Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

HeWasHeavenSent
Super September 2013

Bitter Female Friends

HeWasHeavenSent, on August 16, 2013 at 12:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 27

I was talking to one of my friends the other day thanking her for the card & gift she gave me for my graduation. After the pleasantries, we started talking about the wedding. She told me that she was burnt out from weddings and was on hiatus and probably would not make it. I told her that I'd miss her not being there, but I understood.

The conversation did not end there. She went on and on about how she's always at weddings and ends up doing more work than she plans to, shells out more money than she'd like to, and is never the bride. She's tired of being in weddings and going to weddings, blah x 3. She asked me if I had any single men coming, and I stated that most likely not because all of FH's relatives are married and so are mine. She then went on to say that my wedding has no purpose to her then...talkin'bout if I don't have any single friends for her, then why should she come?

Do y'all have any bitter female friends on the guest list?

27 Comments

Latest activity by Lindy13, on August 16, 2013 at 2:10 PM
  • Out the Window
    Master May 2014
    Out the Window ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Bitches always be bitchen. Let her complain. Let her whine. Let yourself save that money from her plate Smiley smile

    • Reply
  • Shannon
    Master August 2013
    Shannon ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Wow! Sounds like she was having a bad day. I'd hope that's not usual behavior for her. I did have friends ask me about what single men would be there but not in that kind of bitter if I can't find a husband at your wedding, I'm not coming way. Yikes! I'm sorry girl.

    • Reply
  • Mrs. A
    VIP November 2013
    Mrs. A ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Holyyyyy...that's it. That's all I can say to that.

    • Reply
  • FinallyDoingIt
    Master July 2014
    FinallyDoingIt ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    She sounds lovely.

    • Reply
  • kysweetheart
    Super October 2013
    kysweetheart ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Wow...i'm sorry your friends suck as much as mine do. my girl i asked to be my MOH has become the devil. she is cynical and bitter and hateful. she's caused all kinds of problems. be glad that this "friend" of yours doesn't wanna be involved in your wedding. she's not being a true friend. just let it go. let her wallow in self loathing.

    • Reply
  • Lucky me
    Master June 2013
    Lucky me ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Not really a friend then. I'd delete her from your friendship book

    • Reply
  • MrsO
    Master May 2012
    MrsO ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Wow, I can understand where she is coming from but that is never something that you complain about to the bride. Also she doesn't sound like a very good friend if she only saw your wedding as a possible place to meet a husband of her own.

    • Reply
  • FutureMrsL
    Master July 2014
    FutureMrsL ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Ugh. So sorry about this "friend." I have one bitter friend since FH and I are having a more elaborate wedding than what she had. It's really a pain in the ass. Your "friend" needs to get over herself and be happy for you!

    • Reply
  • Belais
    VIP October 2013
    Belais ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Yikes. Sorry you had to listen to her complain. If she was a real friend, she'd be happy for you and be there to support you.

    • Reply
  • Mrs. Ross2013
    Super November 2013
    Mrs. Ross2013 ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I have one. shes upset bc she didnt have the money for her BM dress. but I dont understand why she stil wants to come?! sad they everybody cant be happy for you. sorry u have to go thru this.

    • Reply
  • HeWasHeavenSent
    Super September 2013
    HeWasHeavenSent ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    My cousin forewarned me that weddings bring out the "ugly" in some people, especially friends. Their jealousy tends to show more than ever. I didn't believe her at first, but now I'm starting to think she has a point! ;-/

    • Reply
  • M
    VIP May 2013
    Married ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    One of my friends was bitter but wasn't nearly as vocal about it. She was all ready to talk about my "someday" wedding plans before we got engaged but after the engagement she did a really good job of distancing herself, and at one point I had considered making her my MOH...I'm really happy I didn't, and she was fine enough, but since the wedding has been over she's been much more pleasant.

    Some people can't stop thinking about themselves sometimes.

    • Reply
  • H
    Master October 2013
    HalloweenBride ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We have no single friends. Well, I have one, my ex-bridesmaid who hasn't talked to me since Feb. I think it's just because she's depressed but all of that is her own fault (she lost her temp job for calling in too much, she failed some college classes because she didn't like doing the homework, it was boring, etc.) She's 31. Time to grow up.

    I'd have been like "Are you serious?" and told her she was being bitchy and bitter.

    • Reply
  • LadyHopkins
    Super May 2012
    LadyHopkins ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I actually had a few jealous in laws. After a while, I just stopped caring. Don't blame me if you've been with your man for 10 years and he shows zero interest in marriage. I just kept smiling and ignored their stupid comments.

    • Reply
  • *Mrs_D*
    Master October 2014
    *Mrs_D* ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    What a wonderful friend. Ha. I say it is better she wont be there. Sounds like a real peach Smiley winking

    • Reply
  • ** Christina Q! **
    VIP December 2014
    ** Christina Q! ** ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Lol geez. I can honestly see how someone would feel that way, mid 20's through 30's is like wedding-o-rama for ppl, esp. ones with a lot of friends, and when relationships arent going well for you it can get old fast. But she needs to focus on its a celebration for your good friend, not a slap in the face that youre still single. Oh well, weird she would tell you all that!

    • Reply
  • HISballerina
    VIP October 2014
    HISballerina ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    You do not need that type of person in your life or at your wedding! Surround yourself with happy and supportive people! That being said, I'm concerned I'll run into the opposite issue. We're the last to get married (with the exception of like two people that we know) and I'm worried that everyone will be over the wedding deal because they have had their moment and are on to the next chapter of trying, having or keeping up with kids. I keep telling myself that the people that really matter and are true will pull through. Do the same girl.... focus on you and your FH!

    • Reply
  • Angela Marie
    Master May 2014
    Angela Marie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Ugh. Seriously? What is wrong with people? Pity party for one, your table is ready.

    I can understand being burnt out or whatever but she should not tell that to the bride. Rude. Rude. Rude.

    • Reply
  • MrsHicks
    Master June 2014
    MrsHicks ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    HeWasHeavenSent your friend is so right.

    • Reply
  • D
    Master May 2014
    D ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Maybe she was just having a bad day.

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Explore how we embrace diversity

Groups

WeddingWire article topics