Awkward Bridesmaid Decisions

Hopefully OP and Symone are both trolls.

All I envisioned was my nearest and dearest up there with me.

My MOH texted me the night before the wedding telling me she was pregnant and the dress still fit. If it didn't, I was going to let her know to wear what's comfortable and stand with me anyway. They are my friends and family, not props. I was so excited she was pregnant again I just didn't care! In fact I kept joking I gained an escort for her.

Not sure if this post is real or the WW admins trolling us to see how well we treat each other on 'Wednesday's...

I hope you really aren't considering not including her based on appearance. This is one of the most horrific posts I have ever read on here.

The only thing awkward here is your attitude.

Personally, I would like OP to clarify before jumping down her throat.

Let's all imagine for a minute that maybe this women doesn't shower often, or brush her hair or teeth and this type of appearance is what OP meant.

Wow

No, @danielle, there is no justification for speaking in this manner about someone. It's rude and disgusting.

@Danielle, she's still bringing her issues with her hygiene/appearance to an internet forum full of strangers.

When people discuss my appearance or their opinions on my appearance behind my back, I'm not exactly thrilled with them. As an alternative/darkly-inclined person, I'm used to it and (depending on what/how what was said), it's water off a duck's back. However, not everyone is like that when people say mean things about them, and it's super hurtful.

It's not even her appearance, she's also criticizing her personality as well.

We've had users who discussed their friends and family on here, only for that person or someone who knows that person to call them out for talking badly about someone behind their back.

Imagine for a second if her FSIL saw this. If I were in her shoes, I'd be utterly embarrassed.

However she meant it, what clearly came across was that her FSIL's demeanor and appearance are enough for her to not want her in her bridal party; that reads as painfully vain and shallow.

ETA: Clarity

I thought she meant she is really awkward and a "Daria" type person and isn't in the mental shape or motivation to look happy on the outside. If you meant physical, well then I have no words for you. I know plenty of those awkward "Daria" type people I wouldn't want to publicly present themselves because they show it on the outside how much they don't care, so I understand. If you meant plus size, I've seen some dang cute plus sized women.

@Danielle - So a case of perpetual bad hair days is an excuse for a nasty attitude?

Sorry, try again.

@Zoeii - I think you completely missed the point of Daria...

Also, I'd just like to add that considering this thread was posted in the wee morning hours, I'm hoping the odds are right about this being a troll post.

My blood pressure is so high after reading this thread.

OP, do your FSILs a favor and don't ask them to be in your BP. To the others who agree with OP, congratulations on reaching a level of vanity I didn't know existed. This whole thing about picking a BP based on appearance is disgusting and you should be ashamed of yourself.

When people support this nonsense, but you don't wanna get sent to the chokey

There are some unapologetically shallow people in this world!!! I can't say all that what I would like to say but OP you need a serious attitude adjustment!

@Jay. I was seriously thinking this would be worth being sent to the chokey. I'm like two more comments away....

I understand all the comments posted at me and you're all entitled to your opinion. But what makes you guys think it's okay to judge her for calling someone names and giving them poor adjectives, and yet you're doing the same to the lady who posted it?

I apologize if I hurt anyone's feelings, but if think if she feels that way she should be honest. I don't agree with how she feels, but then and yet I haven't thought of anyone in my wedding party that way and haven't been in the same situation.

I have had a bride tell me along with the rest of her bridal party about how to watch our weight along with other things. I didn't see her as wrong, maybe she was, but I didn't take it to heart and watched my weight to ensure I fit my dress properly.

No one is going to flag you, lord have mercy, calm down lol. Well tell her to be nice and lie, overlook it. Just be proud of yourself for being such a caring and loving person. You're comments paint you as a MUCH better person than her. Let her do as she pleases, you don't have to agree with it, like I've said. Do you feel better?

The difference between calling someone out for their behavior and talking poorly about a soon-to-be family member behind their back is so obvious that I'm not even going to repeat myself again, nor should anyone else have to.

FFS.