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Bridal Party Ruining My Experience

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Lynn, on November 30, 2018 at 7:14 PM

I feel like my bridesmaids are ruining my pre wedding experience. When I first asked all 6 girls to be apart of my wedding party and what came along with it they were all super excited and on board with everything. Now that its time to actually do stuff the excitement is gone. No-one really responds to the group text when I send them out, they are normally late on payments and due dates, and they show no interest in my bridal shower and bachelorette party leaving me to plan both of them. All of these girls are family and close friends. I have had a talk with them before but nothing has changed. What should I do? Is anyone else going through the same thing?

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Savvy November 2018
Katherine · on December 21, 2018 at 6:42 AM
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Build. Better. Relationships.
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Rosa · on December 21, 2018 at 6:59 AM
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I understand you want to embrace the moment and were hoping your close friends and family would be up for that . Sometimes they will be other times they won’t . That’s why it’s great you joined the WW family because we are all in the same boat of excitement with you . Don’t overthink it . Enjoy what is in front of you and control only what you can . There is no requirement to have a bridal party or bachelorette , although I know it would be nice. You can bring it up as something more casual and see if they would be up for it but if not just grab you best friend and go out for drinks and some girl time .
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Just Said Yes October 2018
patricia · on December 21, 2018 at 3:21 PM
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I think all that is left to be said is, money issues aside,
They should be excited and show that excitement to you.
I had my 2 sisters and my 2 bestfriends as my bridesmaids. They all let me rant about wedding stuff. They always asked how wedding planning was going because my husband and I did everything ourselves.
I find it really lousy for someone to accept being in a bridal party and then be a downer the whole time. Sorry not sorry. It's your wedding! You deserve to be excited and to have people be excited for you!
But in all honesty, it is YOUR day. no one elses. So just hold your head up high and feel happy for yourself if they aren't going to.
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Madison · on August 25, 2019 at 10:55 PM
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I totally agree with the above comment. And I've come to terms with it..being the oldest and first etc. It still sucks though and can feel really unfair at times. Hang in there!
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Amina · on August 26, 2019 at 7:45 AM
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I know exactly what you mean, I’m going through the same with my girls. Half of them family, half close friends for over 10 years so it’s really disappointing that it seems like they don’t care. They’re excited when you ask them to be involved but when it comes down to discussing dresses or logistics of the day or anything important to their role their silent. I’m just glad I chose the right girls for my Maid/Matons of honor. They keep me sane. As far as the other girls, I’m at the point that if they don’t even order their dress I wouldn’t care. I’m not gonna kill myself stressing to make sure I send them the info they need a million times just to have them ask for it again a million and one times. I refuse to let them ruin it. I’d rather stand up there with 3 girls who actually care than 10 girls who act like it’s a chore to even show up
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