"B-List" Invites....or second round invites

Oops. I went away for a long time.

@ Erin: Yes, that's what I'm saying, transparency with your friends. I'm really open with people and it works for me. Especially in OP's situation, I don't think B-listing is bad. Sometimes it's a matter of real world practicality. In the ideal world all of us would be rich enough (or whatever limitations you face) to invite EVERYONE. I think if you're honest with people, if you're humble and if you try your best to be respectful, then it's ok. FYI: I'm not b-listing, these are just my thoughts.

Also, I was wondering about PPD as well, thanks for clearing that up!

Awww...Michelle so nice to see you back with your uplifting posts : )

Michelle, it must be really exhausting trying to be so pretentious and perfect. So when you party with your friends, do you harass them if they don't hold their wine glasses properly?

Yeah I don't see the big deal with B listing either. If aunt whoever that I didn't necessarily want to have there anyway says that she isn't coming and it frees up a space for a friend that I would have liked to invite but couldn't because of capacity limits I am going to invite my friend. I don't understand how it is selfish to pay an extra $80 for a person that you want there to celebrate with you just because they were invited later than others.

Given your situation and that the "b-listers" are local, I say go for it. The more the merrier! If someone is offended, so be it. All you can do is explain your situation and if people don't get it, that's on them. PPD or not, this is your day with your SO to celebrate your marriage. I hate when people call a "fake re-do wedding" - it isn't that at all. It is your celebration of your union. I'm getting married in Mexico, and we're actually getting married here in the states but having the ceremony down there with our family. That day will our wedding day. That will be the anniversary we celebrate. It is our day to celebrate with our loved ones. You know in your heart and those who care about you will not view it as a fake redo. Eff that noise.

You do you!

My feelings when it comes to weddings is thats its your day, do what you want. Guests can decline or leave at any point. If they are really that offended by something you do, they could even never talk to you again. If you are ok with those consequences, then do what you want. You can't make everyone happy. THOSE WHO MATTER DON'T MIND AND THOSE WHO MIND DONT MATTER. Great wedding planning motto.

^^well said!

100% agree with the motto. If there are people at my wedding nitpicking at little things, I will be disappointed only in the fact that I invited them instead of someone who would have really enjoyed it.

OH LOOK YOU GUYS. WE'VE MADE THE KNOT. Because this is how bored they are. http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1018143/i-just-can-t-today-ww-b-list#latest

@ Jenn - PPD stands for Pretty Princess Day. It means that the couple has been married by a JOP or eloped and then they throw another wedding with a ceremony, big reception, and all the "traditional" traditional things (first dance, bridesmaids, cake cutting, etc).

Sometimes they tell their guests beforehand that they are already married, sometimes they "surprise" the guests AFTER the ceremony ("SURPRISE! We've been married for a year!!")

Edit: Oops, I didn't realize there was a 3rd page before I responded. I see that someone has already answered Jenn.

@Michelle - "..there was a **special** reason the couple HAD to get married at the JOP"

Why do you put "special" between asterisks? In Anna's case.. she really did HAVE to get married, or else she'd be kicked out of the country. Should she either A) Plan the massive wedding that she has always dreamed of in a very short period of time or B) Do a quick civil ceremony, inform all her family members/friends of doing this, then throw the wedding of her dreams a little later?

LOL..... I'm glad I never bothered to go onto TK...

@Marbles - the answer sweet Michelle will give you is C) she should suck it up and plan around her circumstances "because that's life", even if it means just a JOP and nothing else. I am 100% serious, that is probably what she will say.

On topic, I just B-listed two coworkers.

Technically it isn't B-listing since none of the invitations have been sent yet. But they were not on the original guest list.

LMAO at TK post! Dem bitches...

Well I'll be the one to say it..

"It's ur wedding do wat u want gurl! At least you're inviting them!"

Naw for real though personally I'm not against B lists and I have been B listed before.

Lol@ theKnot...whatever girls...worry about you.

SunshineJenn- It's not obvious. The OP never said anywhere if her guests knew that they were already married. . . she only said they had Visa issues so they got married.

If everyone already knows they are married, I see no harm, no foul. But I wouldn't B-list- that's always rude whether it's for a wedding or a PPD.

Saw the follow-up comment- OP's family and friends know she is already married, good! I'm fine with PPDs as long as the guest know in advance that the couple is already married and they aren't being invited to an actual wedding,

OP, still wouldn't B-list though. You may end up hurting people's feelings.

HAHA the knot, that cracks me up! And all their comments, wow! Give me a break!

TK = Trolls.