Bridesmaids & Groomsman issue

You could always have them walk down the aisle but not stand with you. They can take a seat in the front row after they walk

View Quoted Comment I never thought of it that way, thank you!

Is he not planning on having a best man? This is a little unorthodox.

View Quoted Comment Nope not even a best man, his best friend just recently moved and can’t attend the wedding at all.

View Quoted Comment So sad! Would you want to live Skype him in or something similar? He can’t attend at all?

View Quoted Comment Yes, that is what we are thinking!

Oh it's a shame you'd already asked your girls before his plans were set in stone? We're still not openly talking about our parties until we know for sure if my FH's cousins can get visas or not because we might replace the two of them with a backup if not. 😂 And if nobody knows, we can't offend anyone! Lol
For your situation, I think PP's suggestion of sitting down might work. I would think generally the bridesmaids should be downplayed in the ceremony in your case. I don't think it has to look weird if you ask them to take a seat or stand half and half on either side as you said. Unorthodox isn't a problem! 😊

Would he be ok with three standing on his side? Or as PP said, they could walk down the aisle but sit in the front row or something. My FH isn’t sure which of his groomsmen can come (everyone lives out of state) so we are having my Man of Honor stand with him. It won’t be even but it is what it is at this point.

I agree with the previous comments - they could walk down the aisle, and then be seated in a reserved row at the front of the ceremony.

You can just have them not stand up front during the ceremony. Reserve seats for them up front

View Quoted Comment For sure! thank you for input.

View Quoted Comment Yeah i suggested that idea and he is ok with it.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your idea!

He's an adult so it's his choice. Nothing to 'deal with'. You have two legal witnesses (or whichever number is required by your state) to sign the marriage license.


He doesn't need honorary attendants either if he decided not to choose regular ones Most people feel that being a guest is an honor in itself.

View Quoted Comment Very true! thank you.

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We didn’t have a wedding party but I still had my best friends get ready with me. I gave them the option to get hair and makeup done. I basically treated them like bridesmaids, they just got to pick their own dresses and sit with their husbands during the ceremony.

View Quoted Comment Gotcha! thanks for your input