route you’re OK with seeing your girls adjust their dresses during the ceremony/reception. It’s very generous of you to purchase them for sure!!

I have 8 bridesmaids because I have a lot of sisters and I wanted to involve his sisters as well! My sisters are bigge chested and expressed that they would not want to wear strapless dresses for that reason. I am going through David’s bridal. We went back and forth on a couple of dresses, but eventually I threw in the towel and decided that I would give them a fabric/style (lace, chiffon, etc.) and color to wear and they could pick theirs out based on that. It’s a headache to try to please everyone and the way I look at it, I want them to feel comfortable and look good as well. It has made that part of planning much easier!

I say they need to suck it up if they don’t like it just because they don’t like it. If it was body image issues that’s a different story. And if they aren’t telling the truth about why they don’t want to wear it that’s on them. If they’re that uncomfortable they should be upfront and honest about the reason. Like others have said these girls are your nearest and dearest and should be able to talk to you about these kind of things.

If you are set on strapless go with strapless it is your wedding not theirs! When their time comes they could choose what they want. I told my bridesmaid I am open for opinions but ultimately the decision is mine and my fiancé and if they are going to give attitude they don’t need to be in the wedding. They all agreed and things are running smoothly now

View Quoted Comment But doesn’t the girls comfort come in to play. As a big chested girl I would not be able to move in that dress.

View Quoted Comment I 100% agree with this comment!! I feel very self conscious in strapless and would never wear one, and this is something I’d address with the bride of any wedding I was in before dresses were selected. However, I have never been in a wedding where I was told which exact dress to wear. My maids picked their own from Azazie given a color, length, and fabric. I want them to all feel beautiful and comfortable!

View Quoted Comment It’s different if a bridesmaid says she is uncomfortable other than she just doesn’t like the dress or that isn’t her style. You aren’t going to please everyone and it is your day.

View Quoted Comment Agreed! OP said she has the biggest chest out of all her girls and if it fits fine on her it’ll fit fine on them. And again they didn’t say they were uncomfortable they just said they didn’t like it according to OP.

View Quoted Comment It’s not that they’re not comfortable it’s that she just doesn’t like the style. She’s one of my best friends and has been for almost 10 years I know things way worse than her insecurities it’s not that she’s too scared to tell my any insecurities reguarding her body image. She wears strapless swimsuits just does not like the look of strapless dresses.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this whole post.

I wore a MOH dress for my sister's wedding that was AWFUL. The particular style, cut, material, and even the color that she picked was the worst possible combination for my body. It was like this dress was specially made in hell just for me. On top of it, I was dealing with an (undiagnosed at that time) metabolic disorder and was VERY overweight and chronically sweaty, and extremely self conscious and insecure. So here I was, wearing this terrible and expensive dress that I paid for, sweating and overweight, walking a tiny dog in a matching dress, in front of my entire (rather traditional) family, for my YOUNGER sister's wedding. Not my best moment. But you know what? I love my sister and I did it with a smile on my face, because it was her day and I was there to support her. But holy $#*@ I wish I had another option. For my wedding, I told my bridesmaids (my sister included) that they could pick whatever style they felt comfortable in (I picked color, length, and fabric). It matters more to me that they feel comfortable and we share in feelings of love and community than any photo-op "vision" I have of them. It depends on what your priority is.

I don't think she was wrong to voice her concerns, if she did so in a respectful way. That's why you're friends, isn't it, because you can talk to each other? Maybe you can problem solve and come up with a solution together. Maybe she needs help finding a better fit, getting alterations, or choosing a supportive strapless bra? Maybe there's a solution, maybe not. Don't be insulted, just talk and work it out.

Honestly I see a problem with both dressed 🤦🏻‍♀️ Small and big chested girls will have trouble with the strapless and big chested girls will have trouble with that deep v because you can’t wear a bra with support.

Its so hard to find one dress that will flatter all girls in your party, I think that’s a big reason most people have their party wear different dresses

I don't necessarily think not wanting to wear strapless makes you a bridesmaidzilla. For some women with curvier bodies, strapless is super impossible to wear. Some may not like the exposure of those dresses either. They can't add straps?

View Quoted Comment Well I think if she can wear a strapless swimsuit then there is no reason she can’t wear a strapless dress. Who cares if she doesn’t like it. It isn’t her day and I’m sure when it is her day you will wear whatever she chooses whether you like it or not .

My personal opinion that since the issue is related to the chest area I feel like you should compromise and let them get something with more coverage up top if they choose to... I don’t mean to sound rude at all but you can’t force someone to show more chest than they are comfortable showing..