Bridal Shower: Okay not to have?

Well, first of all, why would you be paying for your own shower?

I'm not having one, though, and we do have a registry.

Bridal showers are not mandatory. You definitely don't have to have one. I was the MOH for my cousin who was adamant she did not want a bridal shower or bachelorette party. So we honored her wishes.

It's perfectly fine not to have a shower. But if you did, somebody else should throw it for you and pay for it.

Many brides don't have a shower, and still have a wedding registry. People will simply get you something for the wedding if they see there's no shower. Basically the primary purpose of the registry is the wedding, not the shower.

As Mrs. S mentioned it's it's certainly okay not to have one, especially if you're not comfortable with that type of thing. However, traditionally the shower would be hosted by a friend or family member, so you an your fiance wouldn't be paying.

And Trust me, people are going to want get you a gift, whether you have a shower or not. So definitely still do a registry. There is no need to specify to anyone that it'll be for the reception and not for the shower. Either way its still a wedding gift. Once they realize that there is not going to be a bridal shower, they will automatically either mail your gifts (this is the traditional way), or just bring them to the reception.

My MOH wanted to do both a shower and bachelorette party but I really don't want either. We will have a small registry...but we have combined two households into a small house already and really don't need much...just some simple things like silverware, sheets, towels....and so many of our family and friends will be traveling from out of town for the wedding...not many that would come to shower or party are local anyway...so I can't justify anyone going to the planning trouble and expense.

Its okay to not have one, however do understand none of this wedding planning is about gifts and its tacky to throw your own because you look like you're begging for gifts.

You dont have to specify that its not for a bridal shower because if youre not having one people will get the hint.

You shouldn't have to pay for your own shower anyway, but you can do whatever you want to do. If you don't want one, don't have one. If no one wants to throw you one and you still want one or the gifts, consider asking a few people to make a dish and host something small at your house. I'm sure you family, aunts, mother, close friends, etc wouldn't mind making one thing to share with the group.

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