Bridesmaids Have Bailed!!!!

Be less demanding. If all of them have bailed there is a probably a reason why.

Are you giving them "duties" that they don't want to do? All mine had to do was show up at the wedding in their dresses.

Plus, with your wedding next month, you risk losing friendship and money - assuming the dresses are paid for.

Seems like there is a common factor if ALL of them bailed.

Why have they bailed? For ALL of them to bail something is up.

Nay, she just means they didn't "help" during the planning. They are not your servants - they are your friends. It is up to you and your husband to plan the wedding - it's not your bridesmaids' duty. All they need to do is have the dress & shoes, go to the rehearsal and dinner, and show up the day of. If they plan a bachelorette party, that's awesome too. It's not their job to help you make seating charts, DIY projects, etc.

I think its nerves getting the best of you. Pointing fingers at this point in the game is not going to help anything. And guests will likely look poorly upon you to be standing solo at the altar. I would have a sit down talk with your girls and clear ALL the air. You wedding is extremely important to you, and if they are worthy of being an attendant then they want it to be memorable too. Find out why everyone is *bailing* and what needs to be done to better that situation. There are reasons - some you may not like. But nothing is going to get fixed with a tantrum and a punt from the bridal party. Good luck, hope it all works out.

I have clearly miscommunicated my thoughts because I am by no means throwing a tantrum or expecting anything from my bridesmaids. There are two that I can not even get ahold of to find out where they have their dresses and shoes yet. I planned a Invitation stuffing party at my mothers house because there were 200 invitations that had to be assembled (which was my one and only requirement of them) only one showed up and she left after an hour. Why have friends if they're not going to be there for you when you need them. I don't mean BAILING in terms of abandoning the wedding, I mean bailing out on all of the process. By the way, none of them have said anything about a shower, or bachelorette party.

My wedding has been planned. As I said before I have NO EXPECTATIONS of them at this point than to be reachable so that I can make sure that they have all of the information that they need. I have hairstylist, make-up artist, and photographers coming on that day for them and I can't even get a returned phone call to confirm that they're receiving my emails.

I know that I am not over reacting. I just think that "friends" would not go from calling once a week to not calling at all for MONTHS. Especially when they know that I am getting married in 6 weeks.

They definitely need to get the dress and shoes, but they don't really have to help you with anything else. It's nice if they do, but it shouldn't ruin a friendship. They probably have busy, full lives of their own.

They SHOULD pick up the phone though! That definitely sounds annoying. :/

If they don't have a dress and shoes yet I would consider them not in the wedding at this point. Unfortunately, you find out who your true friends are during wedding planning. If they can't communicate let them go and save the money on hair and make up.

Well I am confident that I am the problem. I understand that they don't HAVE to do anything. The groom does not HAVE to show up on the day of but that outcome is not desirable. My concern is that I have women in my wedding that are not REAL friends. Everyone has a busy life but we make time for what we want to make time for and I don't believe that good friends don't AT LEAST offer support when someone they call a "sister" is getting married. It will definitely burn the friendships, my question is will it look crazy with all groomsmen?

Im thinking I am just going to pull out the AX and save myself from the title of Bridezilla on my wedding day.

Just to be clear, the stylist and MAU and photographer are there for your wedding, not for 4 of you friends.

You say you had no expectations, EXCEPT stuffing your wedding invitations. You chose to send out 200 invitations, not them, why should they have to do that work? I designed, printed, hand cut, assembled and addressed over 100 invitations by myself because it is what I wanted.

When was the last time you called them and asked about what was going on in their lives? and been genuinely interested, not fishing to see if the reasons they aren't doing whatever it you think they need to be are valid?

The Make Up, Hair, and Photography (Pre-Wedding) is for the entire wedding party. I am paying for them. Second, everyone has different expectations for those who they call "friend" I don't want individuals in my life that don't who don't invest in me as much as I invest in them. Jet. You know nothing about my character, situation, or contribution to my friends friends lives, so don't get on this discussion board and act like you know me. YOU DONT. MY EXPECTATION is that they helped me with the invitations because they ALL agreed that they would. Real friends don't leave you hanging at the last minute and send you a text message telling you they can't make it two hours after the event has started. I don't know how you operate with your friends but if that is acceptable behavior in your opinion then you can have all of their contact information because all four of them will be looking for new friends after 7.27.2014. Third, CLEARLY I KNOW WHAT THEY DONT "HAVE" TO DO BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT DOING ANYTHING.

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LMBO!!! I am going to have to steal that picture. That is hilarious!

In answer to your thread, yes, all groomsmen will look strange, IMO. You are only a few weeks out, hang in there! Friends don't give up on friends. Talk to them. There is clearly some unresolved issues. Good luck!

Well don't you play well with others?