Bridesmaids in white ok? Colour Scheme?

Simona!

Welcome to WW!

About the white question, honestly I would have sworn it was the bride that had objections for her BMs wearing white, would never have thought all BMs would be against it. What is their reason? Is it in anyway negotiable? If it seems totally not working can you try and off-white color for them and see what they would think? With the dress issue I feel its always dicey when you get BMs that refuse ur choice of things, especially when it is just based on color, frankly this is the first. But try a little negotiating and see.

About the color i'd step aside and let the other ladies answer, gotta run and I cant find inspirational pics right now.

happy planning and welcome again

I think you should do everything in white and the BM dresses in champagne or another really pale pastel color! You did say you needed a soft color touch so make the dresses the touch!

I am very fond of white and pink weddings. Or white, champagne and pink.

Hey, Princess Kate had her gals in white. Why not?!

I disagree with BM in white. I will always say only the bride in white. I have to agree with your BM's.

I toyed with putting my BMs in white and even asked my mom if she wanted to wear white, and they all revolted. I think that it's so ingrained in our heads not to wear white to other people's weddings, that they would have felt rude and uncomfortable, even though I had asked them to wear it? IDK.

This is one of the few things where I say to you that it's your wedding, and if you have the vision of your BMs in white, stick to it. You have to make sure the dress you pick fits their budget and that they're comfortable, but if you're really set on the color, that should be that. You can always go online and find some inspiration pics to send them. Sometimes people just can't visualize things, so the inspiration pics help.

I asked my BMs to get mismatched champagne cocktail dresses. They revolted at first too b/c they thought they needed to match, but I put my little feet down and it was exactly what I wanted!

That might work for you actually, if you want a soft look...

You might actually like our color scheme if you like soft colors - the guys were in grey, girls in champagne, flowers were yellow, reception decor was white and yellow.

Carole M's daughter Kate also had a beautiful wedding with very soft colors - lots of soft pinks, very pretty and romantic looking.

And MrsO had a very soft color palette - I want to say navy, peaches and greens if I recall correctly?

IMHO, the bride should be the only on ein white UNLESS SHE wants to do something different. You certainly wouldn't be the first bride to do this and won't be the last. If it is what you really want, then see if there is any compromise with the girls. Aside from the sash, maybe they could wear those those cute little jackets or shawls too. The bridemaids should be willing to suck it up and make the bride happy. On th other side of this, you don't want your girls to feel uncomfortable either, so maybe ivory or champagne colors would work. One other thing you can try is to print out a bunch of pictures of weddings (like Princess Kate's) where the bridesmaids are in white, it might make them feel more comfortable seeing that others have done it this way.

IMHO, the bride should be the only on ein white UNLESS SHE wants to do something different. You certainly wouldn't be the first bride to do this and won't be the last. If it is what you really want, then see if there is any compromise with the girls. Aside from the sash, maybe they could wear those those cute little jackets or shawls too. The bridemaids should be willing to suck it up and make the bride happy. On th other side of this, you don't want your girls to feel uncomfortable either, so maybe ivory or champagne colors would work. One other thing you can try is to print out a bunch of pictures of weddings (like Princess Kate's) where the bridesmaids are in white, it might make them feel more comfortable seeing that others have done it this way.

I think them wearing white is a really cool idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love breaking tradition and if that is something you like too, do ittttttt!

If I was a BM at your wedding, I would refuse to wear white. Of course, that is because white is a horrid "non-color" for me. LOL!

If you want them in white, I do not see an issue with it. Although, if you are also in white, I think the guests will not appreciate your color scheme. It will all look the same, and, IMHO, boring.

They're trying to be respectful of you as the bride. So maybe opt to have them in a soft pastel of your choice since you're thinking of softening all the white. I think it's awesome especially since you have a black? sash to go around their waist to help mark that they're not the bride. You could have them in an off white like the ladies have suggested. Still within the white family but it might be more comfortable for them.

Why not? Nothing wrong with white! It is nontraditional, but maybe you are too! I, myself, didn't actually wear a white dress. Mine was champagne.

If you don't want pink, think maybe gray or light blue or soft sage or something?

Your wedding sounds like it will be lovely! Ethereal.

Your BM should be wearing whatever color you want them in. I think pastels would be pretty. Before I chose my colors, I was gonna have my MOH wear white and I where the color.

Wow ladies! thank you lovely ones so much for your responses (wheter agreeing or disagreeing)

you were definitively a huge help! absulutely loved the champaign idea! thanks so much and have a great day!

cheers

Kris, have I told you love seeing pics of you and bridal party! beautiful! I think champagne is a great idea, glad you like is simona, it will just set you off from your girls.... I was also going to suggest a soft blush.... you know almost white, but just a hint of pink, that might look nice as well.

pastels are great for weddings... I say go for it

I dont think it is a bad idea. i would never go for it myself, because ive been blending in for 23 years and dammit i want the spotlight, but for you if thats what you want then i say go for it. Your bridesmaids should wear what YOU want them to wear. Mine dont really want to wear silver either but they are doing it. At my sister's wedding, even the guys were in white, so it happens. I wouldnt make EVERYTHING white, though, that would be a little boring. Add some colored flowers, sashes, and ribbons throughout your decor

I wouldnt think it takes spotlight off if they were wearing white because i am in the long dress and they in the shorter version. i just looove people in white i just want to show you what i intended before you came up with the champagne colour!

I think your girls are refusing cause they want you to stand out. (I would probably as a BM refuse too, cause it's my friends one day to shine) I wouldn't refuse to the point she'd kick me out but Id try and discourage her. I recommend some light pastel dresses for them and white for you.

Tell them back in the day bmaids actually used to wear the same color as the bride, you just want to follow tradition :p

"The Western bridesmaid tradition is thought to have originated from Roman Law, which required ten witnesses at a wedding in order to outsmart evil spirits (believed to attend marriage ceremonies) by dressing in identical clothing to the bride and groom, so that the evil spirits would not know who was getting married. Even as late as 19th century England, there was a belief that ill-wishers could administer curses and taint the wedding. In Victorian wedding photographs, for example, the bride and groom are frequently dressed in the same fashion as other members of the bridal party"