One of my bridesmaid's SO is a registered sex offender. The offense happened over 10 years ago, but it still makes me uneasy. They have been a couple for two years and live together so it is a serious relationship AND she is a bridesmaid, so I know her SO would typically get an invite. My FH and I are really uneasy about inviting someone with this kind of record to our wedding, especially considering the offense involved a child. We are really leaning toward not inviting him, but I know it may cause a rift in our friendship. We have been friends for over 15 years and I really don't want to lose her as a friend or a bridesmaid, but I also don't want this lingering in my mind on my wedding day. I also feel an obligation to the friends and family of the children that will be present. Am I being over protective to not invite him? Should my friend understand? I'm also worried if this blows up, my other friends may side with her and feel I am being unreasonable.
This is my first time posting on any kind of forum, but I just want some advise without outing this situation to other people that know my friend.