BRIDESMAIDS...or not.

I think they should walk down the isle... but thats just me...

Ask the other girl if she wants to do a reading.

@centerpiece - you don't need to be so nasty. If it truly offended you, then maybe you shouldn't have commented. I was asking for OPINIONS and ADVICE. I have not decided anything. I came on here asking for honest opinions. And I got that from everyone except you. So bye bye.

@It'salovestory, What is going on with you right now? Centerpiece is one of the sweetest and most helpful people on WW. She wasn't nasty at all. I think you need to logout.

Just take a breath. Centerpiece is a really great person on this board and everyone loves her. You will too, just try not to take everything to heart.

@Centerpiece gave good advice. I say take it.

@Original - thank you. But I am someone who just does not have time for rudeness. And she is rude. Maybe everyone else does love her but she has made a really bad first impression. And I can't waste anymore of my time talking about her.

I had bridesmaids but I only wanted DH and I to be standing so they sat down in the front row. They did walk down the aisle. I wouldn't make them all honorary bridesmaids. It doesn't really make sense. You were better off not asking them.

This poster is making me miss @ourlovestory.

@Melissa - I think that's exactly what I'll do. Thanks for the suggestion!

Sorry Cats.

Centerpiece wasn't rude. Rude would be demoting your BMs after you've already asked them.

You guys have been so helpful! Thank you so much for the advice. I will still have bridesmaids but just have them sit during the ceremony. I didn't even know you could do that. I am still concerned that my other friend and my cousin will have hurt feelings. But, I have known the girl I asked longer. So hopefully she will understand.

Thanks again!!

It worked out beautifully for their ceremony. And I liked it because my shoes were MURDER on my feet, and I wasn't standing there fidgeting the whole time because I was uncomfortable. (I chose the shoes... They were comfortable for shorter periods of time.)

In their case, it also served to not make the front really unbalanced, as the groom didn't ask anyone to be a groomsman. (He didn't feel that he had a close enough guy friend to ask to stand up with him, and didn't want to ask someone just to have them up there.)

Centerpiece wasn't rude. She was honest. She did not call you names, use offensive language,etc.

We're protective of her. She's good people. If you're rude to her, you might not have much help from others in the future.

@TwoGeeks - awesome!! Thanks again! I'm actually really excited about this now!

Just wanted to say that Centerpieces wasn't rude, she was being honest and giving you advice. She is one of the sweetest people on this forum. She also gives some of the best and honest advice.

I think you are overthinking this and its a bit too late to make them honorary maids without some hurt feelings.

They don't need to wear matching dresses to be bridesmaids, the mix and match look is in these days. I also don't see the problem with only wanting you and you FH standing up there, sounds romantic. Personally as a bridesmaid I hated having to stand up the entire time so my bridal party will be sitting down.

If I may chime in, OP, I would do a bit more lurking on here before posting more. Yesterday you called Ninjaaaa rude and today it's Centerpiece. Both of these women are two of the most loved and respected women on WW. Everyone is trying to give you a chance because you are new here, but that will quickly stop if you keep calling WW regulars names. Just trying to help you out here.

My thought is this:

Just share your heart with them. Tell them that you want to include them on your special day and that they are impactful in your life. Have them be Bridesmaids, but redefine the duties and responsibilities as much as you want--including standing by your side on the alter. If they love you, know you, and want to support you, this won't be an issue. Just make sure you recognize them somehow whether it be having them walk down the aisle and then sit with the family, putting their names in the programs, having them sit at the same dinner table with you at the reception, etc. You do what you want.

BUT I would definitely sleep on this idea a few times before making any final decisions. Your wedding day is for you. Also, the situation might be a little different if you have already discussed different roles and responsibilities with them.

Careful taking a big newbie shit on Centerpiece... she is a highly regarded and respected member of this community. Keep up this attitude and perhaps the rest of WW will feel they can't be bothered with you either.

I would feel honored if Centerpiece were to ever reply to my thread. Her responses are always well thought out, honest and on point. Always. If you think she is rude... well buckle up, it's going to be a rough ride for you.