Attendees

View Quoted Comment He had a college class with them. He doesn't see them outside of that. No parties, cookouts, hangouts. Nothing.
The reason why he wants to invite them is because he just recently saw them. They were not on his list before that.

If we went by that rule our wedding guest list would be less than half the size that it is. Both of us have many people we are close to that the other hasn't met. Just because you don't know them doesn't mean they aren't close to your partner.

Of our guest list, probably 1/3 are people we both know and have hung out with many multiple times, another 1/3 are people close to one of us that the other has met before but that they don't really have a strong relationship, and 1/3 are people the other has NEVER met but that are really important to one of us. Most of my closest friends are not local and as such my FH has maybe met them a handful of times at most. If we only went with people we both see regularly it would end up being all of his friends and none of mine.

I am conflicted. Most of our people invited are very close people in our lives, I did let him invite some of his friends that we have only seen once in the past 4 years and never talk to anymore. After inviting all of our close loved ones, I saw we still had room on our guest list, just because they get an invite doesn't mean they will come, and overall made him happy . Hope this helps. Good Luck!

I have plenty of friendships where I've gone long periods without talking to them and still invited them. It's your FHs day too!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. It really is dependent on the size of your guest list. If you want it small then I would question it. If you have a larger guest size then I would be open to it.

You should allow him to make them be part of his special day as well. The guys all they want for us is to be happy through out the entire process we might as well allow them to invite a couple of people they want. My fiancé and I divided the amount of people we are planning to have at our wedding. We have to compromise.

Your use of “**I**” and “**my**” are alarmingly Bridezillaish in this context. It is not just YOUR wedding, it is both of yours.


My fiancé has invited some of his friends that I’ve never met. And I have invited some of my friends that he hasn’t met yet.
I’m confident that we will like everyone once we have had the chance to meet. I think it’s obnoxious TBH to insist that you should veto some of his friends just because you have not met them yet.