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Bridesmaid doesn't want to wear makeup?

Taylor, on March 7, 2021 at 8:32 PM Posted in Hair and Makeup 2 116
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So I have a bridesmaid that doesn't want to wear makeup for the wedding. I would like for all my bridesmaids to have some makeup on for the ceremony and the pictures, even a minimal look.

She is a bit tomboyish, but she's okay with wearing a dress and flats for the wedding and having her hair done. She normally doesn't wear makeup regularly, but I know she's worn makeup before and I've seen her wearing makeup. Surely a formal occasion like my wedding calls for makeup? I'm paying for all the girls to have their hair and makeup done, so she isn't spending anything and money isn't an issue.

Am I being unreasonable in wanting her to wear makeup, I don't think it is too much of an ask? Or should I let this go?



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Latest activity by Judith, on May 12, 2021 at 9:24 PM
  • R
    Beginner June 2022
    Rebecca ·
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    Maybe a compromise could be her taking the makeup off as soon as the ceremony and pictures are done?

    But if she refuses even that but what are you going to do? You aren't going to kick her out of the bridal party right? If she keeps refusing you may need to let this go.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle Online ·
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    Respect her choice and let it go.

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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa Online ·
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    For the weddings that I was a bridesmaid in, I only had some makeup done (really just eye makeup), though makeup wasn't ever required. Another compromise could be that she doesn't get full makeup done, but instead just a little bit? Let her choose what makeup gets put on? Otherwise, if she is adamantly against it, I wouldn't try to force her.
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  • Samantha
    Super October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I’d let it go.
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  • S
    Savvy September 2022
    Stephanie ·
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    I think your bridesmaid is being ridiculous and should get over herself. She will wear makeup for what, a couple of hours at most. It is a wedding, a formal occasion and she is in the bridal party. Bridesmaids wear dresses and shoes they normally wouldn't wear, wear their hair in ways they wouldn't normally do.

    Wearing makeup is a minor ask, especially as she isn't paying for it. I would tell her to suck it up. It is only for your wedding day, you aren't asking her to wear makeup for ever, or asking her to change her personality.

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  • Hannah
    Rockstar July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I think you should just let it go. I have never been in a wedding where makeup was required.
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  • T
    Beginner July 2021
    Taylor ·
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    I'm letting the bridesmaids choose their own makeup looks. I just want some eye makeup done and maybe foundation or concealer.

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  • Georgia
    Savvy May 2022
    Georgia ·
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    I think she should respect your wishes. She's only having it done for a day and can take it off once the wedding is done. It isn't a change in her appearance that will take days or hours to undo.

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  • Biaani
    Expert May 2021
    Biaani ·
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    I totally get you. Maybe look at pics of minimal make up with her nd have her choose something she would be ok with. Like a "no make up" look. Just so she doesn't look like she just woke up and washed her face in your pics.

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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I would let it go. If she’s uncomfortable with makeup on then you certainly don’t want to force someone to wear it.
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    If your force her to wear makeup will she look unhappy in pictures the whole time?
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    Dedicated September 2023
    Meghan ·
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    Please let it go. Presumably, you asked her to be a bridesmaid because you value her friendship and not because she looks good in pictures. I had an unhealthy relationship with makeup in the past, using it as a crutch to hide my acne (without actually treating it) and my insecurities. A few years ago, I stopped to let my skin heal and it's been great feeling confident and "good enough" without it. If someone I considered a friend asked me to wear makeup despite my decision not to, I would feel insulted and interpret that as "you need to look better than you do naturally for my pictures."

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  • V
    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I would let it go. Not everyone is comfortable wearing makeup. My sister-in-law wore very minimal makeup for our wedding and I think she looked beautiful even without a ton of makeup.

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Definitely let it go. I can’t imagine forcing a friend to wear makeup (or do anything) if they don’t want to.
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    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    I agree with this. The bridesmaid shouldn't have to wear a full face if she doesn't want to, but foundation and maybe a little mascara and lip gloss she should be able to agree to.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Compromise with her. Tell her it’s just for the ceremony & pics. She can take it off after the pics.
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    Rockstar January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    Maybe compromise? See if she’ll wear some makeup, mascara and lip gloss or maybe just some foundation to even skin tone. While it may seem a little sill to not wear it for a nice event, I wouldn’t Insist she wear a full face if she’s not comfortable.
    If she doesn’t agree to a compromise let it go. Day of she may even change her mind when she sees her hair done and every one else getting theirs done.
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  • RaylaSan
    Rockstar February 2021
    RaylaSan ·
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    This is the one time where I would put my foot down, and at least ask her to put on a little makeup, even if its just mascara. During my wedding, three out of five bridesmaids never and I mean NEVER wear makeup, but since they knew it was for a wedding, they decided to get out of their comfort zone and wear some for me. Honestly, they looked so good, even my mother in law commented how my bridesmaids were just glowing!

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  • Ava
    Super May 2022
    Ava ·
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    I would let it go. As I’ve seen stated here many times... your bridesmaids are not photo props. This is a human being (and one I’m assuming you are very close to if she is in your wedding party), who has already compromised her comfort for you by wearing a dress and dressy flats, and having her hair done. She has said she doesn’t feel comfortable wearing makeup. I think it’s time for you to be a good friend and compromise with her in return.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Yes, you’re being unreasonable. There’s absolutely no reason that a woman should be expected to wear makeup, or anything else that makes her uncomfortable, just because it’s a “formal event.” This is actually so rude and disrespectful.
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