Bridesmaidzilla 😂

Whats the reason they dont want to wear it?
Im personally giving my bridesmaids the option on style. All i ask its long and in the color i want, and i am not paying for the dresses.
I would tell your bridesmaids that if they want to choose another style, they would need to pay for it on their own

I wouldn't be thrilled to wear a strapless dress. I find them uncomfortable and they just don't flatter me. That said since you're paying for the dress I would probably say something once and then just suck it up. Have your girls suggested any styles? Maybe you can come to a compromise?

I just want them all to wear the same dress, and I’ve always wanted strapless. I think she just doesn’t like the look of the style I don’t know that she has worn anything strapless. I did order a strapless one and not straplsss that I liked online so I could see how much I liked both before committing to either.

I've known women with both bigger and fairly small chests who HATE strapless dresses. Daughter is thin, but a 36DD and hates strapless dresses and bras because she finds them really uncomfortable. Her number one criteria for her matching BM dresses was a dress that could be worn with a regular bra. I also have a niece who is extremely thin and like a 32A (with padding). She was in a wedding with strapless BM dresses, and they had to add thin spaghetti straps to her dress so it didn't fall off and flash everyone during the ceremony. Having a vision is great, and paying for the dresses is very generous, but I'd try to be sensitive about particular styles that your BMs aren't comfortable with.

I did also order a Bridesmaid dress with straps that I may completely love, I have just always been “set” on strapless. It’s just so hard 😭

It was my sister who was being difficult. I kind of bent over backwards to make her happy, and am splitting the dress cost with her, so it's like both of us will own the dress after the event. I personally hate strapless dresses, but would suck it up to be in a loved one's wedding. Would you allow them the option of changing out of the dress for the reception? My biggest concern with strapless is they'll fall off of me while I'm dancing.

The strapless dress is tight around the top so I don’t think it’s going to fall. These are the two dresses I ordered. I’m still waiting on the second to see if I love it.

My best friend is my problem bridesmaid. I gave my girls choice on dress: said one of 4 colors, not a miniskirt, and solid without print.
whatever style and budget they preferred.
asked them to wear black converse shoes.
She complained about the colors, then once she actually tried them on (not her normal colors) she liked one a lot. Then she complained because I gave them too much open choice and wanted me to pick a dress (but agreed on the converse shoes without too much fuss.)
last night the girls mostly all fell in love with a dress and at least half ordered the same one including her.
as soon as she ordered, she started complaining about the shoes and keeps pushing me to say she can get something different 🤬😂.
I am about to lose it on her, I have tried to make this as easy and affordable for everyone as I possibly can! She just has to complain and push boundaries. Driving me bonkers!
oh yeah, she bakes cakes and such and is quite good at it. When I told her we were getting Costco cheesecake for our wedding cake she insisted on making us a wedding cake. I begged her not to, and she wasn’t taking no for an answer. She asked for pins of styles I liked and exactly what I wanted. I sent her pics and gave her artistic liberties as she pleased because we really don’t give a crap about cake.
She was 7 mos away from our wedding and wanted exact flavors and designs from me on everything and got stressed out when I didn’t have any! We don’t even WANT cake lmao! So we don’t have flavors picked 😂 just crazy! Be ocd about your OWN wedding!

I have not been crazy about anything, BUT I feel like Its our wedding and we want what we want. I am going to try on the other dress and if I love it then I will be up to letting them all agree upon which one, if I don’t like it, it’s the strapless dress I want 😂

I am in my friend's wedding. She has 2 super bridesmaidzillas. They argue with her on everything!

I am sooooooo close go kicking my MOH out it’s not even funny. She had an issue with the style of the 10 dresses I showed her- she’s plus sized and I am very Ok w/my girls not in matching gowns but matching colours. She had an issue with colours! And material, shows etc etc etc! Then she said I COULDN’T wear red heels under my dress! “The hell I can’t! It’s my day I can wear a black wedding dress and red heels if I want” I practically shouted in Neiman Marcus- as I was looking at the red to black ombré paten Louboutin heels... Not to mention she cancels on em all the time, has demanded the venue that FH & I choose is handicap accessible... and etc etc...
I’m sorry you’re goin thru this too...

My bridesmaids are all big bust girls so strapless was not going to work. I allowed them to pick their style

View Quoted Comment I agree with this completely! I absolutely hate wearing strapless dresses. They’re extremely uncomfortable on me as I am thin and have a small bust - I am constantly pulling up on the top. I know you said it’s tight on the top, but that’s how it fits on *you*, not necessarily your BMs.

I would probably have said something to you if I were your bridesmaid. I don’t think your BM is out of line or a “bridesmaidzilla” for telling you she doesn’t want to wear the strapless dress.

