Asking people to be in your wedding when it's a Destination Wedding?

My MoH lives in London and we god married in DC. I paid for hair and makeup, but that's really negligible compared to her paying for 3 plane tickets (her, husband, child), and almost a week in a hotel.

I let her choose her dress and shoes. If you have a larger BP that may become difficult. My MoH checked with me if I liked the dress, but I really wanted her to get what she liked. So she chose a cocktail dress that she really can wear again. So that was the dress, hair and makeup. As far as the hassle goes, I didn't expect her to do anything for the wedding. The tickets and hotel were of course expensive, but she knew that when she agreed to be a MoH.

So make things as simple for them as you can.

We only have a MOH and Best Man in the wedding.

Before we even got engaged, we had decided to get married in Florida. I first asked my parents if that was ok, then his mom and bro/sil if they could (afford to) travel. I then talked to my MOH and asked if she'd be willing to travel to Florida and be my MOH, that I understand if it was too much.

The dress I picked was $70, I don't care about shoes, and if you WANT them to have their hair styled, you should pay for it. My MOH will probably not spend the money to have her hair styled, and that's perfectly fine.

We asked our wedding party in advance even before we sent out the Save the Dates. We also gave them a million and one travel options along we an opt out date. FH had his guys purchase suits instead of renting tuxes. I found my BMs dress at J Crew and with the sale, coupon and free shipping their $300 dresses were only $43. We were able to reserve a 4bd condo for them to split instead of hotel accommodations that is less than $30/day for each of them.

We've tried to take on all little expenses that have a tendency to add up on your wedding party.

We are having a full bridal party with a DW to an all inclusive in Jamaica. We each have 4 people standing with us. We were very clear from the beginning that we wanted them to share in our day and be there with us but it was completely up to them. We are not paying for any of their costs but made sure they knew what to expect from the beginning. They are all really excited for the vacation really.

Great job on the dresses Mek Mek.

I am also having a full bridal party. We chose a destination that people could to drive to (albeit a long drive for some but at least they can drive.) Honestly I have found that if people want to be a part of your day, they'll do it. If something comes up and they are unable to be a part of your day then ok, things happen. I am also not worried about shoes, hair etc. But weddings are expensive, destination or not.