Attendees

It’s two people. Two people aren’t going to be what breaks your budget. This is one compromise I would give in on and let him invite his friends. Clearly if he’s asking they mean a lot to him. You can’t always be a sticker with the rules as life is full of grey areas.

My FH has never met my 2 best friends from high school and through college. I have kept in touch with them fairly consistently but he has never met them. The wife is one of my bridesmaids and for purposes of the wedding, i'm making the husband my brother, complete with cuffs. I still havent met one of his groomsmen or said groomsman's +1. If they are important to him, they should be there. Its his wedding too. Just because you haven't met them doesn't mean they haven't been an important part of his life.

I definitely agree. I will never forget this video o watched by Jamie Wolfed on YouTube mentioning that you’re paying for these guests . If you wouldn’t pay from them when you go out to a restaurant, you might want to consider inviting them. You will have plus ones but there shouldn’t be ransoms inviting random people

As others have said, it's his wedding too. Just because they don't mean anything to you doesn't mean the same to him. I wouldn't even bother asking him why he wants to invite him. He said he wanted them there, that's all you need to know.


There are plenty of people on my FHs dads side who I have never met before coming to our wedding..and his mom's friend who is his godmother. I didn't think twice about it.

My fiancé and I agreed that if we hadn't spoken to someone within 6 months to a year, they wouldn't be invited. We have a small guest list of 40 and we know everyone there. All very close friends and family - exactly how WE want it. We're not even allowing plus ones - of course the married couples and our friends who have a significant other are allowed, thankfully we're all friends. It's our day, and I'm not allowing anyone who hasn't been by our sides recently, or anyone I don't know, attend my wedding. Definitely discuss with your fiancé!

What if the situation were reversed and you had two friends he didn't know? Would you want him to dictate that you can't invite them because he doesn't know them? You don't both have to know everyone at your wedding as long as one of you feel close enough with them to invite him. You said "I don't want to invite people to my wedding..." Its not just your wedding. It's his too and he should be able to invite 2 people he wants there. My FH is inviting some people I've never met or he hasn't seen in awhile but they're important to him so they should be there.

We had a few of these people on my fiancé’s list. A lot of the people he wanted to invite that I’ve never met or we don’t see were “well, I know they won’t show but I think if we don’t send an invite it might be rude or hurt their feelings.” After that discussion we went through the list and asked ourselves 1. Would I miss this person at the wedding? 2. Do I really want them there or is this an “I feel obligated to invite this person invite. 3. Would I invite this person to a dinner/want to eat dinner with them? If no, they weren’t added to the list. Some were a few of my cousins who bring nothing but drama, friends/acquaintances we just aren’t close with, or cousins who he’s not seen in years and years or I’ve not met just because they live so far away. All of them have been married and not invited us, not that it was a deciding factor. It just was a little comforting in knowing that they will completely get why they didn’t receive an invite or that they probably won’t even give it a thought.

My fiancé is inviting some people who I have never met, but they are special to him, and I am inviting friends that he has not gotten the chance to meet until the wedding. Obviously everyone has different opinions on this, but I think people should be able to invite who they want, as long as it doesn’t inflate your guest list too much. People don’t need to have close relationships with both of you to be invited, in my opinion!

I think if they’re not important enough I wouldn’t have them. That’s just two more people you now need to feed and more people you need to entertain

I totally see your POV. I would prefer only the closest people in my life to be at my wedding also (especially when it’s costing $75/head! Lol). Have you asked your FS how important these people are to him? Or if there is a reason he want s them there? If it’s important to him, then I would invite them. It’s your spouse’s wedding also, and I’m sure you would want him to feel just as important on your big day

I think this all depends on the size of your wedding. If y'all start having to cut mutual friends to invite these people that you don't even know, I would confront him and ask if it's something y'all could change. If there's room then I'd say it's also his wedding and he must have a reason for wanting them to come. I barely know any of my FH's coworkers (and vise versa) but they're still invited.

You could ask him to pay for his guests and you pay for yours.
I think inviting people from throughout your life is fine, different time frames, different friendships etc

If FH invited them then they must be somewhat important. Mine invited a couple I've never met before but I conceded. Most times, they might not even attend anyway.

I’ll ask him why he wants to invite them and why is so important to him? Maybe he feels close and connected to them in a way you don’t. I do think if you’re having a close wedding you should have people that are close and important to you but maybe they are to him even if they’re not to you. I’ll get more insight and personally I think he should be able to have his friends there.

We are having people I met maybe twice but they’re important to my fiancé since he grew up with them and mean something to them. I’m sure there are those that you may feel important to be at your wedding that he doesn’t feel close to.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely this.

My husband thought about inviting someone he went to college with. I felt weird about it considering they haven’t spoken in over 5 years and I know nothing about them except them doing what guys in college do. He decided against it because he saw my point. Why invite someone out of the blue to the biggest day of our lives? But if they’ve kept in touch and etc,. It’s up to y’all. You definitely have a say in it, but I wouldn’t straight up turn it down without discussing it first.

My fiancé is inviting people that I don’t know and haven’t meet. And same for me. I have people in my list he wasn’t sure who they were. It can’t be one sided on who gets to say who comes. Everyone should have their list.

I think a huge part is the size of your wedding. Intimate gathering, I'd question why he wants them there. the bigger the gathering the more I lean towards "just let them be invited". In the least talk to him. Also, realize that the day isn't only about you.

Thing is our grooms don't ask for much and if he wants to invite 2 ppl you should be okay with it due to the FACT it's his wedding too.