Hey everyone! I'm mostly just here to vent, but glad to hear any advice if you've been in a similar situation.
I have 5 bridesmaids in my party. 2 sisters and my 3 closest friends. I've been engaged for a while and my bridesmaids were asked to be in my party about 8 months ago.
So one of my bridesmaids (let's call her Ann) just got engaged last week, and they are planning a quick turn-around wedding for the end of August. It's a formal event with 100 guests. Ann and I have been friends for 12 years and our friendship has always been long distance and we would get together a few times a year when possible. I always expected that we would be bridesmaids in each others' weddings, unless one of us decided to elope or not have a bridal party or something.
Well Ann sent me her wedding website which includes the bridal party, and so I learned this way that I am not being invited to join as a bridesmaid. She has 2 girls in her party, and her FH has 3, so I wasn't excluded to keep the parties even. I'm pretty sure her MOH isn't local to her, so living far away doesn't seem to be the reason either. I'm pretty hurt that she didn't at least talk to me about it. I realize that she is under no obligation to ask me to be a bridesmaid just to "return the favor" and I would understand if there was a specific reason she chose to just stick with 2 girls, but I don't really see a reason so it feels like she's hiding something or just doesn't care about our friendship.
Am I right to feel a little hurt? I'm tempted to just let it go because I don't want to add further stress to her quick wedding planning, but I also feel like I'm going to feel awkward with her at my own wedding events. It feels rude to bring it up, as I would never directly ask someone to be part of their wedding party. I'm just worried there's something deeper that's a problem, but maybe I'm overthinking it?