Beer and Wine only or Full Bar?

I would make this decision based on your budget. If i could afford to do full open bar I would but I want the luxury of having an open bar so I am choosing to do wine and beer only. As a guest I would much prefer open bar with beer/wine then cash bar with hard alcohol

We're going with beer and wine only as full open bar can get costly. Also, both FH and my side are not really big drinkers so we're predicting that people will only have a wine of glass for toasting purposes.

We had the same issues minus the religious part. We are doing 3 kinds of beer, my favorite kind of locally made wine, two signature drinks the Mr. (jack and coke or whatever) and the Mrs. (margarita) then we will have soda, tea, and all that stuff too. It is your dad go for what you want.

We are doing full bar for the cocktail hour, and then beer and wine only for dinner.

If your budget allows it, I'd go for the full bar.

I think beer and wine only is fine, especially if that is what your budget allows. What do you prefer? It sounds like your inlaws aren't really going to be happy unless you take away the alcohol completely.

I agree with laudie. Go with what you can afford. Offering beer and wine only is more than ok. If you want a full open bar and can afford it...go for it!

If you do go with beer and wine only you can tell your FIL's that it's a compromise for both families.

We have the budget for a full bar. I just feel like if we do the full bar its going cause issues with them. They are super nice people, but according to my FH they are also some of the most judgmental people you would ever meet (I haven't seen this side of them). I already know they don't approve of us living together, and the fact that FH now celebrates x-mas and Halloween. I originally wanted to get married on Halloween but we couldn't because they would not come if we did.

I think I will let FH make the call on this one. I don't really drink that much so as long as he and my guests are happy is all I care about.

Beer and wine is good.

I agree with keeping it simple and not having to deal with mixers, special glasses for mixed drinks, etc. There are some great beers and wines available.

If you can afford it go for it. We are only paying for beer and wine bar. Most of the family members are beer drinkers anyways.

Wine and Beer is the easy part wine regardless of what we decide is being shipped in from Napa (most of my family lives there and wouldn't have it any other way). Colorado has some of the best micro brews around, we both went to Colorado State and are extremely partial to wheat brews from New Belgium. If we decide to do full bar is just a matter of buying the alcohol. The price of mixers/bar service and glasses is already included in our catering (we really lucked out).

I guess the part that is hanging us up is the in-laws and like Eleanor said they are not going to be happy regardless of what we do.

We did beer, wine and a sangria fountain. However we had an afternoon wedding so we figured most people weren't going to be drinking a whole lot so we didn't need a full open bar. Had we had an evening wedding, we would have probably gone the full bar route.

Beer and wine is fine though, and you could add in a couple signature drinks if you'd like to provide a mixed drink option without having to deal with having everything under the sun available.

The line that stuck out in my mine is "our families are paying for the wedding" that means the other side of the family should be able to enjoy the full bar. If both sides are paying then both have to be able to enjoy. Or rent a portable bar (if the facility doesn't have a real bar" and keep the liquor discretly behind the bar and let the bar tender pour it.

We are doing a full open bar. But, I have considered just doing beer and wine only (it would cost the same) just to control the drinking. We have some heavy drinkers and me and FH are drnkers (and have many crazy nights due to it).

Do what you are most comfortable with!! I'd be totally fine with drinking wine only, and my FH he loves beer.

We are doing beer and wine only. It's a winery so we've got like 6 different types of wines picked out and three different beers

Beer and wine only. 2 types of beer in bottles, 2 types of red, 2 types of white, and a sparkling. I've priced it at a discount store in the area after calculating servings and it'll be $400 or less for 100 people (not all of our 100 guests will drink so we'll have plenty).

Thank you @Shanique. That was my mom's point (they are rum drinkers) when I talked to her about it. I think I will still let it be FH's decision but I will let him see everyone's input (he doesn't really care what his parents think, he has a lot of resentment towards them, but still has a good relationship with them).

I would prefer a full bar, but I could live with wine and beer.

For me wine is more for relaxing, not a celebration.

You will never make everyone happy. Do what makes your budget happy.

We are doing beer and wine. We had a similar situation with my family, but in the end we decided that it would be easiest for us to do a few kegs of great local beer and wine. It is one of those things that in the end will not make or break the wedding in people opinion so do what is most comfortable to you!