BRIDESMAIDS...or not.

@Centerpiece...I thought your posts were right on the money and not rude in the very least. I always take your advice to heart, you know exactly what and how to say things. You gave great advice yet again.

Ohh, you were the one who called Ninjaa rude yesterday? HAHAHAHA. Ok. Sweetie, I'm sensing a trend here and the common denominator is you. You're not a special snowflake who only gets to have comments that tell you how great all your ideas are, or gently dance around your frail sensibilities. This is not the place for that. Get over yourself and stop insulting a) people you don't know who took the time to respond to your post and try to help and b) who are seriously some of the nicest women on here.

Hating on centerpeice and ninjaa isn't going to make you any friends here...

I think this would be wrong to do... I mean, you just had a post about how many events, showers, parties were going to be thrown for you and how involved your MOH is and you are considering essentially demoting all of your bridesmaids? Please don't.

Well, it looks like these ladies gave you some great ideas on how to work everything! I am not doing something too disimilar (standing alone that is), but my wedding is very small. I am only having immediate family, so my sister and SIL are sort of BMs without the title or job (not actually asking them to help. But if I had a bridal party they would have been in it). It is too bad you got over excited and already asked them, but I think it will still work out fine! Just make sure that you do what you can to give them some spotlight and let them know how thankful you are Also, I think if you feel strongly about your cousin and other friend being bridesmaids you should ask them. Are you dead set on only having 3 bridesmaids? I guess I just figure if they won't be standing with you anyway, it won't look unbalanced for you to have more than he has groomsmen!

I know you've already gotten your fair share of this, too, so please don't be mad. But I think Centerpiece might have just been trying to be cheeky about the "isle" thing. You spelled it right everywhere else. But on the other stuff, I think she Is just someone who is passionate about ettiquette (being someone who works in this industry and has probably seen it all). And I think her intention was just to keep you from doing something that will potentially hurt your bridesmaids' feelings. Which, of course, you acknowledge as people advised you against naming them "honourary."

I hope that helps more than hurts! Glad you seem to have more of a plan for what to do with your girls now!

@Kiwi and @FutureMrsDavis - Thank you both for the thoughtful comments!! I appreciate them and you've definitely helped me!

@bethie - Thank you! No worries. I'm not going to demote them. I didn't even know what "honorary bridesmaid truly meant. A girl at work just suggested it. That's why I came on here! For your helpful comments. So...thanks!! I agree with you.