Attire Etiquette: Asking guests to dress in a specific color

No. Do not do this.

Let your adults adult. Your wedding is not a costume party.

ETA: If you dress everyone in black, it will look like a funeral. Your wedding photos will look like "that time we invited everyone to celebrate with us, but also may have been honoring someone's passing."

You are not Beyonce, and your guests are not props.

If I were invited, I wouldn't mind. I love black.

No. Guests are not photo props, don't treat them as such.

Nope - if i was going to a wedding and had to wear a certain color I would be annoyed

I think pictures will look better when people get to dress how they want.

If you have them all wear black it would remind me of a funeral

Please don't do this. Your family and friends are not photo props. Also, on the very likely chance that a handful of guests don't take it seriously or forget, they will feel incredibly uncomfortable.

I have a ton of little black dresses, so I personally wouldn't mind. But honestly - a lot of people will forget or not read the information, and I think it's a little much to ask.

I highly don't recommend that. Expressing the type of attire is one thing. Requesting a specific color is a totally different thing. If I as a guest was told I had to wear a specific color, I would probably decline the invitation. I understand wanting pictures to look "uniform", but wouldn't you rather your pictures look natural? I feel like guests wearing a variety of colors would look more like an actual celebration and less like a rehearsed scene.

Nope. We were asked to wear "neutral" colors to a wedding once. Neutral means different things to different people. Either way, I totally forgot about it and wore a blue dress because I liked it and it made me feel good.

No. I got a wedding invite (as a guest) which stipulated that I wear white.

I live in NYC. We don't wear white.

I didn't go.

Princess C - Haha Thank you for reminding me that I am not Beyoncé. The multiple personality thing is a little hard to reel in from time to time.

You cannot control what other adults wear. You have some say/input as to what the BP wears, but not your guests FFS.

We received a save the date with alink to their appycouple site with this:

DRESS CODE

As you probably know, Texas weather is unpredictable. It may rain or be super hot. Be fancy, but not at the expense of comfort.

Ladies!

Our venue will have you walking on grass, gravel and concrete, so please bring shoes that will accommodate the terrain. If you'd like to match our venue colors, check out the colors below.

MATCH THE WEDDING PARTY WITH THESE COLORS (pallette)

...OR MATCH THE VENUE WITH THESE COLORS! (pallette)

Thank you! That was my thought, I don't know that as an adult I would appreciate being told what to wear (however, I also have little black dresses for days as some of you pointed out). It didn't sit right with me. Now I have some backup to show FH.

No prob, just gotta keep egos in check around here sometimes

@Tina BoBina - that's nuts!! Why would I want to match the venue??

WWL, I was wondering if this was an actual thing.

ps I will be 60, I'll wear what I want (in good taste of course)!

I don't really have an awful lot of dressy clothing. So if you requested a certain color, chances are I would have to go out and buy something and I hate feeling forced into buying something. I definitely wouldn't do this to your guests. You will not have a better time just because your guests match.

Some trends need to die quickly.....this is one of them. Expectations should never be placed on the guest accept to show up on time.

I know I'm going to sound like an asshole, but I'm really just trying to be honest . . . I wouldn't mind buying a black dress (I often buy new dresses for weddings anyway, and you're right that I would get good use out of it), but I would roll my eyes at you. It feels pretentious and kind of immature, like a college party striving for a clever theme.