bridesmaids: matching vs non matching

@Greene My bridesmaid had actually suggested that too, shes been in a few weddings and the same dress looks more put together. Like everyone looks equally good if that makes sense.

I like matching as well at least color wise. Given different body types I think it's fine to mix and match styles so that everyone feels beautiful.

I like all matching. I think photos look too busy when the bms are wearing a bunch of different styles.

I think same dress can be tough if the bridesmaids have vastly different figures. Even alterations may not help. And you certainly want to pick BMs on the basis of friendship/relationships, not size.

I'm also a fan of matching. But I didn't think about different hairstyles, I like that idea

I'm in the minority here and opted for mismatching. Trying to find a dress that fit all body types and skin tones was giving me anxiety. I let everyone pick a long, blush colored dress. I've got everything from beaded to chiffon to Floral dresses. It's not everyone's cup of tea but I'm happy with it!

I'm not a fan of the whole let your BM's pick their own dress thing, way too much room for them to look awful together (and people occasionally choose things that don't look good on them, guilty as charged). Even dresses the exact same color can look bad together because fabrics are different. I chose a few dresses that are universally flattering for them to choose from. This way I know the dresses still match but they don't have to look like clones.

Also, they basically get to choose what they wear for any other event they go to so asking them to comply for one thing doesn't seem that awful or unreasonable to me.

I am adamant about my bridesmaids matching but one of my bridesmaids is not happy about it, she has been trying to convince me it will be fine if they all pic their own deesses and that I should just tell them a color. I am hoping she will come around and we can all decide on a dress asap. I feel like I want my pictures to look a certain way, and matching dresses is part of that. Unfortunately, all my bridesmaid live in different areas, so I have been trying to go the online route and it has been difficult. It is also impotmrtant to me that all the dresses are modest.

I let my friends pick their dresses and told them it could match or not match. It just happened that they all picked the same dress and it looked great on all of them so they will be matching.

@Jallisa I'd encourage to see my last point above...they get to pick what they wear the rest of their lives, one day won't kill them. I know we aren't supposed to refer to being a BM as a job, however they do have the job of showing up day of in the dress of your choosing, and sometimes jobs have uniforms. This uniform is the dress you choose.

@Blair that is a great idea! Thank you! I am actually in an airport as we speak and I will be seeing the BM that wants to pick her own dress later today. Hopefully she will like that idea.

My bridesmaids are all matching. I really dislike the look of mismatched dresses! They can wear whatever jewelry they like and do their hair and makeup however though

I had everyone match. However I picked the color but let the BMS collectively try on different dresses and all agree on one they liked. It is possible. We had a busty girl and a bigger girl and a tall girl and a short girl and a very petite girl and they style worked well on all of them. They loved it because it had pockets and an more empire waist but wasn't form fitting so the skirt fit everyone nicely.

Honestly, I have four younger sisters who are all in my wedding party, and none of them could agree on a dress they all liked. I knew the color scheme, length, and general style I was looking for. I found about fifteen dresses I liked and let them choose from there. They all then got to pick something that fit their style within what I was looking for. It worked best for me and saved me from a lot of headaches lol.

I went to azazie and made a list of dresses they could pick from. If they are slightly different it was ok, but they are enough a like that they don't look off together. Or you could work with your girls who wears what. All the same is simpler. There are lots of ways this can be done. Good luck.

I am having all my girls in different dresses. I gave them a designer, fabric color and length. I figured one or two would pick the same dresss (I have 7girls) but everyone is different . I feel like their dresses go bc there is some consistency with fabrics and such.

I wanted my girls to match but I let them pick the dress. I gave them color and length and they decided together. I only had 3 though so that made it easier for them to agree.

I'm the opposite. I initially wanted my three girls to pick but the more I thought about it the harder i thought it would be to get it together since everyone's in different places. So when we went shopping we found a dress all three liked so now my girls are matching dresses

My girls were essentially all in the same dress except for the top portion of the dresses. I gave them the color, length, and material and let them choose whichever dress they felt most comfortable in. I had a wide range of ages & body types (my 14 year old sister and my 26 year old cousin for example), and my cousin thanked me several times for letting her pick her own dress. My thought was that they are spending $130-160, I would hate for them to have to wear something that they don't like, and it can be difficult to find one style that looks good on everyone.

I'm having all my girls in the same designer, color, and length, but they're able to choose which neckline and skirt style (either fitted or more of a flared skirt) which we all felt was a good compromise on matching while still wanting to make sure the girls felt comfortable/like themselves.