Bouquet toss....out dated?

Here was one ideal for the bouquet.

I didn't do a bouquet toss out of respect for my single/divorced guests. I did do a elimination/count up of the married couples and ended with giving my bridal bouquet to the longest married couple...46 years. We flew back to Japan 3 days after the wedding so I knew I wasn't going to be able to keep it and I wanted someone to be able to enjoy it for a little while longer.

I have seen some really funny and sweet bouquet tosses. I LOVE the songs that go with the toss. I think it's hilarious to see ladies of all ages jockeying for position, doing stretches, making elbow room, all in anticipation for the bouquet ... And when tossed, those same "badasses" make room to ensure the youngest lady or special guest catches it.

There was a Grandma holding up the bouquet toss because she had trouble getting her gripper slippers on!!!! It was just too cute for words.

I've never been to a wedding where it was anything obnoxious or rude or violent, just a good time.

I went to a wedding where they did the bouquet toss and garter but didn't have them put the garter on the person who caught the bouquet

Going anarchy in this area and doing all the no nos...bouquet toss, garter toss/reapply....tradition is tradition, sorry gurls.

We are doing both traditionally if your not married then your single for both the bouquet and garter tosses

We are doing both!

We are absolutely doing both.

Wait so I'm seeing a lot of people posting how skeevy it is for the girl who caught the bouquet- I'm guessing that means the girl who caught the bouquet is supposed to do something with the guy who caught the garter? Do they dance or do something awkward? Is there some kind of interacting between the two people? I've only seen it where the girl who catches the bouquet takes a cute photo with the bride and the guy who caught the garter does the same with the groom. No interaction or implications between the two "catchers". Sounds like the tradition varies in different parts of the country/social circles?

We are doing both ! It supposed to be fun for everyone . I've never been to a wedding where guests were disgusted by either ! It literally takes 10 min and then your back to dancing and drinking .... why not ?

My parents have been married for 40 years and they didn't toss anything. My Mom remembers being drug out to the floor and forced to participate, but a uncle, at a few weddings she attended as a kid.

We tossed nothing. I'm 30 and haven never seen a garter tossed, after 2 dozen weddings. The last time a bride tried to toss a bouquet - maybe 4 years ago? - no one wanted to participate and it just hit the floor.

We're skipping it too. Like many said most of my friends are coupled up. We're opting instead to do an anniversary dance and giving the "toss bouquet" to the couple that's been together the longest which will likely be FH's parents.

We didn't do a bouquet toss, even though there were two brides and two bouquets. It just seemed insulting to our guests to suggest that they were so desperate to get married that they'd fight over a bouquet.

So my FH and I are going to act like we are going to toss both at the same time. But instead we are giving them to the oldest married couple. All my BM think it's a fun idea plus it shows respect to my grand parents who like traditions. I love the Idea of the tosses. The shoe game sounds like something you would play at an engagement party or couples party.

Nope. Didn't do it

The guy who gets the garter is supposed to slip it up the girls let who got the bouquet. The higher he goes the longer the new couples marriage will last.

I thought about doing the bouquet toss only because there is a pretty stair case that would be cool to throw it from. But then I thought about how it is too round up all the single ladies and parade them out and make them look silly and I though ehh we will pass

My sister in law did a bouquet toss and garter toss. I'm doing both as well. I don't think it's outdated just part of the fun at a wedding!

Nope, we don't want to do it. Feels really awkward.

I have recently been to weddings where they opted to not do either the bouquet or garter toss and honestly no one seemed to miss them. The bride and groom felt as though it was just going to be awkward for those out on the floor. Most of the wedding attendees were already married so there would only have been a small number of people participating. For my own wedding, I have gone back and forth on if we will have these or not. I think it will be a somewhat last minute decision.