Bouquet toss....out dated?

We skipped both because i find them really outdated and weird and patriarchal. i can only think of 2 weddings i've ever been to that have done the bouquet toss and i don't think i've ever seen a garter thing.

I told my FH that if he went under my dress for the garter in front of all our friends and family, he wouldn't come back out alive!

We're doing things a bit differently and asking all married couples to stand up. Then, the DJ will ask everyone who has been married less than 24 hours (aka my FH & I) to sit down. Then, he'll ask people who've been married a year or less to sit down, 5, 10, 25 years, etc. Then, we'll give the bouquet to the couple who has been married the longest, and ask for them to share their best marriage advice.

I'm definitely doing it. Is tradition to do it and my crowd have so much fun.

I'm thinking I'll have a toss bouquet made from real roses (the rest of my floral will be sola wood). Whoever catches it gets to keep it. Oh, and I would say that anybody who wants to try catching the bouquet can (since there will only be like five unmarried females at my wedding). I'm literally only doing it because the idea of tossing a bouquet off a balcony sounds like so much fun...

I die of mortification at the "tosses" so we are not doing them. I doubt anyone would even notice.

I think both the bouquet and garter toss are ridiculous traditions that should be skipped. I never knew about the whole garter thing until I went to my cousins wedding a few years ago, and I'm not going to lie I felt incredibly uncomfortable. Like why would family members/friends want to see the Groom putting his damn head or hands up the brides dress, awkward.

I did both. I was 22 and the first of my friends to get married. I felt like for our age (18-24) it was fun and light humored. And I made it to where anyone not married including engaged couples. And for the garter toss we had 2; one I wore and one to throw. Again same age range. I Would of skipped it if there weren't many singles.

We are skipping. Most of our guests are already married. There isn't enough single people to make it worth it. If you want to do it go for it, but I've always hated the bouquet toss when I was single, so I don't think it will be missed if it's not something you want to do.

I think both traditions are outdated and ridiculous. A lot of people end up feeling obligated to partipate. It is ackward and tacky. Nothing will be "tossed" at our wedding.

As someone who has been pushed to catch a bouquet at many weddings...we are skipping it lol. It is really up to you. You could always give your bouquet (or a toss bouquet) to a special relative or friend for a special reason of your choosing.

If you have single friends at the wedding do it!!!

Not doing either.

ETA: Hated them when I was single, no matter how old I was.

We're skipping both and doing an anniversary dance instead.

We're skipping both!

I think by the time we get married most of my friends will either be engaged or single. So I may pass. though I dont have an issue with the tradition of doing it.

My FH is so excited about do the garter toss, so we are going to have it.

@Jaci what is the shoe game?

I will not be doing either. The garter toss is incredibly awkward and makes me cringe and the bouquet toss is kind of outdated.

Think I'm going to do the bouquet toss, with a cheap bunch a flowers, but will get the dj to ask all the women rather than single women, so there's a few more people.

I have always hated the garter toss, and the bouquet toss has been meh to me. I'm not doing either. I'm going to give the toss bouquet to an older lady who is very dear to me - and actually the wife of our officiant.

I'm doing both just because I think it's fun! in a relationship or not, I've always gotten right in there with the ladies diving for the bouquet. and I'm right there cheering on the groom and the groomsmen with the garter!