Bridesmaid getting married 1 week after me...

First off her date is probably not set in stone yet since I highly doubt she has a venue with it being so early into their engagement. Also she can choose whatever day she wants. You get one day.

Yes you do get one day. But.. if she wants you to be a bridesmaid, imo, I think it is a little inconsiderate.

But honestly, it's her loss. You'll be on your HM

@Sommer well aren't you just lovely?

@OP she probably chose that date for a reason and probably didn't even think about the fact that it's a week after yours. Sucks that you can't go but that's life. Just be happy for her. And if she hasn't booked a venue, she doesn't have a date.

Sommer is salty af

I'd be bummed I couldn't attend a dear friends wedding.

Sommer, wtf? A year apart? Special Snowflake

@Sommer Whattttt? You don't sound like a friend. at all.

@OP That sucks (you not being able to attend), but she probably didn't think about your wedding when making that decision.

@Sommer I have 2 friends getting married within the same year as me, and mine is first. Its really fun to exchange ideas and talk about all of our weddings coming up and help eachother through the process. To completely disregard her wedding because your is first, is absolutely horrifying. You can't act that way towards a friend that shares in the same excitement as you about upcoming weddings.

Why do you think it's rude?

Answer meh......

@Sommer - A year, seriously. Here's some advice that will serve you well on these boards and in real life: Get the fuck over yourself. No one gives a flying fuck a year after your wedding. My girlfriend just celebrated her 8th wedding anniversary, I only remember because she got married the same year my father passed away in. Any of my other friends, unless it coincides with something else in my life, I have no idea. You get one day, you'll be lucky with your piss-poor attitude to be invited to your friend's wedding. Good luck in life!

You should be happy for her like she is for you. You are friends and should be supporting each other's happiness. Just because you're getting married doesn't mean her wedding is any less important. You're being very selfish and rude by acting like your wedding is the only thing that's allowed to happen at this time.

No, you're not overreacting...it's rude.

I should have added she's been with her guy for 4 months.. I got engaged 3 months ago. I'm not asking to have more than my one day but if I chose you as one of my bridesmaids that's because I am close to you so for her to pick a date that she knows I will not be there is rude to me.

@ Sommer.....you for real?

But her wedding ain't about you tootsie.

It's unfortunate but it isn't rude on her part. It's rude of you to be stink about it.

Who cares she's only been with him for 4 months. Mind your beeswax.

As long as her wedding isn't the same day as yours..you don't need to worry.

I don't know any of these people but I think Sommer meant her friend was dismiss ing her plans to try and get her to plan the friends wedding instead which is over a year away so lots of

Time to get together. I don't think she meant she was upset about date being a year out from hers. Just a thought

It's your day, one of my bridesmaid is getting married right after me, it doesn't really make a difference

I don't get why how long they've been dating has any relevance...

Have you had a conversation about this at all? Like mentioned how much you'll miss it because of your honeymoon? Maybe she is just dense and hasn't quite realized the consequences of her date.

BTW- it is not rude. Not at all. Maybe a little short sighted but, people prioritize differently.

Why does it matter how long they've been together?