Bridesmaidzilla 😂

I feel like it’s ur wedding they wear what u tell them or don’t be in it. I can understand if it’s something that is too revealing or uncomfortable but if it’s just cause they don’t like it that is personal. Especially the fact that u are paying. Yeah it wouldn’t be an arguement at all. I had a bridesmaid like that that was very opinionated and I choose the dress and said it’s either u wear it or I will find someone else. This is your wedding your vision ur dream simple and plain it’s ur way period

View Quoted Comment So I have 6 bridesmaids, 4 LOVE the strapless, the other 2 liked the second dress. So I ordered that one to try because I’m the biggest of all of them so I was like well I’ll see if it’s comfy and how they like it. The strapless is more flowey and loose fitting around the tummy area, I am nervous about the second one because I am a bigger girl so we’ll see how those fit 🤷🏻‍♀️

View Quoted Comment That’s kind of what my fiancé said, and I know if I put my foot down and was like I WANT THE STRAPLESS DRESS NO IFS AND OR BUTS ABOUT IT, they would wear it and not fight me on it. I really do have amazing bridesmaids but I’m just conflicted because I do not in anyway want to be a bridezilla, I’m really easy going and go with the flow. I just know what I have always wanted so I’m having kind of a hard time. Also the other side of me is if I was asking for them to pay for it I’d be like I get it I wouldn’t want to spend money on a dress that I’m never going to wear again but we’re paying so if they never wear it again after the wedding it’s not going to hurt my feelings. If that makes sense. 🤷🏻‍♀️

View Quoted Comment I absolutely understand and that’s why it is even more shocking cause ur paying. I had my girls dresses made because the one BM I mentioned to u was too opinionated so I found the dress I like for my wedding and that was it. I understand they have ideas and thoughts but honestly they can save their opinions and thoughts for their own wedding if u not asking for their thoughts. Sorry I am semi a bridezilla but this is my big day and I want everything the way me and FH imagined not other people. And I am like I I love strapless dress and I love one strap dresses and that was the issue she didn’t like the one strap cause her breast were bigger which is understandable, so I made sure the top was fitted tighter with extra support...

View Quoted Comment If the brides made is bigger in tummy or chest that dress would be a nightmare. I would wear it If bride wanted me to but a TON or double sided tape and some insecure tears will be involved.

View Quoted Comment That’s a bridezella the whole do as I say even if you fe horrible about yourself and will cry.

We paid for our girls dresses they all chose different styles in the same color that complemented their body and made them comfortable. They are very special to us which is why we chose them to stand with us, which I assume is the reason you asked her to stand with you. So maybe take in to consideration why she doesn't want to wear the dress.

I told mine strapless right away BUT I did come down and say, if for any reason you find that the top of the dress is slipping let me know and I will find a nice strap to match anyone else who wants one. They all seem fine without.

It probably all boils down to some time of body insecurity....we as women are so hard on ourselves.

Consider for a moment, that the bridesmaids in question are just worried about how they will look and aren't trying to be difficult.

Sometimes you have to look deeper to the underlying issue.
I wouldn't want to wear a strapless dress. If I was family, or close enough to you , to be in your wedding, I wouldn't want to be labeled as a bridesmaidzilla just for speaking up.

Friends respect each others differences and compromise.
Ive been in many weddings where I've had to follow "orders" on hair, make up , shoes, jewelry etc.

So , for my wedding , ive offered choices. I want them to be comfortable and happy with what they are wearing. It won't upset me , if they offer suggestions and alternatives on dresses and shoes.

I'm just thrilled to be getting married and ready to start my new journey in life as a wife❤

I actually own the second dress from LuLus and it was super flattering!! I got the straps adjusted and could wear a normal bra and it fit great.

I had my mind set on a knee length sleeveless dress for my bridesmaids. I have two (out of three) who are uncomfortable with the shorter dress and it not having sleeves. I don’t want them to feel uncomfortable standing up there with me so I found some long dresses with sleeves that they felt beautiful in. I’m not paying for their dress and just really don’t want them uncomfortable so I just let that one go. Could you take them to try on different styles and see if you could find a happy medium?

View Quoted Comment She said she just has never liked the look of them, not that she doesn’t like the look on herself but in general she doesn’t like the look

View Quoted Comment I am actually excited to get that one, I’m just nervous because it is more tight fitting and I’m wondering how they are going to feel about that one. They wanted me to order it and try it so I did. I have not been a bridezilla at all, I have been the most easy going like go with the flow and apparently this post has made me look like I’m terrible. I definitely want all the same dresses, and I have given them options. I want long black bridesmaids dresses, and black bridesmaids dresses are not the easiest to find 🤷🏻‍♀️

Some people don't feel comfortable in strapless. I ordered infinity dresses so they can wrap it according to their body type and how comfortable they feel. I wouldn't force anyone to wear something they don't want to bc I wouldn't want anyone to force me.

View Quoted Comment She may not be wanting to say why if it is body images.

View Quoted Comment And just bc its doesn't fall on you doesn't mean it won't on another person. Keep that in mind!

So I told my girls as long as the dress is long and in steel blue I don't care what kind of style they choose. All my girls are different shapes and sizes and I want them to feel comfortable in a dress that they choose from. My one best friend is Mormon so she needs to be a little bit more covered up top so she feels comfortable in what she's wearing.

View Quoted Comment I don’t think the post makes you seem
bad. You said that she would wear the dress if you make her but called her a bridesmaidzilla for voicing she does not look like it. How about asking what they feel comfortable and what pretty in?

It is definitely okay to tell the bridesmaids they need to wear the same dress - especially if you are paying. That being said, no matter the relationship, I'd decline being in any bridal party telling me to go strapless. As a 38DD, I am wholly uncomfortable flashing the audience.. It would also be very awkward and take away from the bride.

I feel like when you after to be a bridesmaid you just have to accept this kind of thing! It's your wedding and although it may not be their first picks, that's not for them to decide, especially if you're paying!