bridal party drop outs?

Yes ma'am. One bridesmaid refused to answer any phone calls or texts for MONTHS, so I just kicked her out. Still refuse to even try to contact her. Another had to drop out for medical reasons, which I totally understand. She and I are still friends. She's now my unofficial assistant.

Thats awesome that you still have her like a part of the bridal party but without the stress.

I was in a wedding with one of my good friends who had to replace TWO of her bridesmaids, I think it seems common but I don't understand how a woman can commit to being in a wedding (lets face it we all know as a bridesmaid what we are EXPECTED to do) and then complain about it.

Good luck!!

Yeaa and all is good now thankyou

Early on, I had 10 (FH had women he wanted in the BP) however, I am down to 6 (my original number) The for women FH wanted to in the BP were so difficult (they refused to meet with the rest of the BP unless THEY approved the schedule! They did not like the colors chosen (we are having a winter theme so we don't have a color scheme) They felt our colors should be black white and pink. I eventually told FH they were out of the BP. It was very difficult getting them together, so I eventually had flowers delivered with a card letting them know they were no longer in the BP.

That was 4 months ago. I nor FH have not heard a word from any of them. When FH gave me his guest list, I noticed they were not on it.

Wow im sorry but at least your fh noticed and took them off

Thankfully i haven't kicked anyone out. Trust me- there have been some trying times where I've said, "That's the way it is- if you can't deal with it you can't be a bridesmaid." but thankfully I picked all my wedding party because I wanted them to stand up with me.

I have known them all since elementary school or before and they are people who I knew I really wanted to be with me. I've had some hard times, and even had to pay 1/2 a BM dress because she couldn't afford it- but in the end it's worth it to have them with me.

I considered another person to make the sides even- but i knew it would be more stress then it was worth.

I think the key is only asking people because you want them there- not because you feel you should. Hopefully if you really want them the feeling will be mutual and they will really want to be there for you. If they know they are getting asked out of obligation they are less likely to be there for you and more likely to cause stress.

I hear you on that one lol but you gotta do what you gotta do

I find this really interesting. I have 3 friends in my wedding party and my little sister. I can not imagine any of them needing to be kicked out. They have been friends the longest 16 years the shortest 2 years and the other 5 years. If one of these girls couldn't pay for their dress I probably would have bought it for them with a note that said (this is my b-day/Christmas gift to you, or something even though it cost more than I would normally spend on her for those)

The girls are quite important to me otherwise I wouldn't have asked them. In the way of dropping out that also seems weird to me my best friend said she would wear a tangerine coloured tutu if thats what I want cause it's my day. Another of the girls has a car and has done so much running around for me cause mine broke, and the other girl is helping me make all my invites. & my sister is the best little sis ever.

Maybe it's age that makes you realise who your true friends are?

My friend decided she wanted to drop out the wedding to go on a cruise with her boyfriend. Needless to say, we are no longer friends! I had another that had to drop out for financial reasons, but she will be a hostess instead!

My friend from middle school dropped out after I paid for her dress to be custom made for my theme wedding. She told me she couldn't commit to my wedding. We haven't talked since last October. This isn't a new thing for her, dropping out of stuff. I just wish shed told me a week earlier before I spent 200$ on her, however awful that sounds.

And the not talking isn't from her dropping out, I just haven't been able to get in touch with her since she texted me she couldn't commit to the wedding.

We took the precaution of having only two attendants, and they were my two children. We had no drop-outs at all. LOL

I dropped one BM after she would only call every 3 months to complain about her man troubles and then as an end note ask if the wedding was still on! The nerve! Then once I couldn't get a hold of her, I emailed her and told her she was dropped. She never got the email, and called me a month later again asking if the wedding was still on. REALLY? As if we eloped and didn't tell her? I lied and said we are just having a Best Man and Maid of honor and not having a wedding party, haven't heard from her since! I had another girl drop out, who was the first girls replacement. She is 15 and was flip flopping about being in the wedding, her mom called me the day of looking for dresses and told me her daughter would not be in the wedding. She was very upset with her. I told her it wasn't a problem and I would never force someone especially a teenager to do something they didn't want to do and be miserable. I understood that one and they're still coming to the wedding, they're my step dads family.

I had to give my SIL the boot because she was just plain awful and refused to get her dress among MANY other things. I nicely asked her to step down because she and BIL clearly couldn't handle it and they agreed to come as guests. The morning of, they blew off our wdding via text to my MIL and DH hasn't spoken to them since. Its left a big rift in the family because MIL and my other SIL/BIL will roll over and let those 2 treat everyone like garbage, whereas I wont do that and play nice.

Haven't had to kick anyone out....but I did have one BM drop out and then drop back in 2 months later...she almost missed the deadline to order her dress....all is well now though lol

I am thinking about kicking out a BM and this was a refreshing post to read. In the beginning she was really flaky and selfish. We'd go shopping for outfits for the engagement photos for me, for example, and she'd continuously pick up things that would look good on her. She also never seems to listen; she has invited me to 3 or 4 bar-hopping events even though I've told her I don't drink. And now, the last straw to me is that she's moved out of state. I told my best friends from Basic Training it would be too stressful to have them in the wedding because they'd be out of state.....but now i'm expected to keep her on? She says she'll be home for the wedding but I just don't have faith in that...

I have had 4 BMs to drop out for different reasons but I'm still cool with all of them. I just had to replace a few but now if they drop I just have to drop a GM.

Wowwww, at least im not the only one, and the only reason i kicked one out is because she just didnt want to pay for the stuff-not that she couldnt afford it bc she could, and she was telling me how i needed to do my wedding and thats when i drew the line, i was like no i did what you wanted for your wedding and this is my wedding so dont tell me what i need to do...it was just baddd.

I had a similar thing happen... eek. 3 of the 5 dropped out. Made me crazy... but I had back ups in mind just in case. Didn't ruin our friendships just made me realize that we were not as close as I thought we were. More like acquaintanceships than best friends.

My sister had to drop out because she got pregnant and we are having a DW in PR so she won't be able to fly at 8 months pregnant :-(