Baby at my wedding - she didn't even ask

View Quoted Comment Agreed. It literally doesn't effect anything other than he MIGHT get fussy. If you're so against children, you best expect her not to be there plain and simple. I couldn't imagine my wedding without kids, let alone without my nieces and nephews, or best friends babies.

View Quoted Comment You do understand not all mothers can pump extra I have worked with many families who have to get donor breast milk or just to been able to produce enough to pump. Pumping takes a lot of time, effort, and energy even for mothers who can produce enough.

If it’s a friend of 20 years she probably assumed she didn’t even need to ask for permission and that you, her friend, would just understand. It’s a baby - you don’t have to feed him, babysit him, or entertain him. His presence will probably go unnoticed by you anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️

As a mom to two toddler (3 & 5) whom I breastfed, if I couldn’t bring my baby then I wouldn’t attend. Baby’s bond during that time and to them a single day is more like a month, also pumping enough milk to keep her child fed while she’s at your wedding is A LOT of work for an exclusively breastfed baby! I’d either eliminate her and possibly destroy your friendship or gladly embrace her bringing her infant. No one is going to care about a baby attending. And your other parent guests will understand.

View Quoted Comment Again! Scenarios are being made up to defend your stanvr

It seems like you’re more annoyed about her not asking than the fact that she’s bringing him. Try to assume best intentions. She probably figured babies were not an additional cost/seat and knows her baby’s temperment well enough to know if he can sleep through noise. It’s so hard being a mom and it sounds like she’s doing everything she can to be there to celebrate your big day. If you’re worried about other parents being mad, just know that most guests understand that an infant is different than a child. Not every mom can pump, not every baby takes to a bottle. If this friendship is important to you, then yes it is necessary to let him come.

View Quoted Comment Stance. We can only go with the facts we see

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She probably didn't think to ask because she assumed you would be a little more empathetic about her wanting her nursing newborn there. Also you asked us this, "Is it absolutely necessary for this friend to bring her child?" This is up to the mother of the child. If she feels that it is necessary to bring her newborn, which apparently she does, you should respect her wishes or ask her not to attend the wedding if that doesn't fit your vision.

View Quoted Comment This!!!!👆👆👆

View Quoted Comment I agree I’m not even a mother yet but I hate how people expect mothers to go out of their way to please others instead of allowing them to take care of their child.

View Quoted Comment I Agree with this! I know wedding planning is stressful but come on it’s a 3 month old!

It sounds like she's trying to make it work the best she can to be there for your wedding and care for her child. While I agree that newborns are an exception to the no kids rule, you have the right to stand your ground and not allow her to bring her baby, and she has the right to decline to attend. If you don't let her bring the baby and she decides not to attend due to the difficulties and inconvenience that will cause her, you don't have the right to be upset with her for her choice. A wedding vision is not more important than doing what is best for her and her child.