Of course, it’s generous that you’re paying for the dresses and you’re the bride - so that gives you the final say - but I’d try to put the comfort of your bridal party high on your priority list. Yes, over aesthetics. They’re your #1 people and are spending time, money, and energy to be with you on your big day (and probably for other events before that too), and that deserves some consideration.

Honestly, if I was asked to wear a strapless dress for a wedding, I would probably decline as a bridesmaid and go as a guest. I absolutely hate the way they look on me. And every person I see that has worn one, will eventually be pulling it up at some point, no matter how tight it is to begin with. Fabric stretches and gives when it's been worn a while, so it may be tight now, but give it a few hours of movement and it will loosen. Similar to that favorite pair of Jean's you hop into in the morning, tight at first, then loosen as the day goes on.

I dont think your bridesmaid has done anything wrong in expressing her concerns. For me, comfort and wanting my gals to feel as beautiful as possible on the day were very important to me. I am letting them choose their dress, with color, length, and fabric specs. These ladies are supposed to be some of the most important people in your life, other than your SO and I think sometimes people get stuck on a certain vision, and forget to take others feelings and concerns into account. I know many well say, 'but it's my day and I'll do what I want' and I agree to a certain extent. But once you have a wedding party and invite guests, the day no longer becomes just about you and you have to consider the comfort of your guests. So for me, if a bridesmaids expressed concern about the style of dress because of body issues, confidence, or whatever else, I would try to do everything in my power to find a dress that they would be comfortable wearing.

I agree with PP about strapless dresses. I am not comfortable wearing them at all, I'm bustier and am constantly pulling them up.

I think it's very kind of you to pay for the dresses, but your bridal party has to be comfortable too. Good luck!

I absolutely hate strapless dresses as for me, they are super uncomfortable as are strapless bras and I’m always paranoid that it will fall down. That being said, if I was in a wedding and the bride chose a strapless dress I’d be annoyed but in the end suck it up and probably wear something over it like a sweater or something after pics are done.

Personally, I guess you’d consider me a bridesmaidzilla because there’s no way I’d wear a strapless dress. When picking dresses for your bridesmaids I think you have to go with a style that flatters everyone or let them pick what they feel best in from similar styles (which is what I’m doing from either David’s bridal or Azazzie). It’s not too much of them to ask for something different. I think it’s very kind of you to be taking care of the dresses for your girls, but would you rather them be comfortable in what they’re wearing while they’re standing up there for you or would you rather they worry about boob slippage all night?

View Quoted Comment This is really not “so hard”. There are many bigger worries to worry about 😉
As many others have said, very big & very small chested women usually dislike strapless dresses, because they don’t like how they look on them and/or they are uncomfortable to wear.
In addition, some women have an issue with exposing that much of chest area. I know that my sister, for example, wouldn’t be caught dead in a strapless dress & I would never insist she wears one.
I personally don’t get the whole obsession with forcing your BP to wear the same dress, especially when they don’t feel comfortable in it. I find it a bit controlling & unnecessary. Why not give them a color & a style (ex. long gown; short cocktail-style dress; or 5 different dresses you selected for them to pick from) & let them pick what they feel comfortable with? Just an idea 🤷🏻‍♀️

Personally, I hate strapless dresses and find them to be unflattering and uncomfortable. I think it is generous of you to pay for the dresses, but keep in mind the comfortability of your wedding party. It’s proabbly not that they don’t like the dress, it is that they’re uncomfortable wearing it. If you love strapless dresses, you can have a wedding dress that is strapless but I really would try to find a dress everyone is comfortable in.

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I can see how on the "right" body type both of these might be very appealing/pretty. However, I can also see how for anyone with ANY "body issues," if these are the only options, I agree with a pp who said they might decline to be in the wedding. Neither dress is designed for a person who needs a supportive bra. And, it's hard to tell in the first photo how close fitting the skirt of that dress is, but the second one looks like it will show/accentuate every bump and lump. If a person is at all self-conscious about their body, neither dress looks very forgiving. Even if all your BMs are thin with "perfect figures," you've chosen two styles that don't necessarily compliment a wide range of body shapes and sizes or those with insecurities about their appearance.

Also, if your profile date is correct, 17 months in advance is really early to be choosing BM dresses. Most can easily be ordered a few months before the wedding. Ordering this early puts more pressure on people regarding maintaining their weight, etc. You could easily wait almost a year before making this decision. I understand some of the other stories shared on this post indicate potential "bridesmaidzillas," but I'm not sure a bridesmaid telling you she doesn't like the look of one dress makes her one.