Bridal Shower

Personally? I'd skip the second shower back where you used to live. It's a major etiquette violation to invite people to pre-wedding events who are not invited to the wedding. (Unless it's daughter's work colleagues or a big church group, etc., who know they aren't invited and decide to host a shower themselves anyway.) I understand where you're coming from. I was the MOB and hosted daughter's shower. Her BM's were spread all over the country and only two were able to make it to the shower. We have tons of family in the Midwest and on the East Coast, but we just had the one shower where we live in So Cal. I didn't send invitations to the out of state guests, as that seemed "gift grabby" to daughter and me. Lots of the guests were going to be traveling to attend the wedding, and they ultimately gave extremely generous wedding gifts. I wasn't comfortable sending them invitations to a shower I knew they wouldn't be traveling to attend because didn't want to feel they needed to send a gift. Just another mom's opinion!

I would just do one bridal shower. According to many wedding etiquette books, do NOT invite people to pre-wedding events (i.e. bridal showers, engagement party, bachelorette party, etc) unless they are invited to the wedding. It seems gift grabby to invite people to pre-wedding events that aren't invited to the wedding and those people will be insulted they aren't invited to the wedding.

Welcome to the WeddingWire community, Lynn.

As the PPs mentioned, anyone who receives an invitation to a bridal shower must receive an invitation to the wedding. Do you think the family in your hometown be willing to travel for the shower?

With the gifts, you could always ask them to be shipped to Texas and ask guests to bring a card with it noted what gift they sent, if they wish. Make it optional Regardless you daughter will be sending thank-you cards after the shower where she can thank folks individually for their gift which went to Texas.

If you’re looking for any more tips and tricks on planning the shower, I would definitely recommend this WeddingWire article - How to Plan a Bridal Shower.