Bridesmaid Jewelry as a gift-is this now tacky and rude?!

I gave my girls earrings as part of their gift. I had never heard of that. Lots of ladies do give jewelery. I think that is stupid whoever came up with it.

The girls did not have to wear the earrings for the wedding. I just thought it was a nice gift and something they could enjoy for years to come.

If so then consider me tacky, I bought them earrings and a necklace to wear. I have a few other things for them as well but I think that is a lame rule.

Yeah Ive never heard of that either... I thought it was pretty common to give jewelery. Im personally not, but I had thought about it. (truth is I have terrible taste lol!)

I think jewelry is a fabulous gift as long as you pick something that your girls will like and wear.

I bought them all earrings and a bracelet, we're not doing necklaces. I made jewelry shopping as stressful as can be by picking something Kohl's didn't keep online. I also ordered the personalized hangers (still waiting for them) and will most likely do a clutch. I also would need to get them gifts for hosting my bridal shower and bachlorette party, and I want it to be things that are easily re-usable.

Wow, that makes no sense. How is it not a gift? I know I spent a lot of time shopping for my bridesmaids' jewelry. I bought them each a nice set of pearls and since they all had different dresses and different personalities, I got something unique and personal for each one. I considered them gifts and so did they!

I get the IDEA behind it. (You're "making" them wear it, so it's more like a uniform for the day of... blah blah blah) People are just too sensitive, IMO.... It's always been a bridesmaid gift staple, I don't see anything wrong with it.

Wellll....b/c you're giving it to them to all look the same and your pictures, etc. etc. It's more for you than for them. I think some people do put a lot of thought into it though which is better.

Having been in my sisters and my cousins wedding and received jewelry for both, I never wore either set a single time after. In theory it's nice but tastes for jewelry are not the same.

That being said I am doing sunglasses and bracelets but not expecting them to be worn during the day, but I do want the sunglasses for pictures. My fiance is getting his groomsmen matching ties, for uniform/pictures. Maybe they won't wear them again but at least they don't have to buy them.

Anyway I don't think it's TACKY or RUDE, that's a little excessive. I read the knot forums sometimes and those girls are so MEAN sometimes!

I'm tacky then lol I bought my ladies all jewelry.

I think they meant that if it's something you're getting for them to wear in the wedding, it's a requirement, not a real "gift." Honestly, this is a stupid rule though. As long as your bridesmaids will actually like the jewelry and wear it again, it's a gift. I think it's beyond stupid for anyone but you to dictate what you can and can't give your bridesmaids. After all, they're your friends. What do some random people from the internet know about what they'd like for gifts? If you think jewelry is good, go for it!

This is news to me. I got my BMs bracelets as their main gift....

Christina beat me to it! The girls on the knot are basically saying that a gift to be used (probably only) for YOUR wedding isn't always seen as a thoughtful gift.

That being said, I'm still providing my girls jewelry. But I am also giving them things that are not for the wedding, and simply for them. And I also agree, those TK girls are harsh. I started there, but once I found WW, I switched fast

I've gotten a couple pieces of jewelry for being a bridesmaid (to wear at the wedding). One was a dainty gold necklace that I still wear from time to time. Another actually had nickel in the pendant, which I am VERY allergic to. Had hives after the wedding for about a week. So no, I don't wear it ever. This allergy is very common, make sure you think of this if you do get jewelry.

TK is too stuffy for me. Although it's not always seen as a thoughtful gift since they have to wear it in the wedding, it's still a gift. I got all my girls their jewelry and plan to get them all a wine glass that's painted.

It's definitely a gift...

bridesmaids don't agree to the job because of gifts anyway! It's just supposed to be a token of your appreciation.

I like the idea of personalizing the jewelry for each one.

I am not doing jewelry, but not because I think it's tacky or rude.

I've gotten jewelry as a BM in every wedding and I have worn it all again at one point. This also saves the girls money because for every wedding your in you'd want something new for that day, we're women that's how we work lol! I did jewelry and also slippers for after . Your fine get the jewelry !

@lynzey what does that mean?? Lol

I'm sorry but the woman on The Knot are VERY rude, it didn't matter what I posted in the forums I always got bashed no matter what. I'm thankful for Wedding Wire, you girls are amazing. Anyways, I bought bracelets for my girls. My mom bought bracelets for us girls when she had her wedding (July 2012). Giving your girl's jewelery is far from tacky, don't listen to those ladies, do what you want to do and give the girls what you think they will like!

I am giving my BM jewelry to wear, but I am giving them other things too. I don't think it is tacky just to give jewelry, but I can see why giving them something in addition to jewelry is a good idea.

I think it more tacky to not tell them what they are expect to wear until the night before the wedding and the to give a useless item. I am planning on getting my girls jewelery. The only time I didn't receive jewelry was for my brother's wedding and my SIL told use at 9:30 pm friday for 10 am sat. wedding that she wanted us to wear pearls. At the time neither my mom nor I owned. Talk about a mad scramble end up a Walmart.

I think the thought is that if you expect them to wear it on your wedding day because you want them to all look the same, it's not a gift, it's part of their "uniform." However, if it's something that they could wear everyday, and you also suggest they wear it at the wedding, then I think that is silly.