Bridal Party Hair: All same or different?

I asked all my girls if they picked their hairstyles yet and they said I was supposed to pick it. I'm not choosing their hairstyle. They can pick their own and they can all be different. One of my girls has short hair anyway. I also let them pick their own jewelry and shoes. I picked the color of the dresses and they picked the style. I would never pick these things for girls. I just don't know how to.

My girls all had really long hair/we're all similar looks. I wanted them to have updos. In my opinion all updos look the same for the most part anyway. They all automatically asked me what I wanted the updo to look like, I showed the stylist pictures of what I liked, they changed it to fit each girl.

My stylist specific a style due to time limitations. We did not have enough time to do intricate hairstyles, so she said she was doing french twists for all, so that's what happened. I would have been fine with whatever styles they wanted, we just didn't have time to be consulting and figuring stuff out day of.

Stephanie makes a good point about timing! When you tell your bridal party they can choose their hairstyle maybe also mention the level of simplicity or complexity they should go with. And make sure the stylists know your timeline so they can say, "Sorry, we can't do that" or "I can't make any more changes" due to time restrictions once the style is done and tweaked a bit.

I'm slightly confused why they can't go to the same salon as you. Part of the fun of your wedding day is making it a whole day with your girls getting ready together. I am not paying for my girls hair and makeup. They can do whatever they would like as long as their hair and makeup are done which of course it will be. My only request is that they don't do the same hairstyle I am doing. We are going to offer them the option of scheduling an appointment at the salon who is doing my hair and makeup if they would like an appointment. It's very reasonably priced.

I'm letting them do what they want. They both have different styles, personalities, hair types etc, why do they need to be matchy matchy when they're clearly different? My only "rule" was that they didn't wear their hair down similar to mine, they didn't want to anyways so it makes life easier

The part about girls getting it done at separate salons is NOT what OP is doing. That is her past (weird) experience. Reading comprehension, people.

I would let them have it styled however they'd like, if everyone looks the same the pictures could look static.

I'm not sure why we couldn't go to the same salon as her. She also told us to be at the church at X time, which she was already finished getting ready with a couple people she selected to get ready with. I didn't ask questions. I was 18.

I will let my girls know about time restrictions. I decided to pay for hair and makeup for them because I didn't pay for their dresses (since the MOH already had the dress from a previous wedding she was in and I didn't want to pay for 2 and not all 3) so I wanted to do something for them. I know one of them does not get her hair done or wear makeup often, so I thought it would be nice for her to have a day to get all dolled up for her husband. I have asked each girl if it's okay that I am paying for it, and they have said that's fine. I said if they want to do their own, they can. But everyone is fine with the people doing it for them. There will be 3 people doing hair and 1 person doing makeup, but can also do hair if there is a time crunch. She has us scheduled for 2 hours, but she has availability to add more time, since I'm getting it done much later than every other bride that day. I was going to add just hair for my FMIL but then I feel like I would have to invite my own mother if I invite my FMIL to get ready. And I don't like my mom. She makes me upset constantly and is very rude to me. So I haven't decided if I will add those two on for hair, as well. But I let the hairstylist know that I might add them.

Hahaha Jacqui. Thanks. I honestly thought what she did was normal, because it was my first (and only) experience being in a wedding. But apparently most of that planning wedding was a no-no. Which surprised me because she's the only person in my family I would classify as mature and proper. The shower was planned by my sister (the Bride) and mom. The shower food was ALL from family members cooking (my mom's side Aunts, my grandma and my siblings). There were 8 bridesmaids and even though I was told I was not allowed to attend the bachelorette party, I had to give the same amount of money for it as everyone else. We were told what to do with our hair and what jewelry to wear but were told we cannot go to the salon that she was going to. She didn't pay for the hair, but the jewelry was our bridal party gift.

That sister just called me last week and was asking about hotel rooms for our wedding in October. She wanted to know why I wasn't offering a shuttle service from the hotel (Marriott) to the venue (1.5 miles away). I said that it is $200 for the shuttle and so far, only 2 rooms are booked at the blocked hotel. Those rooms are $129/night but there are Motel 6's and other lower star hotels around for about $60/night and I know most of our family and his family would prefer the cheaper hotels. (But I didn't want my hotel block to be Motel 6. Sorry, I'm snobby sometimes.) The shuttle service is through the Marriott so they would not be able to stop at other hotels. She just kept asking "But why aren't you getting a shuttle?" And "It's not that much to get one, though." and kept staying silent when I would explain why we weren't doing one. It started to make me feel guilty and want to get the shuttle to make everyone happy. But I don't want to keep throwing down $200 here and $200 there because it adds up! And only 2 rooms are booked at the hotel. Do we really want to spend $200 plus tax and tip for 4 people to use the shuttle? That they probably won't use because they are people who wouldn't be drinking, anyways.

I just asked my girls to have heir hair up and out of their face because the ceremony is outside in a spot that can be windy. I don't care what they do with it after that

I told them I wanted long curls. Which is how most of us wear our hair anyway.

I specified up, but i didn't really care. One girl had an up side pony, some had loose updos, one had a tight, it looked pretty awesome in my opinion. Even one who wanted hers down (which i said was absolutely fine) ended up getting it done up and was probably the happiest with her hair in pictures because she liked how elegant/formal she looked

My hair is going to be up and there's will be either in a half up or all the way down. Nothing to specific

I'm letting them pick. So far they've all sent me the exact same makeup picture, and they've all said they want their hair down and curled with maybe a small braid or the sides pinned back.

I said up and simple ish (due to the time slot). Each girl looked fabulous and their hair matched their style. I also had them in different dresses, so that all worked well.

I let everyone choose their own, and they all didn't have to get it professional done. One had a french twist, one had hers down, and one curled hers. They all looked great.

I told my girls they could do their hair however they want. When I was a BM in FSIL's wedding, she wanted us to all have an updo but it didn't have to be the same.

I told mine that they could style however they wanted. I did strongly suggest that at least part of it be pulled back since we are right on the harbor and will get sea breezes.

I told them they could wear it however they want pending it was not overly similar to mine.