Bridesmaid doesn't want to wear makeup?

It is up to you to decide. But if I was in your position, I would absolutely put my foot down. It is a perfectly normal request, and it'll take her only a few minutes to take off. She should stop being unreasonable. It is YOUR day, not hers and she should be willing to do this for you.

Honestly most bridesmaids don't wear as much makeup as they do for a wedding. I've worn unflattering dresses as a bridesmaid, have my hair done in away I would never want to do, had my makeup done in a way I would never want to do, and I'm sure so have so many other bridesmaids. It is part and parcel of being a bridesmaid.

My sister's best friend is a pretty big tomboy. But she still wore makeup, had her hair done, and wore a dress and heels, because it was a wedding, and the wedding wasn't about her but about my sister, the bride and. The same way your wedding is about you not her.

View Quoted Comment I agree, the notion that women specifically need to wear makeup to look professional, put-together, beautiful, desirable etc. is sexist and rude.

View Quoted Comment YES! THIS!!

If someone doesn't want to wear makeup, I'm not gonna be mad. Seems unnecessary to push the point. Respect her choice and let it go. Big picture, celebrating your wedding and having your friend standing there (makeup or no makeup).

I recommend that you ler it go.

Has she said why she doesn't want to wear makeup? Maybe she isn't comfortable with getting it done or having someone else use unfamiliar products? I would ask her why, but ultimately let it go.

View Quoted Comment Exactly, 100% agree.

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Agree completely with this! It is a very simple request. Bridesmaids have done far more for brides for their wedding than just wearing makeup. She can't wear makeup for not even one day, for a wedding that she is a bridesmaid in. I'd tell her to grow up and get over herself.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. She’s your friend. You presumably didn’t pick her because she looks good in photos, but because she’s your friend.

Her face, her choice. No person ever has to wear makeup. Ever. She has every right to refuse regardless of who's paying.

I can kinda see both points of view here. Wearing makeup is easy, she isn't paying for it, it is for one night and it is your wedding. It isn't an outlandish over the top bridezilla request.

But if she really doesn't want to wear makeup, what are you going to do? Tie her to a chair and then put makeup on her? If she's sure about not wearing makeup then unless you want to kick her out of the wedding party, you should let this go.

I'd let it go. It doesn't seem to me like it would be that big of an issue. As long as she is wearing the dress and shoes you want and doing her hair that's good enough.

Yes you are being unreasonable and disrespectful to your friend. Let it go. Let her be who she is without makeup because that’s who she is.
It amazes me how so many think makeup is a necessity for women to look like they “didn’t just roll out of bed and washed their face”. Men don’t look like that without makeup, why would women?
So I assume all of you demanding your bridesmaids wear makeup to look good for those pictures are also demanding the same of your groom and groomsmen because we’d hate for them to look “washed out” and “not put together”.

View Quoted Comment Right?! I am astonished at the rudeness and lack of respect for friends/friendships in some of these comments! It sure does make me appreciate the mutually respectful relationships I have with my friends and family even more! I wouldn’t even think of trying to make anyone wear a dress, hairstyle, makeup, etc. that doesn’t make them feel good about themselves, all for the sake of a picture! smh

View Quoted Comment Absolutely agree with this

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Well said! No one forces men to be made up for photos so the pressure should not be there for women if they decide it is something they don't want.

View Quoted Comment THIS. I can’t believe it’s 2021, on international women’s day for that matter, and there’s a group of women on the internet telling another woman to “get over herself” because she doesn’t want to wear makeup. If my friend insisted that I wear makeup for her wedding because I didn’t look pretty enough on my own, I would end the friendship. We don’t have time for that negativity here.

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All of this. Also, your bridesmaid not wearing makeup will not impact your wedding, your marriage, or even your photos. Try not to take her choices about her personal comfort personally.

I personally think this is a reasonable request. If you’re offering to pay for it and that’s what you want then there should be no reason that she couldn’t suck it up for one day. You can always ask the makeup artists to do hers a little more natural or maybe just focus on lipgloss and mascara vs a full done look, but I don’t think that it’s unfair to ask that of her. My sister is super tomboy-ish as well but she would never even complain about having to get her hair and makeup done just for this specific occasion

View Quoted Comment Why must the bridesmaid “get over herself”? The bride is the one asking her to alter her normal lifestyle/behavior strictly for esthetics.
Dies that even remotely register as over the top for you?
It does for me and I hope Taylor let’s this go. It is an inappropriate request and has absolutely nothing to do with getting married. Taylor is simply wanting someone to look different strictly for personal reasons. Ask the groom and his guys to do this and see how long this conversation lasts.