bachelorette fail :(

I'm sorry you feel let down, but they weren't obligated to do anything at all for you.

Oh, so sorry Hon.

In fairness, you shouldn't have planned it.

But they came, brought you a gift and hopefully you enjoyed some of it.

Learn from it and move on.

ps Nothing is free. You may have paid but it was their time.

Welp.

You shouldn't have planned it, first off. Second, nobody is obligated to come, or pay for things, or stay all night.

You're not entitled to a bachelorette.

I know you're frustration. 6 mo before our Bach party we all decided on a date. 1 mo my MOH and one BM forgot the date we planned and planned it a different date. We were lucky I had just gotten a promotion at work for me to easily switch my days off being the manager but if I hadn't it would have been a bigger deal.

They weren't shooting out ideas even though they wanted to have one. They expected me to plan and I was stressed enough with wedding planning. I ended up eventually saying I couldn't plan it so throw out ideas or we won't have one.

I still ended up having to plan what we were doing because my MOH didn't hear anything from anyone else and had no ideas. Luckily my MOH made calls and reservations everywhere though. I also had to decide times myself.

Then day of I had to pay for everything myself. No one remotely offered to pay. We even had people that weren't from my wedding party there and they didn't offer either. Then when we started drinking everyone else made sure they had rides from their husbands (who were at my now husbands bachelor party). No one offered to drive me home which was 10 min from where we ended the night at so I had to quit drinking before everyone else. I ended up spending over 200 on my own bachelorette. My husband was so pissed off that happened to me because he was able to get plastered, have a ride, and not spend anything. He didn't understand why my girls wouldn't offer especially since majority have been married and to PLENTY of weddings/bachelorette parties before this one to know how things tend to go.

Andrea, case in point why you don't plan your own bach party. Do without, you'll live (and save time and money!).

You are not getting married until October? wondering why you had it already? Do you do anything with these girls on the regular? I think more people are invested in something when you see them all the time and you talk to them regularly.

You don't plan your own bach party. These multi day things are, honestly, unnecessary and over the top.

You're all at fault; you shouldn't have planned it and they shouldn't have said yes if they didn't want to go.

This is why you dont plan your own. If they were interested they would've thrown you one. Lesson learned.

I am very disappointed of my MOH and BM also, for many reasons, I understand they don't have to do anything for the Bride but just show up, but what is the point to have them , be honest I thought they were suppose help when we need, be there for us and not just look pretty at the altar, I though that was a team and not a just a model of the day of the wedding, that is how I feel even if I am wrong. I understand many say they have to spend money in a dress, but what about our guests I am sure most off also spend money , today They don't care, don't do anything if needs to spend $ and don't care about it , sad but it is true.

So you have the right to feel this way, they just showed you how much they care. I am sorry!!

You didn't have to plan anything. You chose to plan it. If they couldn't get together to plan a party for you I am not sure why you had such high expectations for the night. Have a one day pity party and move on.

If nobody was planning for you then you probably should have taken the hint that nobody had the time/money to do a bachelorette. It sucks, I'm not having one either but nobody has any time. I'm planning to treat myself to a spa day instead.

Cecilia, they are there because they are honored people, to stand by your side as you wed your husband. Its not a team. The wedding team consists of 2 people, you and your FH.

Well if they were interested in going to your bachelorette then they would have thrown you one. This is why you don't plan a party in honor of yourself.

I think these Bach parties are another waste of $ and time. Go out to lunch when all can do it.

OG Kathryn we all have what they call the modern Bridesmaids, Back on the day , was more like a team, participation etc... tradition changes for sure.

They can help, if they offer, they aren't required to and never were.

Cecilia, I was going to respond but OGK said it on point, as usual.

Of course they can help , but if you all do a research about Bridesmaids , you will understand how was years ago, and their duties, what I am saying is to bad today it is not like that anymore.

They are only required to be there for the day of.

@Cecilia will you be disappointed in your husband the same way when he doesn't help stuff invitations or plan any pre wedding parties. Or is that 'honor' only reserved for your so called friends. Maybe they are disappointed in you. Instead of treating them like friends you have decided they should be your modern bridesmaids aka glitter slaves