Bridesmaid "Proposal"

I did it. I ordered labels

for mini champagne bottles and labels for glasses on Etsy. I just saw they have cute bridesmaid proposal cards at AC Moore and Target (dollar spot).

I sent boxes to our entire bridal party. Ill attach pics

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Honestly you don't have to do anything except pick up the phone, or go for dinner or just hang out and ask. I am sure that there has never been a BM out there who was going to say no until they saw the proposal boxes. Also you hear stories of BM who did feel pressure to say yes because of the way they were asked.

Also wait till 6-9 months before wedding before you ask anyone.

I know a lot of WW users that don't like this idea. I personally made bridesmaid proposal boxes. My BMs are all over the country; I really enjoyed putting them together. I didn't spend a lot of money, I put them together in one weekend. I delivered three of them and mailed the others. Everyone loved them and I felt super accomplished at the whole girly wedding thing lol.

Call them, in November or December, and just ask them.

I didn't do it.

I do know that it puts people on the spot and can guilt them into saying yes. My friend had this happen to her and she felt obligated to say yes.

I sent them all a sweet card which I think was more than enough.

I put together cute floral gift bags with mini bottles of wine and champagne. A little bag of popcorn. A stemless wine glass that said "bride tribe". A nail polish picked out specifically for each girl. Then also made a card to ask them! It was a cheap but special way to ask. One BM lives out of the country but I talked with her after to ensure she actually wanted and was able to be a BM. I made it clear that i didn't want her to feel pressured but would love her to be a part of it!

I did, I got my girls boxes with a cute emergency kit along with some treats (chocolates and small gifts, as most of them are underage and don't prefer "girly" items). They loved them and they loved that I did more than just ask, not that they wouldn't love that as well. I would say keep them cheap and simple, though. Don't be over the top like I was!

I talked to them first over the phone. Then once I knew for sure who could and who couldn't (one said no, she's had health issues and is pregnant and fearful of travel- totally understandable), I made little boxes with stuff I know they liked, and gave them their earrings for the wedding.

I did not. But my younger sister was a brat about it and asked when I was going to "officially" ask her with a gift. I said she doesn't need to be a BM. That shut her up

@Vicki those puzzle cards are so cute!

Most of my bridesmaids were married before me and they got me small proposal gifts (bottle of wine, snacks etc) so I plan to reciprocate. But I'm not trying to impress the hell out of these ladies by thinking up something super witty, unless it comes naturally to me. Whether or not they accept will hopefully not be dependent on how cute my card is

I gave my girls a jar candle from Yankee Candle called, "Wedding Day," and put a little note asking to stand by my side.

I bought pretty cards for them (my two younger sisters) and wrote a sweet note about how much they mean to me and how I would love them to be next to me when I get married. There was never any doubt that they would be my bridesmaids, they already kind of knew but I enjoyed writing out the cards because I love them so much.

I made a small gift box for my bridesmaids. I only have 4 girls so it wasn't a huge investment and it was fun for me to put it together. I printed my own labels for the champagne bottle, found a cheap candle and the boxes at target, got mini size products through birchbox with a coupon code, and I think I already had the filler items from my craft stock. Then I wrapped them in a pretty bow. And everything I ordered I also used ebates to get an additional % off. Every little bit counts.

I did it.. it was fun to put together and super appreciated!

I did it; I got some cute decorative boxes from Michael's. I added a bottle of nail polish, a little notebook, a cute pencil, a necklace, some chocolates, and a handmade card. The girls really liked them and thought it was a really nice gesture. They all wear the necklaces regularly!

I just wanted to add that someone posted yesterday about their groom asking his groomsmen with a broposal box and the reactions were literally all positive. But when a woman does it for her bridesmaids, there are a lot of negative reactions. It doesn't make sense to me. It seems like a double standard and really bothers me, especially considering it's a very nice and loving gesture for those closest to you. I've never met anyone who was like "UGH my friend got me a gift! So annoying!" They can always say no. IMO I think it's just as much pressure to ask them without a gift. Anyway, rant over...

IMO, the over the top proposals are great if that is your personality. My MoH and I are not like that. I am only having her by my side and it was assumed. I literally texted her and said "obviously you're my MoH"... Then a few weeks later I sent her this coffee mug (she has a small collection of mugs) from etsy (the Snapchat caption is after she received it-we live half a continent apart):