Asking for wedding stuff for bday and Christmas?

Not being too judgey. That's rude. Pretty tacky. And werid AF.

I honestly think that that's really weird lol

I don't think it's rude if someone asked what do you want for Christmas or your birthday... if anyone asks me I'm probably going to ask for something for my wedding that's reasonably priced too

If they just flat out say I want you to get this for me for my wedding then yes that's rude but If someone asks it might as well be something you actually need & can cross off the long list of wedding things

I don't see anything wrong with that. It's her birthday if someone is asking what she wants and all she wants or needs is wedding related who cares? I got a crock pot for Christmas last year, if it would have been this year would it have been any different because it's something I could have registered for?

I agree with Mallory. I've had much stranger Birthday and Christmas requests. Personally, it sounds like the bride is just being realistic

I think it's different. If it's something she wants and needs, and someone asked her what she wants for those two holidays then fine. If she's going around spouting off about how she wants these things and someone should get them for her then it would be tacky.

I find it weird to tell people what you want for Christmas/Birthday if they didnt ask. But if people have asked and she is telling them wedding stuff, I think that is fine. Eta: clarity

I mean, why are you even asking for birthday and Christmas gifts as an adult? And why are you asking your friends for them?

That said, if my mother asked what I wanted for my birthday, I wouldn't hesitate to tell her I want a pair of earrings for the wedding. Don't see what's tacky about that.

Agree @elizabeth k! For friends that's weird... if her parents asked her I don't see anything wrong with that

I'm going to say that that is super weird. My friends and family should not be funding my wedding.. which is what this feels like. My thoughts: if you can't afford your wedding, then push it back.

I agree with @Mrs.Art. Asking friends to purchase decorations for your wedding as your Christmas present? I personally think that's strange.

Is it a friend? I don't exchange gifts with anyone but my immediate family for birthdays or Christmas so if one of them asked for wedding stuff I wouldn't care.

I didn't know adults bought their friends birthday and Christmas presents.

I hate when people ask what I want for holiday gifts! It just seems weird to me, like if I know someone well enough to buy them a gift I don't need them to tell me what to buy them. But for family I don't think her request is weird- for birthdays this year DHs parents asked us if we wanted them to take $$ they would've spent on gifts and give it to us for our wedding funds. That was their gift to us. But we didn't tell them "Hey we want $ for our birthdays" I would especially feel weird about that if it was a friend telling me what they wanted.

I don't think it's rude if the person is being asked what they want for their birthday or Christmas. If they're just saying it's what they want when no one is asking that's when it's rude

I'm asking for my wedding day perfume and a pretty lace robe to get ready in from my fiancé. I don't think it's weird to tell people you're really close with what you want. Every year my parents want a list and my fiancé always wants ideas too. Friends and extended family I wouldn't ask though.

That's rude unless it's your immediate family. Like my sister asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I asked for assistance with my wedding dress. But 1) it's my sister, and 2) she offered me a gift

My FMIL actually found our registry before we had told anyone about it and got me stuff off there for my birthday. At first I thought it was kinda weird but then realized it was actually pretty smart. So if people are asking her what she wants I don't see any problem with it, but if she is going out of her way to tell people to do that when no one is asking I would find that rude.

My mom wanted to know what we want for Christmas. I told her to look at our registry.

I agree with another PP, if it was your immediate family that you were asking, then it may not be so weird. But if you are telling your friends to get you this stuff, then I would find it odd. My group of friends don't even get each other anything for birthday's anymore. We're adults, so we usually go out to dinner and pay for the person, but no gifts usually.

I don't do gifts with friends so with it being family.. sure why not.