Brides,have you ever done a boudoir shoot? If so was it worth it or is that something to save money on and do after you get married?

I would try to find a nonchalant way to determine if this is some thing your fiancé would enjoy. I say this because I have heard from SO many guys that they think boudoir photo shoots are super cheesy. Several of FH’s friends and a couple of my guy friends received these from their brides on their wedding day, and said they weren’t the greatest gifts but they pretended to like them for the bride’s sake. But the photos just ended up thrown in a closet or drawer and never looked at again. If this isn’t something you know your fiancé is super into, I would put your money toward a gift more geared toward him and his likes. Besides, I feel like boudoir shoots are more about the woman- releasing inhibitions and feeling empowered! So I would highly encourage you to do you one just for yourself!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! That is a great piece of advice I don't think I would have thought about that

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This 100%.

I've asked the men in my life how they would feel if their SO did that as their gift to them and they all said they'd feel really awkward to open that on their wedding day. FH even admitted that he wouldn't like it and it would just go in the closet or the nightstand drawer. So, like Ava suggested, try to bring the conversation up subtly. Maybe find an instagram post of one and say something like: "Oh wow I didn't realize these were a thing to give your FH now...how do you feel about that?". That's how I brought it up to my FH and got my answer haha!

I do def. encourage you to do one for yourself though! A couple of women I've talked to said they did one just for them, and it was so empowering and gave them a huge confidence boost!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Shelly! I appreciate this!

My MOH surprised me with one before we got married, however I waited until about a week after we were married to give him the book I made from the pictures. IMO I wouldn't have given it to him on the day we got married (we had a super small ceremony so family was around all day). I made it into its own event, I cooked a nice dinner, and then surprised him with it. He loved it! But I wanted to make it a private time for him and I, rather than feel like it was something he had to hide if that makes sense.

I agree with others though, I LOVED the confidence it gave me! It was a definitely a fun day and I am glad my MOH set it up. You know your FH best, but if you want to also do it for you, go for it!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Meredith! This is a really cool idea!!

I haven't done a boudoir shoot yet, but I did book one with my wedding photographer for about a month or two before my wedding. I don't think I will give the book to my SO on the wedding day, maybe the day before or after. Honestly I think he would find it awkward to receive that on the day that he is being surrounded by family and his friends and all that... and what if someone else accidentally saw it? I would feel awkward too then, lol.

However I know multiple people that have done it as well, and they all say that it is a huge confidence boost for before the wedding to see yourself in that way. I'm pretty excited to do mine, though super nervous too.

I just did mine and am so excited to give it to him! Like others have stated, I would test the waters to see if he would be interested first. My FH has brought them up since we've been dating, so doing a bridal one for him was a no brainer for me lol. To avoid the awkwardness, but build the anticipation, my photographer took some PG-13 polaroid shots during the shoot that he will get before the ceremony, and he'll get the more risque album afterwards lol.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Megan! I appreciate your feedback and good luck with your boudoir shoot!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Leonardia!that is so exciting and I'm sure he will love it!

I did one for my finance and ended up giving it to him on Valentine’s Day before the wedding... I don’t count it as a waste of time or money because I enjoyed doing it but he probably could have cared less.

I mean it’s not like I expected him to hang them up or anything so that just sort of leaves them left in a drawer somewhere collecting dust

I am considering it but am not sure if it will happen before the wedding or at a later date. May be an anniversary gift down the road (due to money). I just straight up asked my FH what he would think and he was very interested.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Grace! Yes I know my SO loves it when I put on some lingerie for him,but unsure if he really will like photos on our actual day. I think an anniversary gift is a great idea!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Ajj! Im sorry that happened. Doesn't mean he values them any less he probobly just loves the real version more. Guys are weird with gifts sometimes.