"Bad" luck

Do you think your marriage could really be doomed by some nebulous luck from a shopping trip? It's nonsense. If you want him there, take him. If you want the dress to be a surprise, just tell him that.

That's what I've tried to explain to people who tell me "You know that's going to ruin your marriage by him seeing the dress right?." I don't plan on him seeing the actual dress I pick, of course but I mean what's it truly going to hurt to have him come and help me look? I know some people just take stuff like this very seriously and I feel as if most of my family doesn't want to be included because my fiancé wants to be a part of it as well.

I think the whole groom seeing bride = bad luck thing is stupid. It dates back to when the bride's father was selling her to the groom at the wedding and they didn't want the groom changing his mind. I'm trying my best not to show my FH simply because I want it to be a surprise. If you want your FH there, you should absolutely go for it! If your FH is down for spending a few hours looking at dresses why not? You're not the only one around here who has.

Do what you want!! It'll be fun and maybe you might not find your dress right away and it can still be a surprise if you want it to be.

My biggest issue is all my "friends" said they would help and not once have tried. I mean my wedding isn't until 2019 but I don't want to wait until last minute to start planning because they don't understand all the little things and all the big things there is to do for a wedding and right now I'm surely thankful for this app, it's helped a lot! I know my fiancé would be alot of support than anyone else, my family isn't really interested in helping either :/

I don't think that it is a bad luck if your fiance saw your wedding dress. We both went for taking my wedding dress.

Oh Jesus Chancie - I'd ghost on you too. THREE YEARS?! You shouldn't even be dress shopping right now. New styles and collections come out all the time!

At most I would focus on your budget and saving, do a draft guest list and research venues. You could even book a venue to lock in a 2016 or 2017 rate. But for sure it's way too early to go dress shopping. That's probably why they're ignoring you.

You could collect pictures of dress styles you like but don't buy anything. Dress regret is real.

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I'm not dress shopping, it's nothing set in stone it's only me going so I have an idea of what I what so it'll make it easier for me to go dress shopping officially. It's more like browsing because I don't know what style or anything I'm even aiming for, really.

Hi, i actually heard about that but my fiance is the one who actually pick for my wedding dress. Same here, i also dont have a support who can assist me picking my dress cause my family lives in east coast and my MOH and bridesmaid has work. And that superstitious belief is all depends on people, if you want to believe then it will happen. So i think our marriage is base on two people who have faith on each other. Nothing can change our path along the way by this beliefs.

My FH looked at dresses online with me and would say "I like that one" or "That would look good on you", or my favorite, "I would want to rip that off of you the first chance I get".

It was fun getting his ideas and seeing what he imagines, but he hasn't physically gone to any of the shops with me and I haven't shown him pictures of me trying the dresses on.

My mom has made comments about it being bad luck on our marriage but I've asked her multiple times to be a part in helping me browse at dresses and each time I've made appointments to look, she's cancelled on me for something else. I haven't officially chosen any bridesmaids because of my wedding being so far out but some people are already assuming they are already chosen. I've even went as far as asking my grandmother to come along and she didn't want too either. My mother wasn't big on being either for my home comings or my prom either but I thought a wedding being a bigger thing in a girls life would be different but it doesn't seem any different.

I have best friends that so badly wanted to help me plan my wedding but it's like I have no support now.

You have three years so you need to learn this and keep repeating it.

NO ONE WILL BE AS EXCITED FOR YOUR WEDDING AS YOU ARE

It's way too early to look for a dress. It's way too soon to pick your bridal party,

I dont believe in any of that "bad luck" groom seeing dress nonsense.

From someone who has been divorced... my ex did not see my dress nor did we do a first look, nor did we see each other after the rehearsal dinner the night before. With that being said... we obviously are no longer together. All this "bad luck" stuff just boils down to tradition and if you don't care about tradition than throw it all out the window!

I took FH with me to try on dresses. He was in the room, but he did not see a single dress I tried on and I made the decision myself. FH is being more traditional and did not want to see or my dress prior to the ceremony, but I talked him into doing a First Look. I want that time to just be the two of us so he budged, but hair, make-up, dress... he wants to see nothing until that day. Other than that...we'll be sharing our bed the night before also :-)

Maybe just have him see you in all the dresses you decide to try on and don't tell him which one you decide on, that way it's still somewhat of a surprise!

DF went with me. I would happily do it again.

I'm not exactly looking for a dress I'm looking at the ideas so when it gets closer I will know what I want, because as of right now I have no idea what style, line wise, type of dress, or anything that I may want and I would rather start looking now to get some ideas than to wait until the last minute and have to rush to pick a dress at a rush second, I'm just browsing so I have a more of an open mind. Everyone that has found out that my fiancé has wanted to come with me has gave me some kind of crap for it and it's just annoying because I think a relationship would need to go through more than seeing a dress I personally thought it was a little silly but everyone was giving me a third degree about it because I was "breaking a tradition"

I think that since it is so far out, and you don't sound like you are going to "buy" a dress, taking him with you might help you relax and be more comfortable looking at styles that you both like so that when it get closer, you'll have a better understanding of what you do want, and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that.

I just got back from my first day of shopping (SO much to think about!) and there were at least two other brides at David's who were there with their FHs. No one was acting like it was weird at all. So I say go for it, if it'll make you happy.