Bridesmaid Jewelry as a gift-is this now tacky and rude?!

I bought my BMs the necklaces I want them to wear and also a small trinket box - my thinking was: even if they never wear the necklace again they will still have the trinket box!

I wont be following it either as I have purchased some really pretty and not cheap jewelry for my MOH's from Tracy Lynn, plus their clutches that they are carrying in place of bouquets are a gift as well, with little essentials on the inside of them.

I don't post over on TK because the one time I did in my local board asking a generic question with specifics I got told off for not having a ceremony time officially set and this girl gave me the list of what she was doing which was not even close to what I asked for me. Done with that. I now just spend 5 min on Sunday night catching up on 3 posts.

I hope that my jewelry is wearable because they all the love the dress and have many plans to re-wear it. Also, they discussed the type of jewelry they would like to wear before I even thought about it!

The rule is if you expect them to wear it as part of the bridesmaid outfit the day of the wedding then it is a no no. If you don't expect them to wear it the day of the wedding it is fine.

I don't think so... i'm giving all my BM's earrings to wear the day of the wedding... i am giving other things too but i've been in 2 weddings where all we got was jewlery for the wedding and i was okay with that- less i have to try and figure out myself! LOL

Im giving my girls a nice rhinestone silver necklace to wear during the ceremony, but its tasteful enough that it can be worn anywhere and look nice with any outfit.

@Amy that's the truth.

Poppycock. Imagine yourself as a bridesmaid: would you think jewelry was a tacky gift? Probably not. I think it's lovely, especially when it's personalized in some way. I plan to do pendants that use each girl's initial and birthstone, but you could use charms representing their hobbies, some reference to an inside joke, anything that says you put some thought into it. Although that doesn't mean it has to be complicated, simple and elegant = versatile, and everyone likes that. Don't worry about TK's downers (they do have plenty) and do what you feel is right.

Never heard that one...

I got a lovely pearl necklace & bracelet as a bridesmaid gift and we all wore them on the wedding day. But I've also worn them since! I didn't think it was rude at all because it came from the heart.

When I've been a bridesmaid, I've always gotten jewelry as a gift (2 times!). I have to admit, it's not always my everyday wear style, but I've loved it and worn it again!

I don't think you have to worry, but that's definitely my personal opinion.

Why would that be considered rude? It's okay to want your BMs to have the same or similar jewelry. I don't get it.

People are offended way too easily these days.

I actually asked my MOH's boyfriend for ideas. Ours is a casual DW and I know she's really picky about jewelry and knick knack things so I wanted something different. They do motorcycle runs and take long weekends on the bike, so he suggested a hip purse that goes around her waist that she can use while on the bike, but not in the way. This way she doesn't have to stuff her huge purse in one of the saddlebags. Plus it comes with a shoulder strap so she can wear it regular too. I'm actually making it so its personalized. She's going to love it!

Forgive me for being snarky, but TK girls on the forums there are tacky. Uppity and snobby.

I much prefer my friends here

When talking about "they", always consider the source, lol.

Jewelry is an excellent gift. In fact, it's a relatively standard BM gift, and has been for decades. Don't let an anonymous poster or posters rock your boat. You're doing just fine.

Not only did I give my BMs jewelry to wear, but every other wedding (literally. every. one.) that I have been in, I have received jewelry.

Guess we are all a bunch of rude tacky bitches.

I know, we're so tacky. I want my girls to have uniform jewelry and instead of making them go out and buy it and harassing them before it's sold out, I can do it and present it nicely.

I know the source is bitchy, that's why I do a 5min weekly catch up, unlike my hourly check-ins here! I would like my local board to be more helpful since I am planning out of town.

The reason why you give a gift to your bridesmaids is to thank them for being a part of your wedding. It's not really saying thank you if you give them something that they are REQUIRED to use for your wedding, even if they wear/use it 100 times afterwards.

I'm going to give my bridesmaids jewlery, too, but it's going to be in addition to other small gifts. And, honestly, I don't care whether they wear it on the day of or not if they have something else that they'd prefer.

So, again, there's nothing wrong with giving jewlery, but stop and consider whether it's for you or for them.

Those ladies with TK are rude and harsh and I would not let that stupid rule affect your choice to give jewelry to your BM. I love the WW we are more gentle and loving!!!