Black mother of the bride dress?

First off CONGRATS for that raise!! Second, I don't think it's inappropriate at all. Black is elegant. My Mom and aunt are both wearing black to mine,

Traditionally, wearing black to a wedding means the person disapproves of the marriage. If you don't care about that, it's no big deal, but I definitely included black in my not ok list.

Congrats !!!!! And nothing is wrong with black! It is.classy and elegant. My mom is wearing black and i think its going to look beautiful

Both my mom and my mil wore black dresses. Black is classy and elegant. It wouldn't be weird for your dad to wear a black suit/tux so why is it weird for your mom to wear a black dress.

Congrats!

Nothing is wrong with a black dress and CONGRATS on the new job!!!

Congratulations on the new job! I'm not a big fan of black at weddings; however, I think the MOB and MOG should wear whatever makes them feel most beautiful. It's not really a big deal if she wears black.

Technically Barbara is right but black is making more and more appearances at weddings and is considered acceptable.

I say the mose imprtant rule is that your mom is comfortable and loves it.

I actually told my mother to wear black and she said, "oh". She's not happy with it lol

Black is so classy. Definitely OK for a wedding.

True confession? I wore a gorgeous black gown with crystals and beading at my daughter's wedding that cost nearly $1K. All night long, I was told how elegant and sophisticated it looked. Black is a popular dress color for a reason (regardless of body type, most of us look terrific in it). As far as someone protesting a wedding by wearing black, it seems to me that not attending the wedding would send a louder message than a black gown. If mom feels beautiful in the black gown, rubber stamp it and let her enjoy wearing it. Believe me, her beaming smile will tell everyone that she approves of the event and the marriage. For a mother, the wedding of a daughter/son is a monumental life event. She wants to look great and feel great. Give her the freedom to make that desire a reality.

Oh, and big time congrats on the job offer! A raise and a shorter commute? You scored!

It depends on your feelings about it. My family/culture is very traditional about things like that and I would be very upset if anyone wore black to my wedding, let alone my mother. A cousin of mine got married years ago and the groom's mother didn't approve of the bride so she wore black to the wedding because it was "her sons funeral". That story will be told in my family forever and I don't want to have to deal with that.

But it's really about what the people involved believe. It can vary from place to place and even from person to person. Older and more traditional people tend to mind more than others. Just decide if it matters to you and then if it doesn't tell your mom she has the option. You may have people come who will find it odd but IMO it would be far worse to say something about it given that it's an opinion thing.

Congratulations on the new job!! That's awesome.

As far as the dress, black is timeless. Little black dresses have their own name!

I think black is fine as long as it doesn't bother you and won't make your pictures look wierd.

Question for those that say no one should wear black to a wedding. Is that just for women? Or do you also think men shouldn't wear black to a wedding? Every wedding I have ever been to many of the men wore black suits or tuxes. And black is a very common color for grooms/groomsmen tuxes. Just curious.

I've seen some beautiful black dresses worn by MOB's. They look really fancy though so I would say its fine for a more formal wedding, but not so much for a casual or rustic wedding.

Also congrats!

For my FSBIL's wedding.. the mom's wore black dresses. I think black can be elegant and timeless. I think the dress in the picture is great!

Congratulations on the raise!!

My colors were black and white, so all my bridesmaids, my mother and MI wore long black dresses. It is elegant and classy.

Thanks everyone! I didn't think anything of it, but I know I didn't think honeyfunds were so frowned upon when I started planning either. Better to ask then do something horrible! Our wedding will be more semi-formal. Definitely not black tie but it is in a ballroom at a Marriott hotel. I understand the disapproval aspect of wearing black. I think that's what my mom was thinking...that black is more for funerals than weddings so it would look bad if she wore it, but I think most of my guests won't think twice about it. She's always loved black, so I'll tell her that she can wear the black dress.

I think that dress looks really pretty and classy. I don't have a problem with black for the MOB or MIL. However, I will not be having any black anywhere in decorations or BP attire. I wanted white chair covers with black bands and rhinestone buckle. My dad went crazy telling me there was no way I was going to have any black in the wedding or in the decorations because black is for funerals. I didn't think he'd care what I did. Since he's paying I'm letting him win that one. Maybe it's an older person thing.

Congratulations on the raise!

My mother is walking me down the isle....in a black outfit! And my FMIL is wearing black and ivory.