Attendees

If your fiancé wants to invite them, they should be invited. Everyone invited doesn't have to have a close relationship with both of you. They must be somewhat important to him if he wants them to be at his wedding.

I agree. We are only inviting our inner most circle and not any “just because“ guests. Is there a reason why your FH wants to invite them? I guess the good thing is that it’s only two guests and not 20.

You have to keep in mind it's his wedding too. Maybe he feels close them and that's why he wants them there.

I think if they are important enough for him to say he wants to invite them- let him. He has just as much right to add who he wants as you do. There must be a reason why he wants them, ask him, if it makes you feel better....
Maybe this is a good place for you all to begin to hang out and do things more often?

Weddings, just like relationships, are about compromise. There's people coming to our wedding I've never met, but it's important to FH for them to be there. There's people my FH has never met that I invited. If they're important to your FH, I would strongly suggest inviting them!

My fiance is from another state but now lives here in the same state as i. I have yet to even meet his sister or his best friends, all of whom are in our wedding party, let alone the guests he wants to invite. If that's what going to make him happy and feel a part of our wedding, he is more than welcome to do so. There are a lot of my family he has not met either. I'd be devastated if he said, "YOU CANT INVITE YOUR AUNT CUZ I DONT KNOW HER." I say, let him. As the others said, "it's his wedding, also."

I agree with PPs. There are going to be quite a few people at my wedding that I never met before in my life (also because we are currently living in another country, but that was also the case when we only lived in another state). These people, nonetheless are important enough to my FH to be invited. So I'd say let him. You don't want him resenting you for this and then not enjoy the wedding as much.

Agreeing with the masses— remember that it’s your fiancé’s wedding too. It seems for some reason they’re important enough to him for him to want them there, so instead of thinking ‘don’t know them, don’t want them there’ id instead suggest maybe trying to get together with them before the wedding to get to know them a bit better and get more comfortable with them. Between plus ones and extended family, it’s actually pretty common to end up with a few guests you may not know well— I met a couple of my husband’s guests for the first time on our wedding weekend, and it didn’t take anything away from my wedding experience. Even though they were strangers, they were important to him, so their presence became important to me.

Deciding on the guest list is tough. I also had this mindset, I really only wanted people there I knew, that we both new. Of course my circle is tiny so he knows everyone but his is huge so yes there certainly was people there that I did not know. Have a conversation with him, if it is really making you feel that uncomfortable talk to him about it, ask the question, "would you feel awkward if you bumped into them post wedding after not inviting him?" If his answer is yes then you have to consider this, as this is his wedding too. Maybe try and meet them beforehand to ease how you feel?

There’s several people at our wedding who my husband had never met before our wedding day lol. They were people who are important to me but due to living far away / busy schedules, he unfortunately hadn’t had a chance to meet.


Though I think this depends on the size of your wedding too. If it’s an intimate 20-50 person wedding or something then there probably shouldn’t be people you don’t know very well. But if you have a medium to large wedding I don’t think you both need to be close with every single guest, as long as one of you is.

It's two people, it that really worth a debate if your FH wants them there? You have to choose your battles.

I can see your view because you feel you want to share the moment with people present in your life. But perhaps your partner wants to just share in the moment with other people. My husband did the same and I let him since that's his part of the guest list

In my opinion, it’s your FH’s wedding too. If they are important to him, they should be invited.

I agree with pps that it is also your fiance's wedding too, and he can add some folks to the list that he wants there. There are plenty of people on our guest list that my fiance has never met.

My side is more prevalent over my fiance's, and there's even some family that I'll be seeing for the first time, like uncle's spouses, etc.

I don’t know all 75 people on FHs guest list. However, those are his family and friends. It’s his wedding too and I can’t dictate who he wishes to support him on that day. If he finds that they’re important enough to invite there really shouldn’t be an issue.

I agree that it’s his wedding too, if he wants to invite 2 people you don’t know very well I would try to get to know them.
I initially felt the same way you did and didn’t want my fiancé to invite someone i didn’t know who he used to be very close friends with but doesn’t see much anymore. It was important to him that she was invited and he went out of his way to have her and I meet and all spend a day together. I liked her a lot and she’s now invited to the wedding. But even if i didn’t like her, it is his wedding too and he should have an equal say in the guest list. Inviting an extra person or two people to a wedding isn’t a huge deal, unless of course it’s an intimate 15 person wedding.
See if you can meet them and take it from there

While I agree that I’d prefer only people we are close to, and that’s what we agreed on, I think your “I feel that the people I invite to my wedding,” sentence is off. It’s his wedding too, and I think unless you have a great reason for not wanting them there, he should invite them if he wants to.

I feel like if your fiance wants them there he should be able to because like in other comments it's his wedding as well and should be able to share that special step with whoever he or even you want even if u both may not know them.

During the guest list process, we made an agreement. If we haven't seen them or spoken to them in a year, they were not invited. If your fiance talks to or sees these people on a regular basis, you don't have to know them. They are your fiance's friends and this is also your fiance's wedding.

I don't see a reason not to let him invite them. It is only 2 people and if they are important for him to want to invite, then he should be able to invite them. It is both of your wedding. Everyone you want to invite, he might not know well and vice versa. It is a special day for the both of you.