Bridesmaids across the country

Mine was two hours away and the other 10 hours. It was fine. They made it to my shower and threw me a bach party. They were amazing on the wedding day.

I'm like that. We are in South Carolina but my bridesmaids are in Maryland and Missouri and here. 95% of our guests are out of state. I just picked out the color and told them to get the dress. I don't care what it is, as long as it is the same color (Malibu from davids bridal) and floor length. Seems like too much if an effort to make sure everyone wears the same things.

Bridesmaids in KS and MN. I'm in CO. I gave them a color and a website or two of dresses I liked for reference for them. Told them to have it and choose what they like. They ran their choices by me, so it all worked out. I didn't have anyone but my mom with me at my dress purchase, so that wasn't a issue. My MOH in KS threw me a family-oriented shower/bachelorette weekend and I just told my MN maid to come if should could (she's also a cousin, so not awkward). I text or email once a month maybe about stupid crap, like whether they want hair/makeup, whether they want to do nails together, or sending a day-of timeline. It's honestly been a breeze. I'm also crazy low maintenance about this stuff and don't require a ton of coordination or matching.

Mine are all over the country as well. I gave them a color, fabric and length from Azazie to get their dress. Beyond that I sent them an email to tell them what time the rehearsal and wedding is and that’s about it!

Hi! I live in Minnesota and my bridesmaids are all over the place as well. They live 6 hours away lower in the state, in Pennsylvania, in Virginia, and in Connecticut. We set up a Facebook page for our communications. It's been helpful.
I made sure all dress options were either online purchases or available through Davids Bridal since that's all over the country.
One from out of state flew in for my bachelorette party, the others just weren't there and it was ok.

Hi Amy! I feel like this is very common, as a lot of times your bridesmaids are people who you've been friends with since your childhood and have moved away from one another! I would recommend having a group chat or a Facebook group so that there's a central place where you all can communicate! As for the dresses, you can give them references or colors and have them order online depending on if you want them to match or not!

Also be super careful about doing a group text too early. Those get annoying real quick! I’m 6 weeks away from my wedding and I still haven’t group texted my bridesmaids.

There's not really anything your bridesmaids need to be local for. Even if you want everyone in the same dress, you can have them call the shop and give their measurements, or choose to use an online shop like Azazie.

I will. MOH is in Florida. BMs are in Houston, Chicago, and Washington D.C. I'm in Austin and the wedding will be in Dripping Springs.

We're going with Azazie and I'm providing a color, length, and fabric.

As far as anything else, I'll be sending one comprehensive email about 10 months out that will have the attire and hotel, rehearsal, and wedding information.

I don't expect my wedding party to come to any pre-wedding events (shower, engagement dinner) but they will certainly be invited to everything.

I'm from Texas and I have two girls from New Mexico and one for Arkansas and then one from here in Texas with me.. I text them a lot that's kinda the only way for me to communicate with them.

I do! I have 9 bridesmaids. I'm also in Colorado, and 1 bridesmaid is here too! The others are in southern & northern California, South Dakota, Arizona, and Wisconsin! It hasn't been too bad so far. I sent their proposal boxes in the mail. I picked out an online dress company, so they can just order online. My MOH is planning my bachelorette & bridal shower in California (4 of them live) so the Wisconsin & South Dakota ones can't make it (I totally understand!). They obviously aren't going dress shopping and all that but it's been totally fine!

I am in the midwest & one of my bridesmaids is on the west coast. I sent her a proposal box via mail. We have a fb group where she can stay up to date, I can always call/text of course also. I told her bridal shower & bachelorette party were optional bc it’s inconvenient & not necessary to make her have to travel so much, but she’s welcome to join! The only thing I care abt is her getting her dress/shoes (online) & showing up to the rehearsal & wedding. We just communicate as normal.

My bridesmaids are all over as well! MOH is in Connecticut, rest of my bridal party are from California, Massachusetts, and Florida. Fiancee's bridal party are coming from Alabama, Washington DC, Alaska, and one is traveling back home from an Ireland internship to be there. We are in North Carolina. We've got a Facebook group going. We made sure all had David's Bridals near us so they could order their dresses. We also talked to them about how we would love for them to be there for the weekend so we can do our bachelorette party on Friday before the wedding on Sunday. We don't expect any bridal showers or anything because everybody is out of town. Really the only things that have needed discussing are dresses, hair, makeup, a possible nail appointment, what we will be wearing to get ready, and itineraries. (: It's been pretty easy but I definitely missed them during certain parts of our planning.

My bridesmaids are across the world...I have one in Johannesburg (South Africa), one in London, one in Hong Kong and then the other three are in New York and I am in Atlanta.

The only difficulty was the dresses, as they couldn't be shipped overseas so I had to make a plan to get it to them. Luckily the friend in South Africa came to the States and got her dress; I had another friend bring the one to Hong Kong and my Mom bring the one to London when she went through. If I wasn't lucky enough to have people bring them I would have had to pay for shipping, which would have been costly. With your bridesmaids being in the US though, I can't imagine there being any issues?

Hey Amy! I'm another bride dealing with this but mainly because I moved to Asia haha. I'm planning from over here while 4 of my bridesmaids are on the west coast, one is on the east, one is in northern Canada and one is in Columbia. Mainly just msg them when I want an opinion, gave them an outline for dress choice including colour but I want mismatched dresses so it works out Good luck! You'll be fine

Yes, only one of mine is local. All they have to is buy the dress and show up. I face timed with each of them to talk about the dresses they liked and I texted or facebook messaged to confirm they ordered it and answer any questions about their travel and if they wanted hair and makeup. That's it. We're all adults so I know they can coordinate the trip. That's all they need to do and I can't wait to see them all!

I just made it clear to them at the beginning that all I expected from them was to get their dress and come to the rehearsal and wedding. You have to be understanding that they might not be able to come to the shower and bachellorette party if they need to pay for flights/ take time off. Then you might end up like me with the best surprise when one flies across the country to come to your shower!!!

Yup mine are all over too. I have my MOH in DC most of the time and Eastern Europe the rest of the time (she works for the State department and covers parts of Eastern Europe right now so has to make frequent trips to the embassies there - sometimes for a month at a time). My other friend BM is in NYS - central NY, and my sisters are in NYS (capital region), Iceland and Japan. One sister is our Herald instead of a BM because she isnt into the whole girly wedding thing but is an AMAZING trumpet player so is perfectly happy to learn 3 pieces and get a suit and play for us on the day. The others I gave a color palette to and told them any long, long sleeved dress they wanted fit for a New England winter wedding is perfect. And if they wanted the sleeves could be a little jacket or shrug as long as they have them for the ceremony and pictures. And I told them coordinated shoes that they would be comfortable wearing in the snow. I'm not at all fussy about style - we are doing a Celtic medieval fairy tale winter fantasy theme so anything that fits into that works. The dress code on my website just says to wear something you would wear to the Yule Ball at Hogwarts if you were invited. (Our venue LOOKS like the Great Hall of Hogwarts!)

I understand that my 2 furthest sisters probably wont be able to make anything before the wedding weekend but that is ok. And my Japanese sister might just come in a kimono - also totally cool with me, I just want them all there on the day.

Also my nephews and niece are in Iceland so they will be in the wedding - the 13 year old will be an usher and the other 2 will be my flower girl and ring bearer (8 and 3 respectively).